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I met this pretty Jamaican girl sometimes in august last year during my skool orientation. we got talking and i noticed she was the quiet type. i didn't want to rush things as i had just met her, so i decided to take it slow. we exchanged phone numbers that day.

we got to know each other as time went by. even though i didn't understand half of what she said due to her jamaican accent, we still talked. her classes and mine were usually the same period, and most of the time her classes ended well before mine did, so i just got to see her every other day. we still kept in touch thru phone though.

one thursday evening, she gave me a call and told me her laptop wasn't working properly. i told her to bring it to skool the following day for me to have a look. when i couldn't find a solution to it, i suggested she bring it the fllowing monday so that we would take it to the ICT center together. she agreed and we parted.

ever since that day i never saw her. i tried calling her several times, she douldn't pick up. i sent her a couple of voice mails and emails, she didn't reply. the last mail i sent to her was on her bday, but since i didn't hear anything from her, i assumed she may have left the skool.

this evening, i was in the computer lab checking my emails when i saw someone who I thot was her. I stood up and walked towards her. When I got there, our eyes met and lo and behold, it was her!!! I felt this anger begin to simmer in the pit of my stomach. Immediately she saw me, she took her eyes away. I simply walked away without saying anything.

Ever since I saw her this evening, I have been having this angry feeling inside me. I know I shouldn’t, but I dnt knw why. Even if she didn’t want to be my friend, at least she should have told me.

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like i mentioned b4, i didn't show any anger when i saw her, our eyes just met for a second and she took hers away. i just simply walked away. it was much later that i started feeling the anger brewing.

nd how would i have made a move on a girl who just vanished without a trace?

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yeah i guess. not worth the stress like tai2 said.

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move on ,nd next tim if u see her dnt show ur anger on her she might probably see gud reasons that she shouldnt be avoiding u,,,since u didnt make a move

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she was born in 1985 (according to her profile page on the skool website), so she was about to turn 25 years old when i met her.

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Maybe she was interested, but just did not see a future in it.

How old was she?

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U think so? maybe pple have different ways of saying things and this might have been her own version, which i count as immature anyway.

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I understand, the anger is justified

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@Poster, some times things are not plain and simple.

   This may have had nothing to do with her not liking you, she may have thought the cultural differences may have been too much.

   She may have decided to stop taking your calls to avoid wasting anymore of your time.

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You're angry because you feel like you were deficient in some way, like you weren't good enough. She didn't dig you plain and simple, that's her loss, not yours. How many billion women are there on this planet anyway?

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LOL MAN THE Bleep UP!!!!

You screwed up by bombarding her with calls, emails and voicemails etc. You should have just called her once and that's it. She's clearly leading you by your d*ck, and like a sucker you're taking the bait.

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Maybe u did not pass her test. She wanted to know whether u re very good wit computers, even wit mechanical faults. But u didn't pass. So move on!

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i had already forgotten abt her until i saw her today. u know that angry feeling that comes up when u realize someone who u thot may have vanished without a trace or word suddenly appears out of the blue, and doesn't seem to care whether ure feelings are hurt or not.

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Funny, I have a very very similar story. A girl I met during orientation too, we hung out a few times and she actually once asked me what I wanted from her (even though she had a bf). At some point, I  never saw her again, I also wasn't able to get through to her. But anyway, 2 semester later, she calls me and she told me had to take a break from school, she was having some issues. Nowadays we're very close, she calls me a lot, loves being around me and I hold her in high regards too. No relationship though, she feels like a sister at this point and I'm sure she sees me as a brother too.

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I dnt think so. the loss of communication happened way back in october, and i just saw her today since the last time. so we are talking abt 6 months.

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some girls act foolishly. . . .maybe she will eventually come to her senses and then apologize? time shall tell

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and yeah, i felt i could eventually date her at some point, but didn't want to rush things.

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I wasn’t bombarding her with emails or anything. The fact that there was no word or anything from her with no apparent reason made we wonder what was up.

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awww! oh well, first and foremost:

Let her be, you calling and sending emails might send the wrong fibes. . .

Secondly, you are angry because you've either missed her, have feelings for her, or you dont know what it is. its good the way you walked away from her! just wait and see what the future holds wiv u both!

wiv what youve said, i dont think she is all dat! but hey, dats just my opinion!

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It is normal for you to be curious when someone just starts avoiding you. You want to know why, what you did and what she's thinking. Especially when it's unexpected. Your inability to find answers to this questions is what's making you angry. But anyway, you have to train yourself to stop being curious about every bit in life and when the answers are not forthcoming in situations like this, retreat to your own peaceful place.

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woW! Oh well! move on! its her loss not urs! been angry wouldnt help! just see as some friend who came into ur life and has gone back to wherever she belongs!

poo happenz.

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