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My fiancee have been receiving gifts from a male friend of hers for quite a while and recently she misplaced her phone and while I am planning to get her a new phone, I was surprised when she called me and told me that same male friend of hers just got her a new phone. So disturbing as it may be to me, I demanded to know what is really going on between her and this male friend of hers and her answer is as good as yours(reader) that -NOTHING INTIMATE.

I had a deep thought over the whole issue and concluded within me to allow things unfold for itself because it is her personal choice to decide who to be with afterall God knows I love her so much (not verbally but practically) which she can testify to (if she can be truthful).

Lately, her attitude has really changed differently from what she was when we started and personally, I might attribute it to change on location and her new job.Hence, being materialistic might be where she is aiming at or is it the guy that is desperate in having her as his.

I am about taking a tough decision because I am such that don't allow emotional issues to becloud my focus in life.

What decision do NL's think I should take?

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I believe that the best ways to sort out problems and issues in a relationship are COMMUNICATION & UNDERSTANDING.

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Poster m advice is be serious

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i said sleep not hibernation. i am wide awake

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They stil hav daylight i gues.

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Typical attitude of a mugu, blaming another man for his misfortune when it is 200% clear that the woman is to blame. Your problem is that you never had true control over your woman in the first place, now she has found a young man with money control and she's misbehaving.

"He's just a friend" is the regular answer they give to mugu's. Of course, he's just a friend, you're the mugu. After all na from clap them they take start dance. The next thing you know she's finding a fault with every single thing you do and Mr. Friend will be the only one with a solution and kind words until she falls into his bed if she hasn't already. The grass is always greener on the other side. A woman will stay with a serial murderer and Molester and call him "Angel" if he has true control. If he has no control, is good to a fault and looks like Denzel Washington she'll call him a "monster" in the long run anyway.

You've been had my man, the smartest thing to do is to dump the broad with immediate effect. There's no time for nonsense. If you start accepting sh*it in your home, don't expect the flies to stay outside. She's clearly enamored with the money control the new player has to offer and if you don't extract yourself from the situation, her enamored conscience will find a way to blame you for every single damn thing until she convinces herself that the new guy is the best thing for her. You're unnecessary cargo at the moment, deadweight, a stumbling stone.

Leave her for the other guy. Let her scratch that itch that's bothering her else you're going to find yourself in a worse situation than you are now and a bigger mugu than you could be. Be wise brother be wise. As an eye-opener I advise you read the following thread to know what is at stake here:

http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-396243.0.html

In the long run if you've been a good guy, her eyes should open and she'll come crying when it's all 'clear' to her and Mr. Friend gets tired of her. At that time, shine her 'pu*ssy' like a p0rn star and dump her the next day again. Your mama didn't raise no fool, shed the title of 'mugu' and open your eyes. Life is too short to play second fiddle to men of true control, become one yourself.

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We cannot judge someone from what another person has told us UNTIL WE HEAR OR KNOW THE TWO SIDES OF THE COIN.

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Well I was mad reading al d reply till I saw wat iice said.plz guy take her to a cool place different from where u guys use to hang out nd talk tins out.let her knw hw u feel abt her takn up gift from her suitors.to me she did bad.takin it once mit be forgiving on d ground dat u dnt want to b rude to guy.bt on several occasion.to me I can neva call dat phone d guy bot.one u will wanna check dat phone nd she will yell at u dat afterall u where nt d person dat bought d fone for her.listen by all those goft d guy hav trapped her somhow nd she mit already b fallin for d guy.men watch her behaviour onward.gud luck man

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@poster

not all guys are desperate

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abeg bros,

get her b4 she gets u.

i feel she gats insect eyez (oju kokoro)

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@ poster

when you say your fiance, have you given her a ring or have you done the traditional engagement with her?

Anyway back to the issue at hand, you need to have a serious convo with this woman and let her know that you have an issue with her accepting gifts from men who obviously want her. By the way have you ever met this so called friend of hers? because it seems like home girl is still taking phone numbers and going on dates and possibly giving it up to the highest bidder. Hurry up and get more information so you dont end up looking like a fool

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why would u marry a woman that makes a habit of collecting gifts from 'male friends'??

if u were my brother i'd slap you silly!

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my guy as hard as it may seem put ur hands in ur pocket and walk away before u get seriously hurt emotionally

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My advice is you talk to her about it and let her understand how wrong it is, if it continues then im sorry she will rather be with the friend, then the big decision should come then, but have a detailed discussion with her

GL

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Hm, just be careful. Maybe she thinks it's no big deal and there is nothing more to it. Then try to have a conversation and tell her exactly your mind. Yes it is a big deal, and no it's not right not just the act of accepting the phone but as a woman who "belongs" to another man and who has dignity that's not good. A woman who respects herself even single shouldn't even accept a gift (certainly not a phone) from a "friend" unless he is family or very good friend to whom she's given gifts too (in a relationship that is truthful just friendship on both sides with no hidden agenda). Gifts are never free.  Try to see if there isn't anything you caused, like pay back for something you did, or something along these lines. All my support! If it's destined to be, then it will be. Just pray and be wise.

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Ah ahn, u chop orishirishi? Fain ya own gurls jor, abi she no knw say u wan marry am, and kom get friend wey dey buy am outsid. Fashi am jor.

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Sum1 's being playd here. . . . . . . . .

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wow, I see her as being materialistic which will continue even when you guys get married, Open your eyes

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