Hey now, I am nothing like white lexi. The guy is James Bond compared to my Jack Black. If you didn't want to help me with my weight watch why are you dissing me? Typical Naija chick. Sharp mouth.
Besides, if I am ever to date a girl on this forum it would be a well-kept secret between me and her. Nobody else's biness
well i think that the basic reason is that outgoing girls are percieved as uncontrollable and may also be prone to illicit affairs outside their relationships.
Secondly most guys whould thing that the more outgoing a girl is, the more expensive she is to retain. they tend to be demanding.
well I for one think otherwise!
fIRST OF ALL I AM A QUIET PERSON N I DON'T REALLY LYK NOISY PEOPLE, BUT DAT DOSE NOT MEAN DAT I DONT LYK LIFELY GIRLS,ITS JUST DAT MOST OF DEM TAKE WAY TOO MUCH, GO TOO MANY PLACES N DONT MAKE ANY SENSE IN MOST TINS DAT DEY DO OR SAY, I PREFER FOCUSED, THOUGHTFUL,INTELLECTUAL N MAJORLY FUNNY GIRLS, NOT BORING!!!!!
girls outgoing?who are they fooling?they want to bed hop some more.when ladies are young ,they like to be `outgoing`. when they want to marry then they tend to stop their waka-ing.they will infact become responsible.a younger ladies are usually as stubborn as devils,doing what they liked only to retrace their steps when its late to do so.
someone said here dat u can meet a good girl in a night club.thats a big lie.i do go to night clubs every friday night and i can tell u dat any girl u find there is either a LovePeddler(professional), wayward girl or a girl on a revenge mission to spread hiv to guys.
i know u girls will crucify me.u girls dont like when guys tell u d truth or try to caution u.
Learn something from this thread.You can use it or thrash it. Most gentlemen and career focused men will always prefer quiet women to out-going women. I personally do not see anything wrong with out-going women,but I have always felt women who are less out-going provide a lot of stability to the home front.
There is no point arguing which is better but what works for the men. Even the guys out here claiming to love out-going women will dump them at the time of walking down the aisle.
One of these silly olofofo nairalanders that makes her living gossiping and prowling round the romance section opined that the reason men feel threatened by outgoing girls is because we want our women to be meek, submissive and not opinated. No wonder the strong, loud mouthed and aggressive chicks especially the ones on nairaland are single and will remain single till they wither off the planet.
I hope their loud mouthed strong willed and aggressive nature will help them become aunties to many people instead of somebody calling them wifey or mother. . . Psssf!
Sometimes arguments show up here unnecessary.
Boys defending themselves whiles girls are doing the same.
No one wants to be neutral anymore. So sad.
Nothing is bad about a girl being outgoing.
Except that she would be vulnerable to men.
A man can decide not to toast a girl for one year.
A girl can never do the same because she cant stop men from toasting her.
(Whether she is beautiful or not)
Now see it this way, A girl can decide not to pay attention to whatever men tell her but trust me,
By the time about 50 guys finish talking to her, she must notice the one with Big Muscles, handsome face and fat wallet. Not to say girls are greedy but Girls Like guys with Money and big cars and famous
Now that makes some men feel insecure about the girls they love, especially when they are the out going type.
By the way OUTGOING can be defined in different ways.
Here in Europe, men allow their girls to go to clubs alone.
Approach the lady and she will cheerfully tell you she has a boyfriend even if you are Brad Pitt.
The case is different in Nigeria, Allow your girl to go to club alone and she will give birth to Tuface's Child in Nine Months. That kind of things also ,make our men feel insecure. So they prefer the ones who would refuse to go to club if their boyfriends refuse to go with them.
Who wouldn't prefer that?
Like I said, "If you are a man (real man) It does not matter where you meet a girl e.g Nite club or church, She will comport to your ideals eventually. No matter how hard headed or tough she thinks. Was it not princes Diana that ended up with play boy "fayad" Or the Woman chair man of a well know American bank the participated in a fraud for her Russian boyfriend totalling 300 million dollars, and the list goes on. Women are genetically predisposed to be submissive or attracted towards people who are more manly. It survival instinct.
don't forget that i used the word 'most'.from what you have said,you happen to be an exclusion.i guess you don't club or bed-hop, that is because you have chanelled that outgoing attitude into a positive thing.but you still have to understand that 'most' chics would rather allow the negative effect of that 1derful quality to override thembecause of the selfish benefits that comes with it.i never said being outgoing is totally wrong.keep the flag flying.
thumbs up,you excite me as a man who understands and percieves the bad rhetorics of his environment.
well you have made your point,i don't have a problem with a gal that drinks because i drink too, but definitely not the gal that worships the bottle.when both of you are drunk(tipsy not good too),who is going to drive.you know it is bad to drink and drive.our children need their parents to stay alive.what about setting a good example for them,that should inform you on the need to be less outgoing in that sense,its about the future.i care so much.
It doesn't matter, all women will end up being submissive, when they finally meet the "MAN" they want to settle down with. So if you girl is still kicking it hard and partying all the time, then chances are she doesn't think you the right man for her yet. Even though she love you (but is not in love with you), lol
This is for situations where the girl is always out either by herself or with friends
Its simply a natural instinct to avoid settling down with an 'outgoing' girl because they are less likely to be 'children-oriented' than the homely ones (if you think about it).
They tend not to know how to 'cosy up' a home and it seems that is what makes them 'out-going' in the first place.
They seek attention and are usually self-indulgent and also more likely to engage in infidelity.
There is nothing nurturing about a girl that is always out ;Yes they make the party scene or the club bang but marry her? why?
infact they make poor mums as going out all the time is a big sign of selfishness and superficiality.
If you think about it ,if she is that out-going then why would you want to build a home with her knowing that she will never be there. It just doesnt fit.
Call me old fashioned but unless you are 1st world through and through (in which case you would have lost most of your perspective on normal) then you wont see the issue till she wants to leave (she got bored!!)
I rather prefer a girl that cant wait to get home than one that cant wait to pop off the front door.
Thank God for current squeeze - delish!!
where are some of you from with this old-fashioned mentality? who told you that because a gurl goes clubbing she is a 'bad' girl?
do not let appearances fool you - me i KNOW i am a good girl, yet i drink, club (not as much as i used to) and i hang out - i enjoy the company of my other half and we do a lot of these things together - i drink brandy he drinks beer- and i drink a lot more than he does, i don't get drunk and i dont drink everyday - he understands and accepts me for who i am and i know what he expects from me - and i live upto it - no judgements or hard feelings we know we are both individuials
we chill together and go out together (we prefer our own company to that of our friends) - but we have both partied in our younger days and now agree that there isnt much out there left to see clubbing wise, what ever is left to uncover we want to discuss it ans share the experience TOGETHER - we'd rather dine at home, a movie, a quiet drink or a nice meal out - then again it is our personal choice bbased on understanding.
so ppl don't dismiss a girl on appearances or where you meet her - for you can meet an angel in a club and a demon of a girl in the church - who is there for exactly same reason taht you are - to find a spouse - because no one in the real world would have her
The bitter truth is that most outgoing chics have this aristo-layabout-tendency, so that is why correct and career-oriented guyz prefer the calm,quiet and intelligent ones.they sure know how to handle situations maturely.imagine havin the former as first lady of a country or state.her outgoing attitude can put your personality and that of the people in jeopardy.
outgoing chics are fun to be with sometimes, but literature has shown that they are the worst of wives and mothers.hey! no offence to y'all walkabout chics ,thats the inn-thing.
y'all ponder for a minute,what those chics do outside all the time.correct guyz don't want to get hooked with a chic that is more popular than michael jackson in the other sense, you know what i mean.gitty up.