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Why Are Men Always Afraid To Fall In Love?

I've always wondered why this is so, my longest and best relationship lasted 3 years and thou my shorty was in love with me, i forced myself not to fall in love with her.

I hate that feeling when you can't do without another person and all other emotinal turmoil and psycological torture that comes with falling in love. I think we dudes were not made that way which is why we feel more comforable being players cause we weaker than women emotionally and don't like/know how to handle emotions,

What y'all be thinking bout this?

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True talk bro.. m even having the same problem which I jst have to helplessly accept.

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The truth is that men are dynamic in nature. But women are so focused especially whn a case like ds is involved. From my own view and out of experience too, men are afraid because they believe women are too emotional and can stop them from attaining their greatest goals. Women are destractive, devilish, somtyms their tears can make u miss ur flight,,,lol.. Bt it is tru. A gal once told me that women are evil that it is better to just appear casual wit a any gal until u hv it in mind to marry her. Recall wht happened to Samson in da bible, king Herod, nd so many oda great men dat women hv destroyed. Ofcourse we all knw all ds dats y it appears as if we are afraid to be into da stuff. Thnks.. Una go pay me for ds advise..lol

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it is good to fall inlove but not this lagos

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welcome to my world!!!

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Hello Guys. I don't know if this is crazy or something bt I will tell u now right from the bottom of my heart that my past Relationships as bn whole Hell. Guys have nt really bn fair 2 me @ all. Am serious n God bear me witness. So I must say am not surprised either cos I used 2 hear it eventhough have never seen where ladies jilt guys, bt I still believe u guys ok. As for me i don't demand frm guys. I just hope one day I will get 2 meet someone dt will appreciate n love me wholeheartedly.

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Well a lot of things are responsible, for me its not being scared of commitment or the love itself. People react differently to pain nd me loosing something i love is almost deathlike. Nd i only move on cuz i dont have any other choice not because i want to. So i deliberately dnt fall in love wit anybody. The moment i sense love creeping in i muster up evryfin in me to kill it. I walk away from d source. I cant go through such again. I knw all women are not d same but i rather not risk it. it may be seen as robbing peter to pay paul but dats d truth.i can like her but i always stay a bit detached so if it boils down to she wants to go i just smile nd feel indifferent about it. At least shes doing wat she wants im not hokding her back

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Am almost in d samething but now tryin not to give everythin in and gradually withdrawin

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The moment you fall in love with a girl, she would take advantage of you, Girls might deny this but that is the truth! The moment they feel that a guy is deeply in love with them, a lot of annoying behaviors begin to show up! As for me I am NOT a relationship kind of guy, I am just interested in having sex, so I am very ANTI-FALLING IN LOVE! Guys, please do what ever you can to avoid falling in love with a girl. Always keep an objective view when you are dealing with a girl!

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Long b4 nw i think i av psychological problem though i av a lady dt is so commited 2 me bt d truth is i neva love her a bit i am just trying 2 be a responsible guy i av been dreaming 2 be, i dont want 2 hurt her dt is why am just pretending dt i love her bt as it is nw i think most of d guys do feel d way i feel. Ladies in d house pls advice me wht shld i do wit dis inocent lady i dont want 2 hurt her. Advice pls!!!

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coz we are insecure,plus relationship entails being emotional.

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cuz girlz can't be trusted 2 keep U sane! they'll deny it but they know it's true

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always afraid to fall in love?

really?

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When it comes to relationships men are the weakest, men have the most insecurity and you can tell that so easily by how badly tempered jealous they can get even though we try to conceal it but we can't hide from who we are. I do like to be in love but with all the heartaches and emotional trauma I have to go through, Imma let it pass.

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losing the woman i loved broke me. A part of me died when our r/ship ended. It was the single most painful experience i'v ever gone thru. Why the hell would i want to willing put myself thru that again? So for so long,i created a barrier btw my emotions and women. I refused to let myself love anyone and i was doing great until i met Her. Y'knw a lotta people say you love only once. I was lucky enough to find that kinda love twice. And i'm happy. I really. But getting truly heartbroken is like a wound. It wont hurt forever,but the scar will always be there. And even i am so happy,i'm just filled with this choking fear that i'm gonna lose her. And sometimes that fear is so thick i cant even breathe. Losing the first woman i loved scarred me,and i just dont think i can deal with that kinda pain all over again. So now it's like i'm holding back somehow,and she knows why i feel the way i do,bt sometimes i think someday she'l get fed up of me and my issues.

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Because the women are always so quick to jilt them in love.

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Males, right from childhood are forced trained to be made of stone.

"stop crying, its just a toy. Be a big boy now, like your Daddy"

NOTE- Junior has never seen Daddy cry. Mummy on the other hand cries when watchin a movie, when she's saying goodbye to him on the way to summercamp, when the potatoes are burnt black,

"why are u cuddling the teddy bear? that belongs to ur sis, urs is the wailing fire engine"

NOTE- Sis becomes able to deal with caring and sharing by playing with a life-like toy with whom she has imaginary convrstaions and the begginings of a r/shp. Boy drives his car repeatedly into a wall ( like most r/tshps l8r in life)!

Men are consequently brutish and non-communicational; not becos they want to but, we never cried or had emotional cars.

Its a wonder a few dudes get it right, cos i'm still stuck at the shiny, new fire engine phase.

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fall in love? why not stand in love?

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Eva since my gal dicovrd dat am madly in luv wit her, I became a victim of emotional torture. I just took a decision 2day. Neva 2 fall inluv wit a gal again. Cos rite now I still cant get her out my head and she's occupyin 2much space up there. But she just coachd a player.

spot on!they cry for love when u give them they think u are fool and what a hotter game and when the get overscrewed they come back again

when a girl know u love her silly,she behaves like it is her right and thinks she is doin u a favor by lovin uif she does)

do gett me wrong some girls do do that, sometimes it depends how mature she is, i know i've been with someone for a longtime, an i know they love me, unconditionaly and they dont try control me, trust i'll never let that go,

and stanony, she'll always regrat lossin you, u might be hurt but u know u tried hard to do good by her, she might but it will hard to find anyone who will love her like that, if u loved her with all ur heart

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Eva since my gal dicovrd dat am madly in luv wit her, I became a victim of emotional torture. I just took a decision 2day. Neva 2 fall inluv wit a gal again. Cos rite now I still cant get her out my head and she's occupyin 2much space up there. But she just coachd a player.

spot on!they cry for love when u give them they think u are fool and what a hotter game and when the get overscrewed they come back again

when a girl know u love her silly,she behaves like it is her right and thinks she is doin u a favor by lovin uif she does)

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Eva since my gal dicovrd dat am madly in luv wit her, I became a victim of emotional torture. I just took a decision 2day. Neva 2 fall inluv wit a gal again. Cos rite now I still cant get her out my head and she's occupyin 2much space up there. But she just coachd a player.

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Love, synonymous with pain *sighs*

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I'm in love with my girlfriend! I honestly don't look at any other girls despite the attention I get from the ladies. Due to the fact that I'm a successfull 23 year old with a striving business, there is always one girl or another loathing around! I can truly say I show no interest!

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As far as i am concerned there only 2 classes of chicks: d middle class and low class

So which one r u al talkin bout.

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Why are men afraid to fall in love??

Answer; Women.

Thats why only gays enjoy true love.

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Yea, I fall in love so many times.

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Guys are scared of being played yet they wanna play other girls. . . it's crazy.

What contours abeg? Explain ya sef.

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As far as falling in love with the girl goes, we do (well kindof) fall in love.  A lot of us don't make it known to her.

It's better to defensively shield yourself from being played.

Celebrities like sasha fierce, jolie, halle and co are easy to fall in love with, since they have great sex appeal.

Naija actresses try but they have too many contours o jare.

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So you fall in love with Shoes and yourself every day. . . That's nice

I wouldn't be afraid to fall in love with that.

Now let's talk - why are you afraid to fall in love with ladies?

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There was a time I walked across a shoe store and fell in love with the shoes on display. I bought them.

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I am not afraid to fall in love. I fall in love everyday.

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i love this topic and responses yhat ve followed.in fact,i love big shishi's bluntness and confessions.i ve a gf now(my 1st real reltshp) and we ve been on for 3yrs now.truth is i know deep in me i love her die and dont fail to tell and show her.somtyms,i think i show her too much so i ration how i show it but once she notices she conplains i dont love her.am just tryin to be calm and careful.ordinarily when we ve issues and dont talk i know how it feels.though i do tthe man thing by keepin quiet especially if she is d one wrong i get tempted to talk to her.all these really make me careful cos the truth is we men are weak in d heart but just cover it with our strong outlook.

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2 years later this thread is still going on.

That is what you lot say. when you find it now. . na you go begin run.

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I am not afraid.

Love is a beautiful thing

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Men on top of thier games dont fall in luv.They simply get on top of thier games by keeping the keys and holding the pace.One heart break too many. Guess we have more fragile mind than women.

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fall in love dont fall in love, thats ur own malaki

nigerian guys are the most emotionally constipated men on this earth

they associate love with weakness

personally am past caring if u like ooo if u no like ooo, tis ur own perogative

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niuboy,

its ok to fall in love, things happen. i am dont really believe in Love but if you know Love exists in its own way, follow the path it leads you to. i agree with what u said cuz people have experienced alot and it changes them. i am an example cuz i find it so hard to feel any emotion alot of times and nowadays it feels weird so i try to understand myself and hope @ some point i adjust back to the love or relationship thing.

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@Nubian, Nice point. But you cant blame guys. most of the time girls are the one to fall in love initially cause it easy for girls. Girls fall in love with there shoes, shopping, hair and so on. So I believe it easy for girls, like been in love is a simple thing. But guys take there time initially (me and, if YOU) and then when a guy accepts the OURS scenario, girls result to the ME and if YOU deal. So now the guy is broken hearted and regrets committing, investing his head, heart emotions, time and all which leaves a foul taste in a guys mouth. And I believe most guys only fall in love once and if that is jeopardized, other girls are left with a guy that don't fall(but acts like hes in love, even if a girl is the special one for him) but stand in love in other to walk away easily in case of incasity.

As for me, I have deleted the in love status out of my life files, So yes its most likely impossible for me to fall again unless theres a divine intervention but even with that been in love will have a comma.

So I know you ladies claim to be good and some of you are good but don't blame us. Many of you made many good guys this way. ITS LIFE

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its rare to meet a man who can fall in love ( my point of view) my guess is a man wants to protect himself.

i can't blame then, i used to be a man hater till i heard stories on their part. some guys have really sacrificed alot for women and vice versa but when a man is hurt its hard to Find a lover in him all you get is a survivor.

well, from a womans point of view, i think experiences, change you and make you choose the path you follow.

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cos ladies sometimes just act very funny,and when a broda decides to fall in luv,she has this itch to walk all over him,believe me i've been der

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Why "fall" in love, when you can stand in lust.

No tym for love. We just werent created for that mushy crap.

It's not that we are afraid, but why pluck a single fuit when you can have the whole tree.

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b\cos when they fall in, coming out is hell on earth,if you dnt like what you see, you know women changes.that's my own, abi i lai?

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Generalising is a very dig disease with black people!

@poster and everyone who supports

so NO man has/have fallen in love before?

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[table]Finally, a person in love, male OR female is a very weak and vulnerable creature. This seems to be ok for women, but our crazy society expects men to be PILLARS OF STRENGTH AND FORTITUDE, which is at odds with this. Sometimes the woman herself may despise the man for being such a pathetic weakling and lose respect for him. Men are terrified of this (being percieved as weak)[/table]

I feel u men.

when i started dating i had little trust 4 women, i see dem as distraction to goals in life at dat time, so i neva had serious relationships. I used to tell my friends then who go thro emotional turmoil from d hassles of relationships they keep to take the "heart break insurance"never put ur heart in any relationship dat way they can come and go as they please. Then i felt like a king cos i neva fall and i think straight

when i got older, after attaining some kind of stability and was ready for "serious" relationship i found out i was alone. My friends who were coming 2 me all had long term relationships and were settling down and now am abt 2 begin.

I eventually met this girl and decided not 2 hold back anything and give the relationship my all. It was glorious at first until she found out i was madly in love with her dats when our problem started. B4 when we have an argument she wants 2 talk abt it after she found out she wants 2 leave. I became weak where this girl was concerned, i tried anything 2 make her happy, i changed anything in order to accomodate her. i was dreaming this was it until she burst my bubbles. After one particular argument we had she told me she would not want 2 end up with me dat we should just date, dat she does not love me as much as she used to, i was heartbroken then, everything in my head is saying let her go but my heart is telling me this is the end of ur life. I hung on for while trying to convince her 2 change her mind but it only got worse, at a point i had no choice but 2 let go. Men was i heart broken. Till now 2yrs after dat i still could not get over her. Every other girl i meet now pales compare to her.

After every thing i realised dat I'd like the feeling when I took da heart break insurance better than falling in love. Though every thing was more significant when i was in love but still I dont hope 2 go thro dat kinda emotion again. NEVA EVA* retires*

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To be quite honest, despite all girls would think and say; guys are actually the most faithful in relationships. chicks on the other hand are just too good at lying and thats why you hear of cases where a man would be living with his wife and children that are sometimes not his. guys don't tell lies too well when compared to the girls. in fact once you get a guy to love you he becomes more or less a sucker and at that point he becomes almost helpless. and that is why we guard our hearts cus its hard to meet a chick that is worth the stress. once a lady finds out you are crazy for her, its like giving a gun to a toddler. totally reckless. she might just kill you. Guys be careful!, it has happened to me one time too often.

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Very rightly said. Man, u be Prof. O!

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You are right and wrong.

Here, African men don't die within just because they can't express themselves. To the contrary, African men make the first move.

What you should say is that African men don't fuse over a woman. They consider it as weakness to give all their power to women. So they kept some of their feelings to themselves. They have the feelings but they are in control.

Another reason is that African men are polygamous in nature. Laws and traditions support them. So why would a man 'kill' himself over one woman when he has harrem of women to pick from?

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I think it is cultural. Africans do not express love the way other cultures do. It does not mean that "Men" do not fall in love. It just means some have difficulty expressing themselves so they do not look "timid"! Africans in general have a stoic way of expressing themselves and just prefer to die inside rather than say how they feel. It is just cultural that's all!--I think!

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Men? Or some men? How many men did you understudied to arrive at your conclusion?

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