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Why Are Men So Obsessed With Women's Virginity?

am sorry even I am tried of this virgin topics, but please bear with me and go through this one. why are men so obsessed with Virginity?there have been like countless topics on dis, and honestly I don't know whats the fuss is all about. and i don't mean it badly, i just want to hear from guys on why it's important. is it like a prize? or an ownership thing? please be completely honest. i just don't see what the big deal is. I mean it's not like i care if you are or not, so why does it matter if i am?

I am not bashing you guys for this, just curious at what the big deal is.

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Koni baje fun eh.....................................imagine a Virgin wey no get corect attitude

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hmmmm I have read so much on this thread and the best I can say that Ladies who are still virgins should guard their virginity jealously. It is one of our prized posessions if not the most prized

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she has to earn her husbands trust thru her virginity? trust is a far deeper issue than this...... Can a wife have full trust in her husband knowing hes shared himself around but expects her to keep herself for him? Its double standards and so wrong. Offer of yourself what you expect in return, and expect no less. There are non v women out there who still have self respect. A good woman remains a good woman no matter what her sexual status. Im glad some guys on this thread get this aspect...they have mature minds and look beyond d surface

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Disverginity goes beyond sexual pleasures. It is a blood covenant which is meant between a husband and wife (4 life). A disvergined girl cannot forget d one dat did it even when married to another. D one dat disvergined u is a very important person in ur life. Secondly, it creates fragmentation of soul (sex= and d two shal become one). Again, d trauma, effects and consequences shall sualy surface later in d married life and hunt d victim. Result? Devastated home! More also, divided attentn. It is a foundation 2 many family pblems. But why are d ladies alone at d receing end of dis issues?

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Although, is not a must to get a virgin as a wife b'cos is not a guarantte 4 a successful marriage but not withstanding, is a very gud thing if a lady can remain a virgin till after her marriage b'cos it will also av a little impart if not much in d marrige.

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bABES THESEDAYS FAKE VIRGINTY, THERE ARE MEDICATIONS AND CREAMS U CAN USE TO FAKE GIRGINITY, E DON TEY!

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mobinga,

again, there are girls that were Molested twice or more by different men.

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Unmarried non Virgin = LovePeddler

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It is sheer foolishness that makes a man to seek virginity. some men go to the extent of getting one from the village.

When Mrs Virgin gets wise, hmmm, she be worse than those in a brothel.

I recently counselled a 26 year old female virgin on the disadvantages of declaring her status to men.

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'virginity' is the dignity of a woman

men lay much emphasis on virginity because it gives them the confidence and boldness to defend their partner's in time of adulterous accusation

to be sincere, if i were to be a guy i wont marry a woman whose virginity is not certain

"but guys note! you can't go around de-flowering other girls and expects your's to be a scent

"planting a bean seed must surely yield a bean during harvest"

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Most of these girls who claim to be Virgins are not. They pretend to be Virgins so they can get men. They will do anything to back up their Virginity claim. Their excuse for not bleeding is excercise. In fact, many Nigerian men are fooled into believing that their wife was Virgin when they married him.

I met this man, who is over 50, admitting to me that he had been with over 50 Nigerian girls in his life. He was obsessed with marrying a Virgin. None of the girls who bedded were Virgins. I met this girl who said she is a Virgin, then I caught her with a guy, who gives her money.

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I HAVE OPENED THIS TOPIC BEFORE.

*thief* HEHE

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^^ no muppet

the men that are obsessed wiv them are!

and chrisbenogor meant if u dont have se.x in 3 mnths her kitty will be tight again!

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@ poster cause they are a bunch of perves

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If u are not a virgin,it is not wrong for another person to be able to keep and respect herself.

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This post explains very well why there is a double standard when it comes to virginity, especially the bolded portions. Men and women are equal BUT we are DIFFERENT. That's what some girls fail to understand. I am not saying that men should not be blamed for some of their actions, but there are some things they can do that a woman can't do just like women can alsodo things men can't do. Our bodies are different. period.

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wow. i was going to say my views but ameoba no. 1's post basically said everything i feel.

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D virginity of my wife would be my pride. That shows some decency and a strong character. She'd better keep it!

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I understand the husband giving respect and dignity to his virgin wife, but does this mean that every woman who was

dis-virgined by her husband remain faithful, repect and honor her husband?

I have heard a case where the wife was a virgin before her marriage, got bored of the relationship and started to have

an affair outside her marriage. Virginity is good to have for the ladies but guys please do not be fooled that virgins

automatically bag you respect and honor. Enough said!!!!!

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Hello guys. I read some posts saying women should be allowed to have as much fun as the males , hmm another deceit from those who claim they want gender equality. Methinks why d emphasis on women to remain virgins is to protect the female folks. Tell me who goes thru more emotional trauma after a heartbreak?if a pregnancy occurs who goes thru the pains? who goes under the surgical knife to remove the 'unwanted baby'? I am yet to see a woman who would be bold to raise her head up high in a room filled with her ex -lovers. A girl I know who can't seem to control her appetite is desperately looking for help because of the multiple emotions she is going thru. Well, for the guys most times the only risk they stand is getting STD's(which a lot of women incubate without even knowing till a great havoc has been done to their syst).Apart 4rm these, I think sex has been reduced to another mere activity and like it is always said 'when the use of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable'. I agree the virginity issue should apply to both sexes as most men who sleep around are so dumb and unproductive you cant talk sense with them as all they think about is putting their manlinesses in some1's womanliness loose men. Like amebo1 has been saying REAL WOMEN SHOULD LEARN TO CLOSE THEIR LEGS (NOT TO THEIR HUSBANDS SHA )VIRGIN OR NOT.

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"@rokiatu

haha Dam,your pic in your profile scares me."

rokiatu dont mind him,i like what i saw.can we talk dis na my no 08035070265 for real.

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no, we as female should spank them for being silly, by the way, why are you against the men? the gurls deserve to die, if possible cos i still cant comprehend why a gurl in this jet age will open her legs to keep a man, if sex keeps a man i wonder why men still go out outside even when they have their wives at home

If a amn declares his love for you and the  asks you to kill your mother, willl you do it?

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lust love word will put a ring on their fingers. We as females should sympathise with them not ridicule them.

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look sum people girls dont seem to understand wat marring a virgin means, a girl dat has never been uprooted by any man, oh my God,wat an unconditional respect, am not say a man will not love u if u r not a virgin, but girls u self just imagin am, see u r still a virgin men i know is goin to be hard to keep it n if u hv loose urs u ll still b love but believe me they is different, meanwhile stella where r u? u sound like one, many hv loose thru me but dat dose not mean dat i do not want a virgin. forgive me all men dose.

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hmmm, let me use this analogy to explain why,

You go to a car showroom, see a car you like, take it for a test-drive, and drive it as hard as you like. After the test-drive you like the car and decide to buy it, question is

1) do you fork out the full price for the car you've just test-driven, or

2) You demand for a spanking new one?

it sucks but that's how some men see life, they test-drive any gal they find but prefer to settle down with a virgin if possible

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No stop acting like all girls are silly, i ask again, was a gun put on the head? does she think having sex will keep him? im not twisiting nothing, but i so hate it when women come here,after opening their legs for men and come put the blame on the man, like i said any excuse outside i was Molested is not acceptable, if a woman cannot be sensible enough or have brains to cover the head,  then shes not worth being called a woman

Do the virgins have two heads?those gurls dat even after all the pressure kept themselves were they born with two nose? is it not the same thing they have with them non virgins? Alot of women are just plain silly, if a woman engagies in an immoral life with a man and now wants to blame a man for it, then shes a BLOODY HYPOCRITE, and a GOD FORSAKEN CHEAP HOE

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its not all about english, my own english is terrible, but for a woman using the 'sex them up' language is disgusting

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@Na2 was just talking about liers i met before you the likes of The Seeker lol. I neva said yes to them so no worries my dear

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I dont like guy who asks if i am a virgin i say yes i ask them if he is a virgin he does not wnt to tell

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not me i dont like virgins

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hmmm, let me use this analogy to explain why,

You go to a car showroom, see a car you like, take it for a test-drive, and drive it as hard as you like. After the test-drive you like the car and decide to buy it, question is

1) do you fork out the full price for the car you've just test-driven, or

2) You demand for a spanking new one?

it sucks but that's how some men see life, they test-drive any gal they find but prefer to settle down with a virgin if possible

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Because men are bloody hypocrites thats why, they pressure their gfs to sex them up but tell their folks to find them a virgin. I was with some guys the other day and they had the nerve to say men cheating on their wives is amoral and normal but when a woman does it its wrong and she should be lynched. Bloody hypocritical scums of the earth.

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some of u guys are crazy on this site

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that is plendous of him y not join me on yahoo messenger so we can better am on cam i dont know of u? ojb_4luv@yahoo.co.in

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get some1 to break it up is irritating

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you can hook up with me via ojb_4luv@yahoo.co.in am always online.

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Sth times I wonder who actually can be considered a virgin,some time ago,I read in a foreign mag how young middle eastern girls go to hospital in London to operate on thier womanliness to keep the hymen intact as if it had not been touched because their culture demands that for them to be properly married they ve to be virgins.What many ppl don't know is that U can't tell for a fact if a woman is a virgin by merely looking at the hymen cos she could ve had sex and still do job on her womanliness and the hymen will luk intact,in essence,all am saying is that it's useless anyway cos it has no effect on a woman's suitability for marriage.Like I said b4,they re hardwork that always miscontrue any attempt to discuss sex.

@Poster,I don't know which men U re talking abt but most men I know don't give a hoot abt a gal's virginity,I personally don't like be the one to de-flower a gal,it's a bleeping bond that I don't fink i Wanna go into,I would rather not ve her blood soil my bed and her sobbing and sulking like i just Molested her,call me weird but I can't stand a woman moaning in pain and bleeding 4rm d yansh(lol,don't mind me) like am doing sth violent to her yansh(lol,again.Ignore Me jare).So virgins can take thier virginity to the priest ,real guyz don't see the big deal innit anyway!

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Yeah for my kinds of person I don't want to even gert married to a virgin not to talk about showing so much empahsis about her viginity.

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@ amboe

y d suden attack sinc wen did u turn 2 wynny's lawyer. Abi SAN dey hungry u Senior Advocate of Nairaland. Hahahaha

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b4 i answer ur question, are u a virgin? and is sum1 trying to get with u and u feel it is not for "love"?

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Persönaly i tink any dude stil lukin 4 a virgin must b sick coz 2 me its a crime if u're stil a virgin by 18 or u must realy b síck.

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I believe in abstinence and waiting for marriage but these days i find that guys cant wait. If a guy truly loves a girl,why wont he be willing to wait for her?He feels that he could try and convince her but she is firm on her belief and leaves because he can't handle it. It hurts but he doesnt care, meaning that most guys like the idea of being the first obviously but cant stick around after a few months or even weeks of trying,

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No i did not miss the point, your post is saying something else, from what the real reason is, you need encouragement, now you've got it, keep being virgin

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Rephrase the question please, Not all men are concerned with a womans virgin status.

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ouch @ your unfortunate marriage. why not get a divorce?

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turning the thread into a wrestling field?

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ur daddy is a kid.a silly kid for that matter

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