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Why Are Nigerians Shy About Public Kissing?

I just want to know why most Nigerians don't show any intimate affection in public, whereas in some societies, its the norm, Fire away folks!

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hahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

you never reach AMBROSE ALLI UNIVERSITY, EKPOMA. na im make u dey talk like this. you will see coursemates/platonic freinds showing love, not to talk of lovers. i remember my coursemate(a girl) asking me a kiss on the lips in a faculty lecture hall

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Not suprised at ur question,coz nigeria is still developing in all spheres.A time will come when public display of affection will be a normal daily routine

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When your with the one your love, who cares about public kissing. What you let public views or social stigma determine how you express your self.

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There's nothing wrong with it. . . Its called being spontaeneous

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I agree with this topic

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cos the nigerian culture is very much conservative

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1 reason:

The "holier than thou" syndrome

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it depends on dos around u eg your agemates-it doznt matter,older people-dey'll luk @u disgustinly,children-a really bad example.

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We don't kiss in public not only because its not our culture but because its silly. Even African Americans don't kiss in public, naija sef we don too watch waaaay too many yanki movies. Nonsense, minister of culture and tourism should ban all yanki movies from naija jo.

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kissing in public! see how a seemingly harmless topic has generated so much brouhaha,

if u are married, kiss your wife in public, the society will be better for it.

if u are not married, u can still kiss your mate in public, really as long as u are not going overboard like smooching her real bad, i think a lot of nigerians can tolerate that except of course if u try it in zamfara and environs. dont make it sound like nigeria is some saudi arabia,

i think the reason a lot of guys can't or don't kiss their babes (not wives) in public is because they got actions going on in other camps, why give yourself away to other ladies in the camp by kissing one in public, at least if they only just saw you together, you can lie that she is your friend's brother's sister's cousin or something that convoluted, but if you are kissing her in public, ki lo fe so?

As for the ladies, the same may apply, as in the men, too many guys in their lives and how do u know who is seeing u, but the monogamous ones amongst them, nothing wrong with showing affection,

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because its not our culture, Nigerians just started learning kissing when they started watching too many American movies. My my, why must we always copy what westerners do and put down our culture as "local, bush or uncivilized"? You can be a developed country without changing your culture or values (see japan, finland, spain and south korea) Gosh what is wrong with our people? This right here is what we called mental and cultural slavery. Where is the senate where you need them? or the ministry of culture, as far as i am concerned, they should ban all western movies, music and culture and instead rigorously promote our culture and heritage right now, we must reeducate our kids to be proud of there culture.

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everytime una go dey kissing kissing, wicked kissers

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HMMMMM, the first time i saw people kissing each other on this side of the world i was so shocked and felt very uncomfortable.

you know, people find it so easy to kiss each other any where at any time, long sensual kiss, on the bus, on the train, on the tramp, just anywhere anytime.

i wouldn't mind being pecked, hugged in public but not sensual long kisses. its sends so many different messages to the kids out there in the society.

you guys need to see the way these people go about it.

i dont see myself doing this and i was shocked and uncomfortable this first time i witnessed this because it is not part of our culture. i don't think it has to do with being shy.

after spending about five years here, i still cant do it and don't see myself doing it.

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but doing unthinkable things in hidden places is our character? what hypocrisy!

It only goes to show how secretive and insincere people can be

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there has been too much gramma about this, truth is, it is not a "black african" thing, it is not in our character

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Na Wa for ursef. Why now? Is this how you view your Nigerian men? They're not all like that. I'm not marrying a Yahoo boy, we didn't meet on the internet. I live in a whole community of Nigerians here in NY and THAT's how I met my man. He's not looking for papers. I'm sorry you feel that way bout your fellow Nigerian brothers.

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Tho, I never was called 'wowo', I believe O FINE was the phrase I was hearing, E Se.

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No. You don't survive the streets of Lagos without learning enough of the language to defend yourself.

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How many Nigerian men do you know that run to ugly white women?? I don't know any, including my fiance. Stop hating!!

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different cultures, different customs.

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why not?when we take icecream together in the public we share it from each other's mouth and we end up kissing.There was this particular day ,we were eating popcorn and it mistakenly poured into her top,i ate the remaining popcorn by dipping my hand into the opening of her top and picked it one by one ontop of her bra in a romantic way.

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This is a free world, we all have our life to live, thinking about this and that what my business with someone else

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You accepted his religion didnt you?

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well its cos of cultural differences that why we dont see thing how the white see's it to be

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Keep on staying in denial shogbo? you want to sit there and lie about all the happenings on luxury buses esp the ones to Abuja and PH abi? Lol continue.

Anyway I have nothing else to say to you. pele.

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@ThiefOfHeart. I still imagine how you got this name cause i aint gono let you steal my heart.

All the same babe i respect ladies a lot but not when they push poeple around. That is not acceptable. Why don't you just agree that you have a total misconception of the present day Nigeria. And talking bout open sex, Jeeze let me not call you a liar but am yet to find where that is happening in Nigeria. Or wait a minute, i think you been having NY fever.

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Well that you lived in Surulere thousand of years ago do not mean things are not changed. And Surulere is just a fraction of the entity called Nigeria. Therefore there is no way you can equate what happens in Surulere as a yard stick to measure the way poeple live in other part of Nigeria.

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[color=#000099][/color]Thats a good question to ponder on. Firstly I dont really think Nigerians ae Shy about kissing in the Public. And left for me Kissing in the Public depends on the person you are Kissing and if not the right person then I think is not right. Even other Countries like: United Kingdom, United State of America etc. They dont kiss anyhow in the Public, they do it in a normal way for people to know they are doing it in a right way. To put this in close, I think Nigerians are not shy Kissing in the Public.

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B'cos in Nigeria, as we think (speakn as a chic) na only Ashawo woman dey kiss for public, nand if ur mama hear say u kiss for public u don die be that

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@ThiefofHearts

I'd be best for you not to continue, again I think it's funny that a place known for open sex in luxury buses is now acting like they are above public kissing

I still repeat my question have u seen anyone? Do u have one,two,three experiences where u caught anyone in the act? Whether u accept it or not we are a moral people, with a sound culture and values. We swallow hook,line and sinker everything western. It may work for them but for us it is not our culture. If u want to engage in PDA go ahead but remember do not try it in NAIJA.

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nonesense yall heard me right kissing in public is not nigerian thing!

na waaa ooo

make the talk dey go on then superman will be forced to prove his point

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Why are Nigerians shy about public kissing?

From the posts so far it appears that a lot of the Nigerians on this forum do kiss publicly whether at home or abroad.

I am aware,though, that many non-Nigerians, whether they be Caucasian, African-origin or Asiatic don't display there affections publicly.

So the question could have been better put as "why are some people shy about public kissing?", that way people would give there own personal reasons and not shoulder the burden of trying to speak for Naija people.

Some Nigerians don't kiss in public for as many reasons as their names are different.

Kissing in public has nothing to do with how liberated you think you have become but more to do with the persons rules for living that have been shaped by upbringing, culture, exposure, education, personal development and so on.

I don't feel comfortable about kissing in public. Period.

Yet i am happily married and have a great everyday romantic experience with my wife. She doesn't need me to display my affections for her in public to let her know how much i love her and appreciate her. She knows that's simply not my way of doing things. When we are alone in the house we know what we do together, whether in the bedroom, the sitting room, the kitchen, the garden, 

And i am not a hypocrite either.

If we want to do everything Oyibo's do, then let our men start kissing men in public, let's start having more transexuals, transvestites, peodophiles, necrophiliacs, ad nauseam, in our society.

Then we can begin to take our rightful place among the commity of developed nations. Nonsense!

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I'd be best for you not to continue, again I think it's funny that a place known for open sex in luxury buses is now acting like they are above public kissing

dude give me a break.

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@ThiefOfHeart well i dont know if i can continue with the argument. Theres no way you can be a thru Nigerian more than me. I was born and bred here. Na here too i go die. You been away too long and thats why you still have that parochial thought. Things are changing for the better. Where i come from in Nigeria things may not be too good but i don't think they are too bad either. Cause we just cant get every thing in life. Your idea of criticism as regards Nigeria is of the past.

weather you take it or not we just cant provide public road shows on the name of kisses as in the country you claim. Simply because most of us were not groomed that way. Come to talk about that how many times have we seen our mothers kissing our dad. but it is a common thing there. It is just one of the things we learn from the whites. There you can agree with me that kissing is not our culture.

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When in Rome, u do the Romans, australian

Must we imbibe everything? Moreoso, this kind?

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because all nigerian mouths are smelling

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"baby", Im a better one than you cos Im not in denial about Nigeria and the shortcomings of her people.

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@TOH

Wzup? Robber of the heart !

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u got me wrong baby. All i said was that it is not our culture. I did not condem any tribe no do i say it is wrong. Good for those who love it but it cant be easily done here. I question the kind of Nigerian you are. Sorry cause you dont sound like one.

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Sorry o! ThiefofHeart. How you came about this name? Well the part of Nigeria where i come from i no more hear of rituals. It could be happening in some part of Nigeria but i don't think its as bad as you portray.

There was a time in the history of this country when in Port Harcourt gals don't wear skimpy dresses or show any part of their body. There was a time when you don't even where sexy cloths. I remember when cloths where torn publicly on those who try to be headstrong.

Talking about the rest. Girl you can agree with me that there is no place on earth where every thing is perfect. Even in the country you stay we know that election was rigged some time but did any body die for that, no baby.

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ThiefOfHeart i don't know if you where born in Nigeria, If you have ever been to Nigeria and if you will ever be to Nigeria. And even if you been all that i don't know where you lived in Nigeria. The issue of rituals use to be rampant but today it is gradually becoming a thing to historically talk about. Of course every nation has a period in history when things don't go right even the country you are today. Nigerians can no more be associated with rituals. I think that you know Nigeria from the films you been watching.

Kissing is not our way of showing either love or affection thats why i said it is not our tradition. And let me remind you may be you been too long away from home. Nigeria is struggling to survive but the way you know her is gradually changing. Where you stay laws are made for convenience thats why getting married and divorce is a game. Marital contracts and all the rest does not work here cause there is still morals. Therefore weather you believe or not we as Africans generally find it difficult to kiss in public. Thats not to say that some do not. But the trend is not fashionable here cause theres still good morals.

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Have u seen anyone or ur are working on hearsay, even if people do engage in such an act they dare not do in the full glare of the public.

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Kissing in the public is not the culture in Nigeria, kissing on the other hand is part of our lives, we just do not go on public rampage about it, if u want to kiss please spare us the details and do it in private.

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Nigeria isnt an indivdual.

and I was replying to your comment about Nigeria being moral cos kissing isnt in the "culture". I'd rather kissing be in the culture than worse things like ritual killings and caste systems. which are way more "immoral"

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I do not want to be dragging this issue back and forth with u, my only opinion is that u treat each individual as a seperate person and do not believe because one individual behaves wrongly, it can be assumed that all individuals behave likewise.

Besides try meeting the right people and try being the right person and see if ur view will not change.

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exactly. few. very few.

Few isnt enough to say that Nigeria is a country of morals. Sorry.

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@ThiefofHearts

Yes the same good moral country known for ritual killings

Seriously who are you people fooling with your so called "morals"

There are still a few decent people who uphold values that are proper, please do not assume that we are all alike.

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Yes the same good moral country known for ritual killings

Seriously who are you people fooling with your so called "morals"

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