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Why Are So Many Brides Pregnant On Their Wedding Day?

It is now a common thing to see a bride that is obviously pregnant on her wedding day. So what is responsible for this phenomenon. It is not new, but it is becoming increasingly commonplace.

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cos marge simpson had to be pregnant with bart b4 homer could marry her

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Little wonder the tenor of divorce stats.

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on or b4 wedding date?

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They got down to business rather too early I suppose

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1st let me say am a christian bfore anyone critisize my observation.

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1. i believ the church wedding being an imported culture, does not expressly say the lady must not be pregnant.

2. Even the owners of this culture are seen to be pregnant and in some cases given birth to kid(s) before the ceremony yet are still allowed to wear white.

3. The issue should be not pre-marrital sex not not pregnancy. (*abi becos everybody no dey see the evidence as in pregnancy in other cases no make all bride virgins.

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The truth is that most men don't trust the sisters anymore.They want to be sure that the women they are married to still have wombs and can bear fruits. An elderly boss of mine even told me I must make sure my girl is pregnant before taking her to the altar or waka dey throw eggs around all the nearby streams/rivers.

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killing the babay is not the priority abi? but trapping a man into marriage is abi? its all shameless. how abt just not getting pregnant in the first place!!! woman like you make it hard for the good ones to be trusted!

im sure there are still ladies out there who dont have to trap a man into marriage all those ladies let me see your hands up!!

trapping men into marriage does not guarantee a furture. grow up!

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It ends up being single parenthood if the dude leaves despite doing the whole introduction stuff anyway.

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For those who don't know, in yoruba tradition, wedding ceremony is divided into 3 parts.

The Introduction: that is when a lady formally introduce her man to her family. This may not attract funfare. Just the families. Parents and couple on both sides. Minimum of 4 people complete the circle;

The Engagement: that is when traditional rites were done for the couple. This usually attract small crowd. Friends are allowed.;

The marriage ceremony: this is basically a carnival a feast, a celebration to announce official departure of a woman to her husband home. After this ceremony, a woman would be expected to be living permanently with her husband.

Many of us from the outside only read the announcement of wedding ceremony. At times they combine them together.

Technically, couple can sleep with one another after receiving the blessing of their parents. This happen during the Introduction. It was at that introduction that a date would be fixed for engagement and wedding.

The nature of engagemenu ceremony demand some tradition rites. Most of these rites are fetish in nature. Christain couple had therefore replaced them with Church rite". While muslims invites Imam. Thereafter we have the ceremony/reception.

MY POINT:

Seeing a pregnant wife on wedding MAY not translate to PREMARITAL SEX if they had passed through INTRODUCTION. I therefore disagree with people that generalizes on this topic.

At the same time, I agree with those who mentioned arrangee wedding. That is a situation where a lady get pregnant carelessly and has to quickly arrange a quickie wedding to avoid shame.

The bottomline: IF THEY ARE AT LEAST DOING THE WEDDING, IT IS BETTER THAN A SINGLE PARENTHOOD, ABORTION ETC. Let just congratulate them and wish them HAPPY MARRIED LIFE!

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Well that may not be the only reason. You have outlined the negatives without the positive. That is fallacious!

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Well that may not be the only reason. You have outlined the negatives without the positive. That is fallacious!

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to be sure of wetn you dey go keep for house life.

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bcosmen dey check the[b] ENGINE OF THE CAR [/b] wey dem won buy,2 be sure say d[b] ENGINE DEY GOOD[/b]if na u nko u no go check d motor before u buy am?

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If you want to do your own don't prsg and see what

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Who said anything about "pity"?   When we are randy and young and decide to have sex without "protection", we should be ready for the consequences including "unwanted pregnancy"!  I personally will rather suffer humiliation from all corners than "kill" or "abort" my child! My parents made that aspect very clear to me!  It is not about the man my dear.  It is about your life and your unborn child's life.  I can only hope most gals will protect themselves against unwanted "pregs"!  My papa tell me say if I carry belle---I must born am! So ladies take care of yourselves first and worry about the man later! 

If I was not married with children, I would prefer to be a single mother even if the man abandoned me!  Killling my baby is not an option, because I want to look like a "sexy" bride! It is all about what is important to the individual ladies! Piorities ladies, priorities!

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It shows d level of moral decandence in our churches! Such marriages hav faulty foundations already.i 4see more collapse in such marriages in d next 5yrs.

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It shows d level of moral decandence in our churches! Such marriages hav faulty foundations already.i 4see more collapse in such marriages in d next 5yrs.

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All your answers point in one direction.Premarital sex , A good number of those marriages are carried out mainly because the girls  got pregnant and by all indications, abortion is not an option considering the girls age and the number of times she had committed abortion in the past. For some others it is a deliberate carelessness on the girls part to finally nail the guy into marrying her. Some few guys on the other hand want to be sure that their wife to be has not lost the God given productive values to some promiscuous past through series of abortions and  careless past.

One thing however is common to marriages of this nature, they lack happiness and most end up breaking up because of the wrong foundation that was laid.

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there is no doubt abt dat but another thing is the problem brides are facing this days in the hand of their so call in-laws if after married they effectually have any delay. I av witness a situation whereby the bride have to leave the man and preffer to remain single after several years of married and no issue.

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thats just fertility test, once confirmed wedding fixed and invitation will exchange hands. before who wan marry fellow man, i should rather turn GUY period

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i just wonder why we girls never learn

if u make a man marry u using one trick or the other, u'll be the one to suffer, cos when the man realise u tricked him into marriage then all hell is let loose. Then u start seeing the animal in that man.

why would u want to hook a man not ready for marriage with pregnancy anyway. why do we like our men to marry us out of pity.

why would i compromise my happiness, my future, my home and everything that i'm meant to enjoy for a ring.

All the time a woman forces a man into marriage it's the woman that suffers.

it sucks that we women have lost hope in ourselves, we've lost our self esteem and we think a white dress with a protuding tummy is a good "consideration" for our pride !!

i think it's a very dirty.

let the guy marry u the way u are not because u want to sentiements since u are carrying a baby

i can go on and on.

it's just a shame

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iTS APPAULING!!!!!

An ex-boyfriend once told me that it was almost like tradition now for the women in his town to be pregnant. they want to be sure the girls st6ill have wombs and that they themselves are not shooting blanks.

some girls do it to force men to marry them, but wheres the joy or happiness in that? in skool there were a few girls that got pregnant and the guys bailed on them. now they are young single mothers and no young guy wants to even look at them at all.

i cant imagine not looking fit and sexy in my wedding dress. and as for the churches that condole this behaviour, shame on them.

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@ roadblock i agree with u 120% the maariage looks ok once the child is born as soon as the child starts growing the real man comes out and that is why we have a lot of married men cheating nowadays because they did not get married to their partner based on love for them but based on the partner getting pregnant ,,.we need to know the purpose of marrigae becos most nigerians seems to be loosing it

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b'cos churches dont mind wedding pregnant folks these days

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All your answers point in one direction.Premarital sex , A good number of those marriages are carried out mainly because the girls got pregnant and by all indications, abortion is not an option considering the girls age and the number of times she had committed abortion in the past. For some others it is a deliberate carelessness on the girls part to finally nail the guy into marrying her. Some few guys on the other hand want to be sure that their wife to be has not lost the God given productive values to some promiscuous past through series of abortions and careless past.

One thing however is common to marriages of this nature, they lack happiness and most end up breaking up because of the wrong foundation that was laid.

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infact this even happened to my sister i was just worried about the spite of this new happenings

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i have noticed thesame thing too

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I Thought i was the only one who took note.Its the order of the day.

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No trust! The man gotta make sure her lady is fertile.

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