«Home

Why Are There So Few Good Guys Out There?

I'm lucky to be with one but I know very few guys who are good. Meaning they treat their women well, don't cheat respect them and aren't abusive and all around good guys. Why are there so few of them?

Avatar
Newbie
37 answers

used to ask myself-any good girl out there.how come theyy all want to be prostitutes

0
Avatar
Newbie

the truth is naija women are abt the most confused in d world.today they will say that they want bad guys,now they want good responsible guys.

answer:what do u really want?u get what u want ?

0
Avatar
Newbie

Nah, I'm not focusing on any guy right now. But you can always point me in the 'right' direction if that's what you think.

Also, not every good guy suits every girl's taste. I know this sounds cliche, but a few good guys in my life are not too adventurous, but I think after a year of knowing them, I'm realising that they are just really focused on their future, you know, which is great, but initially it just looks like the person is not outgoing. And by the way, how am I to know that the guy who was chasing another girl last year and was crushing different girls every so often, would be the good guy at the end of the day?? How can I tell a genuine good guy when he plays up to the idea of 'bad guys', he doesn't want to seem sensitive or too caring because it'll make him look 'wimpy'.

Another good guy I know already has a crush on my close friend, and even he doesn't make it clear, she's realised how amazing he is and she is willing to make a few moves, ask him out on dates BUT when he told his friends he would make a move one night to ask her out, he never did, he didn't even acknowledge her, as far as she knew, he never liked her.

Not every guy can be 100% good, great or fantastic all the time. We're all humans, and it's this factor that confuses everything, because now she probably thinks that he's just looking for whatever comes his way, he's made no moves towards her since.

0
Avatar
Newbie

i think good girls like topup are too focused on the wrong set of dudes to even notice the good guys right in front of them. if ya know whatta mean

0
Avatar
Newbie

There are plenty of good guys.

I believe in the idea of every guy is a good guy at one point in his life, and a 'bad' guy at least once in his life. The length of this stage depends on the guy's personality and his environment.

I know a good guy, but I don't push him away, he merely does not make it clear what his intentions are, and before you know a bad guy will come and distract me (by pretending to be a good guy but offering much more including excitement and personality), the good guy so never makes any moves that would be too forward and is sometimes too safe. Not many girls will pursue a guy, however, if it is plain to see that a guy is a good guy and is not merely a player who is waiting for the fish to jump into his net then of course women would flock. But it's not that easy to see.

I am still waiting for the good guy to make it easier for me to see his intentions, because as far as I know, we are no more than friends.

0
Avatar
Newbie

It's like that old saying about diamonds-I just apply it to men:

"Good men are like diamonds, precious and rare-

Bad men are like autumn leaves, found everywhere!"

I am truly the believer of the diamond in the rough. If he was easy to achieve, then maybe he wasn't meant for you in the 1st place. Nothing worth having is ever easy to come by-so if I gotta work to find my good man-I'll be the hardest worker alive just to find happiness!

0
Avatar
Newbie

@ romeo4real. I agree with u

0
Avatar
Newbie

Most men would agree that the better u treat a woman, the more she takes the piss.

I have concluded that they really dont mean any malice, and just cant help themselves. They just have to push the boundaries.

The challenge is treating ur woman very well, but letting her know you will absolutely not tolerate any poo, and clamping down firmly when u see any nonsense on the horizon.

There are many good guys about, but most women just dont see them until they are gone, married to other women, or until they mature and put their priorities in perspective.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Don't always see fault on someone, try and make urself good first. Ur behavior might 've cause what brought ur statement. e.g

a lady who want to be luv must also make herself to be luvd. Don;t use what ur xboys and xgirls did to rate all Guys.

sometimes what u say shows what u are.

0
Avatar
Newbie

everybody think they are good in their own way, issue is relationship sometimes is work and the work is about readiness to change, 4 get about this goodness thing , xtimes, good people end up bad and bad pple end up good. The right man/woman is willing to consistently make the right compromises in attitude  etc.to make the deal work,  think right, not just good

0
Avatar
Newbie

. . . . .cos there r so many BAD gals out there.

0
Avatar
Newbie

@ poster, are you GOOD?

0
Avatar
Newbie

there are a lot of goog guys out there

but the truth is just dat na tight leg de cause tight hand

0
Avatar
Newbie

I'm lucky to be with one but I know very few guys who are good. Meaning they treat their women well, don't cheat respect them and aren't abusive and all around good guys. Why are there so few of them?

@sexyLeamon

U make me laugh because u sound so sure about your guy being good .he might b one of d bad Bottom liars.Just take ur matter to God.You can only be sure with God, not your boyfriend or any man.He sur might be good, but guys?guys, abeg leave matter.

I am very reserved but had to comment on this.I never cheated b4 or will never hopefully because I take my time b4 jumping into a rel.I really get to like,appreciate and cherish whoever it is I want 2date.I honestly ve real respect and genuine feelings when I date.I am there for whoever it is when she wants me to(as much as I can).But does all these qualify me or make me goooooooooooooooood, ?Finally, its God not Man.

@Sasha009

Shop in the right places,you would find the right and "good" one for you.There are lovely,lovable,cool,hussy-like,genlemen and chronic romantics around.

@bluespice

cos most of them are either gay, married, on the down low or dorks

in other words unavailable

thats being too narrow minded girl.There are very many "good" men around.Many havent found you.your attitude might be a factor too.Shop for men in the right places.thats all.

@Secretz

You have a point.but some people have gentle,good,etc that everywoman needs.for some what you consider 'good man' may not suit them n vice versa

@EVERYONE

Finding a good man starts with you being good as a woman.Same holds true for guyz.Be simple be kind be nice,be true,be free, be you.I assure you the best in any relationship.Just be you, be goood

Generally try being good yourself.I am out.Ciao

me@ michael.philips@rocketmail.com

0
Avatar
Newbie

@post, it's cos there are lots of bad gals out there who just don't give a fuc.k.

Besides, good guys plenty out there, oh! Some changed cos of de hard lesson wey 1 or 2gals don teach am, After all said and done, you (poster), u be good gal?

0
Avatar
Newbie

You may be  bad guy/girl, but not bad to everyone, some people may say u as good or bad, I have seen a lot of bad guys/girls who are nice to their boy/girl,

If he/she loves you, he/she won’t be that bed to you,

I think the situation of bad in a relationship is when love is not there,

That is the truth of it.

i'm sure every body will accept this.

0
Avatar
Newbie

It's always very funny how ladies point the 1st finger. So are we nt familiar with all the troubles ladies put the men thru all in the name of being in a relationship. Anyways, there are bad boys and girls. Girls play guys and men play ladies so it is in both ways.

On a serious note, relationship btw man and woman is the most complicated issue i hue ever tot of because it always come in different forms. And it as been like dat seems the days of how fathers and it will still be until the end of time.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Hmmm!! Search harder. Dem plenty

0
Avatar
Newbie

Totally agree with u. Then again it depends on her definition of 'good' guy

0
Avatar
Newbie

There are around, if one bothers to see

0
Avatar
Newbie

The Good things in life could be really hard to get including we "MEN".

0
Avatar
Newbie

@poster

reason is simple, there are so few good guys cos there are very few good girls. think,

0
Avatar
Newbie

There are plenty of good guys out there. Women just don't appreciate them when they come around. When they're done rubbing his nose in dirt and treating him like an effeminate piece of poo, they leave. That alone is enough to make him go bad.

And then there are those women who do have good guys in their lives, but since they're not ready for what the good guy has to offer, they take him for granted and do things to push him away. Then there are those women who make the excuse that a "good guy" is not "bad enouh" . They are confused souls. It's either you want a goodie or a baddie. make up your mind.

0
Avatar
Newbie

cos most of them are either gay, married, on the down low or dorks

in other words unavailable

0
Avatar
Newbie

@Topic.

Becos Women have made us corrupt and nw we're wise and our eyes are open.

0
Avatar
Newbie

What a woman can do. . .

[flash=200,200]

" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="445" height="364"></embed>[/flash]

0
Avatar
Newbie

I am still wondering what u mean by good guys.

I am a guy who likes it when my girl RESPECTS me. I mean a girl who is loyal to me. If you are with me in the public, you dont try shine with me infront of ur friends. U should disrespects my friend, u go to any length to please me, just as u know i will do for u.

to get all these, I am a little(not too much) strict, I dont take some of her normal woman nonsense.

Am I a good or bad guy?

0
Avatar
Newbie

I support your comment

0
Avatar
Newbie

Reason why there re few good men around is because the really good men re all taken. The rest re probably still unlucky enough. You know a lot of girls prefer bad boys? That's just the way it is, bad boys make them feel good. bad boys re charismatic, full of crap, smooth words, lies and they re obviously better in bed, so the girls automatically(like robot) fall for these bad boys, thus leaving the good guys.

You always want what you cant have, so the bad boys always get all the girls, this attract girls, seeing he ha a lot of girls at his beck and call, making them fall more in 'lust' with him , until he uses and dumps them of course.

That's the cycle of life, i don't think it can change.

0
Avatar
Newbie

Me personally If I like a woman I just go after her basically, all this books, online techniques etc on how to attract a gilrl to me personally dont know about some guys is like waste of time, It doesnt work trust me if come to a girl explain my feelings toward you and you said no so be it cant kill myself, see guys we have to face and talk about reality yeah if it is a nigeria girl cant be bother to continue tosting her not all 9ja girls here but some of them, I simply walk away and look for another one, simple like ABC

Tthis my personal comment, please I wouldnt like to be abuse or using foul words against me, is a free world

0
Avatar
Newbie

when you hear a woman tell you

my husband is good, that means the man don fall mugu for the wifey be that

na him de cook, wash cloth, take children to school, pay for every thing

and to top it all HE CALLS HER MUMMY

infact she has turn him into a complete JACKASS

0
Avatar
Newbie

I think the prob is that 'some' women are looking for ready-made bf, they don't want to bring anything to the rela/ship apart from attitude, moaning all time about what the guy did not do for them.

They read a book on how a guy should treat his gf and go out looking for that quality in a guy.

Some guys will not give a monkey about ur looks if u got hurrible attitude. Take for a example, some girls want to date a guy who got a good job but she is jobless, how does that work? U want to date a guy with 6pack but u are bloody FAT, what do u expect?

0
Avatar
Newbie

Let his actions be his judge.

Another good guy I know already has a crush on my close friend, and even he doesn't make it clear, she's realised how amazing he is and she is willing to make a few moves, ask him out on dates BUT when he told his friends he would make a move one night to ask her out, he never did, he didn't even acknowledge her, as far as she knew, he never liked her.

0
Avatar
Newbie
Your answer
Add image

By posting your answer, you agree to the privacy policy and terms of service.