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Why Can't U Be Matured?

I have noticed that guyz (not the dumb ones now) often look for matured babez to settle down with. I wanna ask why they cannot be matured too. Girlz also want matured guyz. Not some mummy's boy that cannot think beyond his ego/friends/football/gadgets. . .

Just thinking. . . If u want a matured girl, why can't u develop yourself too and be matured while u search for the babe.

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I think the problem only arises when the two people are on completely different wavelengths. I have seen mature guys date immature girls, and it works, I have seen it work the other way around as well. But when the lady is so mature that it intimidates the guy, then there is a chance for something to go amiss. The guy can feel dominated, predictable - and guys don't like seeming predictable or managed or handled by anyone.

Another is when a mature guy is with an immature girl, he might have visions about the type of future they could have, if only she was more ready for it, but instead her childish behaviour can have him appreciating her genuine character but not appreciating all the drama that she brings along with it.

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quote from Tgirl "If u want a matured girl, why can't u develop yourself too and be matured while u search for the babe."

i think some folks while looking for matured babes, don't polish up their own maturity because to them they have attain that level of maturity that they deem appropriate or mature enough.

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i kinda agree with you, if you want a matured partner/spouse you have to be matured yourself. in other words be the change you want to see in others

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Anyways, thanks for the add-on.

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I agree with u too Mr. Lol

@ Toyin, it has nothing to do with NL threads. It's a general observation and I believe we can all learn from it.

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U are right Ogidi. Though this thread is directed at d sensible ones.

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Not all ladies or guys out there are looking for the matured type, some ladies are looking for that mommy's boy so the can control him and always have the last word.

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Another thing I have noticed is that, we can be matured in an area while working on another area of our lives. But, generally we are ok.

The crux of the thread is to make us look within. Like u said earlier Pataki, I may have sum'n I am looking for in a guy. The question is, am I also working on myself? Will the kind of guy I am looking for be interested in me when he sees me?

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He has a point, fine. Being finacially or spiritually stable isn't the same as being matured. I expect that we mature and grow wiser as we increase in age and face life's challenges. But, still, some donot. The way u handle a situation determines how matured u are.

A guy that can balance between the time he spends with family/game/friends/work and his babe is matured in my opinion. A guy that knows how to apologise to his babe when he is clearly at fault is also a good example. Not an egoistic guy that thinks he is always right.

A woman that knows how to voice her disagreement without raising the roof, disrespectful or kill her hubby's ego is one matured woman. A woman that earns more than hubby and is still a respectful, and submissive wife is sure better than the one that brags.

I just believe, maturity can be seen in one person by 2 different people.

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i agree with this tgirl.

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When I take a stand, I am being bull-headed.

When my boss does it, he's being firm.

from  My Boss and I

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If a lady says she wants a man who is well established, financially, socially, spiritually etc. . . . . of course whatever standards she set is based on her exposure. Her exposure is determined by her maturity.

So I believe my point is absolutely right.

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@ Pataki, u are not absolutely right. It is not a matter of preferences. An immature guy is simply immature.

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Maturity is relative my dear. What you count as maturity may not be acceptable to another lady as 'maturity'. What is most essential is that you find what you looking for in a man. Get your priorities right, and if he does not have them, move on.

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Of course, this applies to the ladies too. If we expect to end up with a matured guy, we also need to develop ourselves. Curb certain excesses and be that woman any decent guy will love to take home to mama.

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