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Why Do Females First Pretend Not To Be Interested In A Relationship?

Why do ladies pretend at first. Is it that they Don't want guys to think they are easy?

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Is that what you think? Oyo lo wa......

If I have serious feelings for you and you play very hard to get I wil simply walk away cause at the back of my mind if i eventually get you I will believe you gave i to the pressure and will leave when you find someone you truly care bout.

DOnt get it twisted lady. Not all guys are the same - different strokes for different folks

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It's not so much that we pretend or don't want guys to think we are easy you know, *it's more so we take the time

to analyze certain things. We use past experiences and what we are being told to assess the promises and the circumstances.

*Women are natural thinkers. We don't like to be hurt. *We turn into monsters when we are taken advantage of but when we feel a guy

is worth the effort we humble ourselves. Why jump into a relationship knowing on 'his side' it's not serious? *We are cautious and for good reasons.

(*Generally speaking.)

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I like it when gals form reasonably ( I mean reasonably o). Some girls get mean in the process of 4ming loose out generally.

When a girl over-forms, the guy may just do hit and run too just to prove a point.

I'm of the opinion that a decent relationship should start from PURE Friendship the move to the next level

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Hard or cheap wouldn't help any matter because useless guy will always be useless even if you give him hard time.

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For caution, it just needs to be done sometimes, but moderately

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Haba, ! Na which kain topic bi dis one, ? Abi una won tell me say una no no say shyness na feminine em dey answer. Even fowl wey rooster dey chase u no see as em go dey run lik say she no want, but na thesame fowl go lye,cari nyassh up make the rooster do em work.How much human, ! Ma broda na soo,nobi say the thing no dey sweet them or say the no get interest for'am but na so God cari do am make em be shaar.Na wetyn man go do, ? Abi u no go marry, ? But babe make una dey make am eazy for the bobos noooowwww, !

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Pls i want 2 know why ladies after u sent them a recharge instead 2 call u they will start flashing u.so why wont they pretend?

Something i need to clear up.

ladies pls don't blad

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Good things are not easily get but bad ones is for dash, anyway na scope i mean shakara dey disturb them

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i don't c it as pretending i c them studyin

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hi lioness and D KING i think a girl fronts to know how long u can hold on, and how sincere you are cos girls aint loving players anyway.

opeluv2go@yahoo.com

ope say so

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that's female we pretend in everything

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we wanna know if the guy is really serious that's

why we pretend,

but we know we like it

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@simmy

sorry for calling you slimmy earlier (got it from 4real's last post).

na tru u yan my brother. but i'm sure you know that girls also have their wahala? even when you want to be true and give your all, they play dirty behind our backs. so then again, PLAYAS can keep up their game (but on the down low).

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I wonder why women think only serious guys are ready to wait. I'm the kind of guy who'll do whatever it takes to get what he wants. If i want you, i'll wait till you're ready and still f, k you and dump you if that was ny original plan! So why not give in to me now so that i can dump you now instead of postponing the inevitable

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well Mr African 4REAL ,  don't get me wrong here,  I'm not saying a lady should not be domestic,  mind u it's all about d waiting game isn't ? why should I waste my good qualities on a man who wants 2 HIT and RUN,  thinking that I could bait him or make him change his mind? if he truly loves me he'll wait till I'm mentally ready , besides not all men are good in bed anyway,  I once dated this boy whom I did not sleep with for one SOLID year, sincerely I did not cheat on him at all ,  and eventually when I did phew!! he was rubbish ! soft Attention, two minutes noodles ! I was so disappointed that it wasn't worth d wait,  a man might think it's hit & run while d lady doesn't want 2 stay either,

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well @beyonce1 i said that if you think that the waiting game will help you to know who is Mr. right and who is notk, then you have got another thing coming, or should i say you are wrong, cause most guys would wait for you, what am saying is that it does not matter if you say yes today or you say yes next year, if the guy wants to hit and run , he would hit and run, but if you behave like an African Queen, then he could change his mind, 90% of the time we do, you can it been a slave, well if you want to use the word, i guess you stay in london, fine you can stay there and be the master in your house and if the white man leaves you after 3 months, don't cry, what am saying is here in Nigeria, it is not looked upon as a slave, she is taking care of her husband and her family, i have a friend his wife woman, sends her daughters to their husbands house with a full kitchen i mean every thing in the kitchen, pls if your husband ever comes to Nigeria, ask him not to come to calabar, cause he is a gone man, what you consider to be a slave Job, is what they would do for him, they would make him fill like a king and believe you me, he won't be coming back home again, so sister instead of loosing a very good brother to another girl, be his slave, and let him be your king, do things for each other, so if any other person wants to do it for him , he remembers that he has an African Queen at home, and would always come back home to your hands

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It's just how we are created. We have the natural instinct to do that. Even animals do that.

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a girl's gotta act tough but then i dont think there's the need for a girl to act ''hard to get'', i mean if it's really love, then none of you will even be thinking about whether or not she was cheap because she said yes toooo fxcking quickly i dont see that to be love

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@4real, what exactly do you want from your girl ? u can't eat your cake and have it ! initially u were saying a girl should't take her time in getting involved with a man, u referred 2 this as wasting her time while u 'll be the patient vulture waiting 4 d kill , then u expressed how much u desire 2 acquire a proper african queen who can cook, wash , be your slave, so and so , how would u have a heart/eyes wide enough to see all these qualities when all u initially had in mind was HIT AND RUN ? guys like u always have difficulty of achieving the right LADY, cuz they can never differentiate !!

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@lioness

and just how am i supposed to do that when stuff on your profile's hidden?

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@4real

i was referring to fluffy's statement, mr. and the message to lioness was because we hadn't talked for a while.

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my guy why are you wasting your time, don't you know what thread you are in

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there is a local saying that goes "the patient dog eats the fattest bone and this happens after the sharper dog has eaten all the flesh". which means that while my guy is patiently toasting the chic, somebody else is wounding (hitting) her already.

@lioness

sorry about my silence. i just got back from my 72hr-ban tour. so darl', where do we meet (us alone) for the eye test?

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Most guys conclude they r cheap if they are agree fast.

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it is one of those things

it is very intresting

for a girls to pretend,tease

there so much fun in it

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Beyonce, that gurl's got some wit about her. she's been attacking all da posts in here, ,.welcome tho, lol

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well B, seems like you've dated too many of them. is/are there any on board now?

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Thanx IBB,  I wouldn't agree with the point that a lady pretends, why can't men be honest for once? according to my past experiences, all the guys who did the chasing proper b/4 I finally gave in, r the ones who still respects me till now and wouldn't even mind setttling down with me if I agree to,  Ladies don't minds these BOYSSSSS,  deep in there mind they know the truth !

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beyonce1,

welcome to nairaland.

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4real, I honestly do not think you r real AT ALL , what do you know about a lady's mind ? If you just want an easy fling I'm sure you know where you need to go to, so u wouldn't really need to CHAAAAAAAAAAAAASE !!!

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to me i think when a lady tells you if she likes you and does not waste your time as a sign of maturity, that means she knows what she wants and old enough to go for it, na only does small one's go dey waste man time

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@papermoon

are you in a relationship now?

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my experience?

well i kept a guy on the hold for mo dan 4 years, n its not like im boasting but i really discovered dat the real test of love is time. n time proved rite, today we r together (altho he is outta de ctry) no matter the distance i kno his lov for me is strong n i even trust him betta now.

Shame to guys wo seem in a hurry , if u r really interested in a lady u wld b much mo patient cos u know how serious ur feelings r but if u r in sm hurry go look 4 them girls wo r in de same hurry as u, them fast girls dat say yes n e time ne were to n e 1.

i got deep respect for all them sistahs who take their time, most women fall inlove with all their heart while only few men do so really we r on the stiff side so we will take it cool.

pls comprende.

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Actually i have no idea y they do this. Even when they really like u & u can tell. This stuff kinda puts me of coz i dont see the sense in a girl checking u out from a distance & then when u come to say hi she starts acting unfriendly or like she doesnt like u. At that point i'l turn back & never come back, girls really need to make clear what they want. As for not seeming cheap!!?? thats total rubbish. I feel more comfortable with girls that make their intentions clear & not those that b blowing hot & cold its ridiculous

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everything is a test because no woman ever wants to feel used.

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n all d beautiful NL ladyz postin on dis topic shld also share their experience(s) if dey dont mind.

i love y'all!!!!!!

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@IAH

so can u gimme a lil insight on how ur last bfs' swept u off ur feet?

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i dnt think they pretend.

i think we r just being careful, observant n reasonable, one doesnt just jump into the lake of love like dat, incase we drown. we take all necessary precautions first n it usually takes time.

oky.

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@lioness

2mr, dem go complain say omo boys too dey vex. do u kno how many binocular-makers r disturbin my fone jus cos am waitin 4 an answer 4rm u? dis is jus simple "YES or NO". abi beko?

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O boy 4real, lower your voice!,, which kin talk be that? anyway sha, sometimes the prize money aint worth the wait, ,

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omo for me she waste my time, well the length of time she take me poss na the same length of time i go Bleep her and then when we are even i dump her

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@lioness

oh baby, u kno say seyi gimme 1hr suspension last nyt cos of xcess coded-yans?!?!?! i bow 2 d guy level oooo!!

4 d glasses, wld u mind if i recommend binoculars? u dont hav 2 pretend cos dis is not toastin. jus a kind gesture wit luv 4rm my heart.

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@Aduraseyi

my dear, u hav a point. when u use d word drill, e b lyk say na defence academy we dey. but e b lyk say u neva meet sum colo men. dey'r very ready n willin 2 take all d insults, humiliations n wateva u hav 2 offer jus 4 u 2 giv him a chance. afta much persistence, u'll believe he's 4 real n fall in2 his pit of "love". spend a lil tym 2geda n u'll c his uda syd. n GOD help u 2 survive d aftermath of d way he's goin 2 ditch u.

MEN- horrible

WOMEN- terrible

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@wakabout

only ur name is enuf 2 scare any girl. btw us guys (jus me n u), do u think wit her u'll hav a sworn affidavit wit change of name to "stay1place"?

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yeh! i get you but most girls feel that way because thats what a lot of the guys do

are you gonna do that

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well well well, me i don't dig all that fronting, the thing is it gets out of hand most times, am not saying that girls should not take their time, but pls don't over do it, i had a girl once who liked me she came over to my place and we kissed and all, you know touching and the likes, i asked her out and she started fronting, i really liked her but men dat was silly of her cause after that it ended there

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lioness, u'r very correct! such boys can b real bad news. d girl is d 1 wu shld control such situation since d joker's in her hand. if na "knack n discharge" n u aint dat kinda girl, FLEE!!!!!!

sum how sum way, we can relate 4min 2 lyin. dere r tymz wen a girl say she dont want d guy but deep insyd of her, she's burnin up. so wen owola 4M say she b V n bros discova say na LIE,,

minwyl, y r u to fit not can undastand simple word wey person typ?

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