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Why Do Guys Break A Caring Woman's Heart?

I have been trying to figure out why guys actually ditch a lady, even when a lady is very caring, nice and pretty.

One answer keeps popping up on my head, Choice. These days its just so difficult having someone that you feel its right for you, because, there are just too, too, many ladies. No offences meant pls. Have examined myself, and 95% of the relationship i left, were simply becos i found' a better lady' or more attention, That i think is a no 1 cause of breakup

Any more reason why guys ditch a girl?

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What a brilliant point I have been trying to always get across on NL!

Some women even think men should be punished for wanting to leave a relationship through divorce courts.

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Hearts are broken, no, Egos are crushed when people expect others to fulfill their self indulgent expectations. Love is not owed to you, neither is lifetime commitment, A person that loves you today reserves the right to feel differently at any given time. Remember, there's no logic in emotions.

Another thing, being 'caring' is not one size fits all, the pretty lady's way of caring may not fit with the receiver's way of feeling cared for. This is life chick, not the cookie cutting factory. Most people do not sadistically plot to take hearts through shredders just for the heck of it, they just get done with the job of loving you and have to move on to a new phase in their lives. Who are you to demand that they inconvenience themselves just to safeguard your lil heart. No one is that relevant,

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Which kain yeye heart are we talkin about?

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op

becos dere heart re fragile,

so it breaks easily.

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It can also be said backwards. Why do Women break a caring guy's heart? Whether you like it or not, people will ALWAYS look for the next best thing that fits their needs. Both men and women are victim to that, and none are innocent.

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This is very well stated. Good post !!!

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^^

Can't believe you just typed all the content in the bible just b'cos of this useless topic!

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We are all human beings and subject to our emotions. You cannot be attracted to someone for eternity. At some point, whatever it was that attracted you to that person fades away and you find yourself stuck with two decisions : either to endure being unhappy and miserable in the relationship or move on for the better good of both parties.

I know guys that felt obligated to marry women they had dated for years because the ladies were "nice,caring and loving" and didn't want to break their hearts. Today, after few years of marriage those women have turned into dragons from the abyss of hades and the guys feel like mice in a cat's cage. Is that life? Why stick to someone because of pity?

About a year or more ago, i opened a thread on here about the difficulties i was having with my relationship (she was playing games with me). 90% of the posters advised me to kick her to the curb while the rest advised me to give her one more chance. I succumbed to sticking to her for a bit more because i didn't want to "break her heart". Now, the same things that happened then are starting all over again although this time, i am not bothered coz if not for anything, it's a breath of fresh air having been stuck with dating one person for over 4 years without cheating or dating anyone else for that matter.

My point is, once i break of this relationship (which i will do very soon), the whole world will call me an insensitive monster who broke the heart of a "loving,caring" lady but like they say, he who wears the shoe, knows where it hurts. Guys don't just break up like that. There is always something going on at the background that the guy might not be comfortable talking about because of his ego e.g if the lady's cheating on him. Not many guys feel proud to announce to the world that they got cheated on. They just call it off and move on while the lady goes around telling the world how she "gave her heart and soul" to him and the just lost a priceless gem. . .bla bla bla. She will never tell them of Tom,Dickson and Harry that are "just friends" with her playing in the sheets.

Men break hearts. Women break hearts. The cycle continues and heavens will not fall. Deal with it and move on.

End of!

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I dont know y guys are not contended

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^^lol na my word make u dey find up and down o!, fine dudes don't shout but if u get intouch wit me in real life u will be willing to lick d tips of my toes.

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^^

Bless you broda, the best post so far!

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it is just the same reason a woman breaks a gentle mans heart.

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treating people as important is different from caring for them. you care for someone when they have a genuine need. but you make them someone important but just caring and failing to answer the quetios of what need it is for, so what you get is they act all important and treat you with contempt.that is why God requires that we ask to receive

In a relationship a woman must know the inward needs of the partner through observance and communication , but if the women just does anything good it would not be important to the man cause he does not need it.

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there is no trust in them,

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The toto don tire u my bro,

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The basis of love determine the aftermath

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wonderful abi, and everyday women are in fact shattering men heart, lets just say becos of the acronym --weaker vessels,

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When a woman breaks a guy's heart, it's swept under the rug as "one of those things" but when a guy breaks a woman's heart. . .it makes the front page on nairaland.

Wonderful.

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4 God's sake, Who The F*ck is perfect?

why do ladies break a caring man's heart?

I hate 1 sided gist,

too much of everything is bad, that's the simple reason.

Perfection is beyond this world.

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having the ability to control your desires and impulses.

ie. a disciplined guy will stay in d library to study for an exam while his friends are out partying.

       a disciplined man will save his money in d bank while his friends are buying new cars and rolex.

       a disciplined man will be faithful to his wife while his friends are cheating on their wives.

the opposite of a disciplined man is an impulsive man. i'm sure you know what impulsive means. abi u want me to define that one too?

the impulsive man may seem more fun to hang out with though. partying, cars etc while the disciplined guy may seem boring. just life.

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^^^ You will know you have had a caring woman after you've lost her

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how will i know a caring woman?

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who says its a mans world? d trend has changed this days oh, u see a woman ditching a man in lieu, think this still boils down to the fact that men are by nature polygamous,

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jst b'cos they r too available.

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OP, you are very correct. 

unfortunately some women think with their hearts and not their brains so they fall easily for such guys.

it is a no brainer that an entertainer personality (musician, athlete or guys who loves attention, dress flashy etc) is more likely to cheat than a nerd, austere or disciplined man.

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and where did you get that idea from??

I'll have you know, though it may be unbelievable, that there are people out there who can boldly hold up their hand and say they haven't commited fornication or adultery. and their only sexx partner has been their life partner.

so pls think proply before u write such things.

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I CAN GIVE FIVE REASONS :

FIRST ******* IS BECAUSE THERE IS NO LOVE IN NAIJA

SECOND *****IS BECUASE THEY DONT TAKE CARE OF THEIR HEART INSTEAD THEY TAKE CARE OF YOU

THIRD ******BECAUSE THERE IS SO MANY STOCKBROKERS THAT TAUGHT PEOPLE HOW TO BRAKE HEART INSTEAD

FOURTH******BECAUSE THEIR HEART IS SOFT AND FRAGILE

FIVE ********BECAUSE THE BEAUTIFUL HEART ARE NOT YET BORN

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They are our property & we own them

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i would rather commit suicide than to break her heart.i mean my fiancee

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^

but in the end, one way or another, the impulsive guy will end up losing out and he will just be looking at the disciplined guy moving higher thinking "if only. . ."

trust it pays to be disciplined note to self: need to be more disciplined!

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A MAN WAS NOT BUILT FOR ONE WOMAN, AND A WOMAN WAS NOT BUILT FOR ONE MAN; ITS THE SOCIETY AND RELIGION THAT MANUFACTURES THE WORD "MARRIAGE" TO TAKE POSSESSION OF WOMEN. AND NO WOMAN AND MAN CAN SWEAR THAT THEY HAVENT PHUCK OUTSIDE THEIR MATRIMONY.

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Because the caring lady cares for every man that comes her way, and her beauty is a treat to her been faithful

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we break their hearts so that we can see the content of their hearts.

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This is SO true, when there's so much choice, who would want to settle down, that's why men get married older, they have fewer choices.

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Well I know I might sound a lil' cold but really I feel if anyone wants to leave, he or she should be allowed to leave. I know it is painful(very painful as a matter of fact) but you would get over it. I really think the issue of heartbreak is overrated. You should not hold anybody against their wish. 10 years broken relationship is by far better than 2months marriage. Learn to release people for the best. That is the only way to heal quick and understand that people have a right to be with whomever they so wish.

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I personally think that romance is a little overrated in this generation.

oI mean you hardly meet people these days without them bringing up the issue of romance.

Like it's onte of the most important things in one's life.

It sometimes gets sickening to the extent of one partner breaking up with the other just to face his/her life.

It doesn't necessarily mean he/she wants to break the other partner's heart intentionally.

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The youths nowadays' education is going to the junkyard.

Why the hell do people feel the need to write in text language on a forum?

I struggle so hard to read the junk, it is quite annoying.

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With what our economy is saying today, it is had to get a relationship that is up to three to four years without the hurge to back-off. There's nothing called natural love. You most have seen some physical features in her before you grew/fell in love, nd once you see or feel that thing too often it then begins to loose its value.

The fact is no guy will want to stick to a one lady without him gaining something from her and vice-versa. Dubble dating or gilting has being in existence before the birth of Jesus Christ. So flex boy.

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everyman is by nature, promiscuous. besides, talk truth, e no get who (man) wey no like woman. na self control na e dey make the difference

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heartbroken? call me on 018716617. i will love u. Period.

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i disagree, some relationship still go on regardless of the girls cookery or home skills, but choice, i maintain and improper definition is the major cause of breakups, and how do u then eliminate 'over choice'?

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@suruged, you are a bad influence.wat do you mean by "how else can one console them"?

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na wa 4u oo,hw do u mean na? some big gurls are very irresponsible ooo

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Because Men where designed with their brains between their legs. THE END

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@Ibo made, God bless u for ur comment. U'r right on track!

@d bigrod, U'r right lyk "Nike" brov!

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Sometimes people have become so used to being treated unkindly in relationships that when they meet the decent ones who treat them in the manner they deserve to be treated they assume that this is not real, this is not how relationships should be. They try to stir up trouble so that the other party responds harshly in a way they have being accustomed to, but if they are loved even in their inadequacies they view the other party as being weak or not genuine.

You find women who claim that if their boyfriends do not beat them they can never last in such relationships, you hear guys say if their girlfriends are not vulgar or display one negative behaivour or the other they cannot be with such a girl. We have become so used to the wrong things in life and relationships we have forgotten how it feels to be treated and loved right.

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nobody is even trying to talk bout the most basic aspect of a relationship,neatness and respect from ur gurl.I left my gurl cos i found out she couldnt just do her duties as a woman,Can u imagine staying with a gurl in ur house and u re always forced to do the chores like washing the bathroom,cleaning the house generally,wot bout her general cleanilesss,after trying to change her without success,i had to ditch her chikena!

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cos some women cant differenciate the diff btw being caring and being silly,

most times when they think they r being caring---they r just projecting stupidity

no body likes a push over and some ladies think that being agreeable makes u a more wifey material----bullshit

i know some ladies start acting too nice to a guy cos they think guys like nice gals another big bullshyte

i like people that are genuinly nice---i bloody hate people that pretend to b nice cos they think u will like them betta

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[color=#000099]This post got my attention,cos my 8month old rship is abt to end or just ended, My man is sooo into himself n just wants everything to be abt us, He's like dis,I dont bother myself with things dat dont concern me,he luvs just sitting at home after work n wkends,infact he doesnt like company,asides mine n some of his close frds, which he rarely visits/allow come visit, Anyways,we had a lil misunderstanding n he's dragging d issue n not owing up to his manly responsibilities n am like in oda words,wht re u [color=#000099][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000][/color]driving at, He popped d words n till date am still stunned, dis is a guy,I rilly luved n made so much sacrifices for, too bad,cos in as much as am hurting,he's lost a PRICELESS GEM! SO DIS GUY DID BREAK A CARING WOMAN'S HEART AND I WONDER Y? ITS ALL GUD, GOD KNWS BEST, ! [/color] [/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000]

my dear if what  u describe of your ex is true I must say u have miss a real gentle man,I think u feel your ex is not  sociable enough in your estimation deep in your heart. I am like your  guy,and my gal is always thanking God for giving her somebody like me,after her past experience with  the so called social guys.

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