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Why Do Guys Keep Dumping Me?

I am sure a lot of ladies can relate with this, when i was in uni, i used to wonder why, most of my mates had steady relationship and i didn't. my longest relation barely made 1yr and we drifted apart( kind way of saying my Bottom was dumped}

1O yrs on, i see people around me making the same mistake i used to.

I would like for guys and ladies to give reasons why most relationships don't work or the secret to sustaining a good relationship.

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A girl might be fine - she might be ugly. However once they have started going out - it is not the physical looks and attributes that make a man leave you. It is something from the following.

- Lack of integrity

- Dirtiness

- Communication Problems

- Attitudinal Issues

- Expenses - Financial Stupidity

- Lack of desire to improve oneself (mentally, spiritually, physically)

- Lack of Wisdom

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I will dump if i hear and experience things as follow: 1. Give me all da time 2. I dont have all da time 3. Sometimes ur pusy stinks 4. Not aware of goings on around (local n international)

5. Dis respect

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much dependence on guys will make a guy dump you fast then do not often sleep with this guy and try as much as possible to look beautiful

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just check yourself deeply i.e your projection

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I am seeing a girl at the moment, but will most certainly dump here. 1 and only 1 reason: she wants me around too much, and me being a busy guy can't always be around. So am thinking going our separate ways is most proper

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am 27 i don't know if you can manage me.  I'm serious and ready for marriage let me know if you interested.

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The fact is relationships in most cases have an EXPIRATION DATE.

Most of the long ones and those who end up in marriage are based on their mutual destiny, smart or just lucky.

In most relationships in Nigeria, BE SMART AND NEVER TRUST YOUR PARTNER and learn from the mistakes of others.

HAVE A PLAN B OR EXIT STRATEGY.

You can give your time away, but do not give your heart away until you are happily married.

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THIS POST IS A WASTE,

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don't show the guys that come around that u are desperate

try as much as posible not to allow sex for the first six month

try to control your feelings towards the guy untill u are sure he is commited

don't do all the call make sure if u talk 4times daily he is call 2 while u call the remaining 2

try to look good like making your hair wear tings that make u look young and that talk as if without him u are finished and make sure u are neat and use good rolon

try not to be too demanding and at the same time don't spend too much for him till u are sure he lv u

don't push marriage to him let him be the one to say it first

and be prayerful always tell God what u want in your relationship gooluck

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@ synthesis, nothing wrong wiv my package

all i said is i may not attract as many customers as brand no 1 or 4, but brand loyalty is very fierce (dont get it fckin twisted mate, brand loyalty is not standard issue), i am brand nos 2

i.e i am quite attractive but i am not the most beautiful gal in the room, that all the guys would be drooling over i.e brand nos 1 or 4

i know ur just trying to b sarcastic, u know wat suit ur blooody self

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Nice analogy VivalaDiva!! I'm going to link to it from my blog!!

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I no fit laugh oøoøoøh! Now fools don arrive dis thread.

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Go beg ur grandmum. Then go to church for deliverance. They problem is in you and not the guys. Maybe your attitude, your person. Start by changing yourself. Your attitude

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they dump u because ur Kitty-Cat smells badly

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because u have not repented and given ur life to Christ.

once u do God will gv u a lasting relationship dat wnt last more dan 1yr and den marriage wil spring forth from it.

Be BORN AGAIN

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A lady will likely get dumped (now or eventually) for any of the following reasons. (Please note that this is not in any particular order).

1.   Physically assaulting a man (for whatever reason) do it, 98% of the brothers will never marry you. Trust me.

2.   Leaving dirty dishes in the kitchen for more than 24 hours although she was home all day.

3.   Waking up in a man's bed and not making it

4.   Not knowing how to hold a good conversation

5.   Being overbearing.

6.   Lying there like some heavy log of wood during love-making.

7.   Not knowing how to manage scarce resources. (got 100k and wants to spend it all on a single Christian Louboutin bag during a financial low)

8.   Not knowing how to make simple rice and stew.

9.   Talking too much to friends about intimate issues concerning the relationship

10. Nags continuously during a football game. (The dumping will come faster if she plants herself in front of the TV and nag during the game)

Hope this helps.

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@topic

do the men give any reason for dumping you? 

@jennykadry:

In a relationship case, men don't usually reveal the exact reason for dumping women, and if a guy dumped you today it means he had planed it atleast three to six months earlier but decided to lean back until the the time is ripe enough to act.

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First, don't say yes if you don't actually love the guy.

Be determine and don't over love.

Be jealous, careful and vigilant to know when your guy starts looking side ways.

make sure you keep your guy, don't allow him to hunger for love, sex or care.

Dress neat and look attractive always.

Do your best and be real and prayerful, please avoid initial pretenses.

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Above all d advise, you need prayer. pele,

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In my own opinion there are various reasons why a relationship wont work based on the people involved. One major issue is compatibility and by compatibility, i mean SPIRITUAL COMPATIBILITY, PHYSICAL COMPATIBILITY, EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY, INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY AND SOCIAL COMPATIBILITY. There has to be a greater amount of similarities between the tow than there are differences. COMMUNICATION is another issue. For example, when a man hurts his woman, some women would keep it inside of them for days rather than come out with it upfront and make the issue escalate beyond normal. Couples have to learn to be honest with each other. TRUST is another major issue. If there is no trust, there is no love. There are so many more i can think of but let me stop for now and hear what everyone else thinks

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That statement has just made ma day.

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@OP

are you searching for a mate?

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Damn! I guess poster shud work on her brand according to previous brand analysis. Btw poster must be really ugly.

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Buccaneer,

Was you TALKING to me?

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@ poster

as u said earlier, we all have our own demon to battle with. do ur best, make amendment where need be in every area of ur life then exercise little patience, the right guy would surely show up but don't be too selective.

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brand loyalty is almost standard issue, fierce = interesting, not attract as much- is sumtin wrong wit ur packaging?

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190 and odiaero,

you people are just nuisance to this site.

When will you two grow up,God save us.

Stop changing peoples topic so we can learn here pls.

@ poster,pls dont mind these arrogant boys.

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^^ wats ur brand tag - pls dnt say u r too fckin good

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i like to think of women as brands

some brand attract a lot of customers but fail to retain them at sustainable levels

reasons, product not as good as originally tot

poor customer service

novelty of product wears off too quickly

unique selling point, not so unique after all, market soon flooded with similar product

over all customer satisfacton below expectatin and not worth the price paid for it

some brand attact not as many customers, but fcking hell, brand loyalty is fierce

reasons, product far beta than expected

customer service is excellent

product continiously reinventing its self e.g coke

product mayb addictive, not necessarily good for u though e.g tobacco

product very unique, caters for a neiche

over all customer satisfaction way above expectation, worth every penny, reasonably priced but wld def pay more

some attract hardly any customers and repeat orders also low

product not very good

customer service is ok, but cld do wit some improvements

no unique selling point

product is unable to re invent its self

customer satisfaction is low, a bit over priced, but wld go for it if alternatives were unavailable

and of cos there r those brands that attract a lot of customers and retain nearly all of  them for ever

reason, product is just 2 fcking good

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@ topup

got any ideal how i fit open ma own topic?>

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Most relationships don't work because when we're young, we're very selfish, we get less selfish the older we get - we want to give and belong, and be part of something bigger - then there are some of us that are still selfish, and want someone to love us.

I also think that most relationships don't work because we all have it programmed that it's a trial and error thing, we don't go into it thinking 'this is it', after all who doesn't step up their game for the 'final exam'??

We believe in fate, luck/chance and use those as excuses to pursue our own selfish goals within a relationship, and with emotions we can never make clear or rational judgements.

Do you know that to even make a rational non-emotional judgement is pretty irrational within the subject of relationship.

These are just some of my opinions though.

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its a jinx on d part on poster she might not get outta dat till when ever cuz she doesnt know where its coming from, she might even be a very nice and pretty lady nature is cheating on, unfutunately 60% of babe got dsame problem even guys too,

@ poster

that thought is in ur mind, u probably got a low self esteem and u might always try to please ur guy and u feel he doesnt notice u and when you quite u feel u were dumped, manythings could help u like atrology, church,

what is ur zodiac anyway?

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A HIT DOG HOLLERED,

WALKS OUT WITH MY WHIP IN HAND,

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take am easy oooO or even tell us ur own story too

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Men can be such assholes,

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You did not mention the mistakes you made while in the university. But believe me, giving it up too soon, (no matter for what reason), will always get your Bottom dumped. You pose no challenge (a man loves challenges from a woman). In short, you were a cheap, easy f#@k (boys love that too). It seems ten years on, you haven' changed. Sorry oooo.

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whoever is in this position should tell God what she wants and she will have it, thats what i did and it worked

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hmmmm. babe garl, its like that for some people no matter how pretty you are there might be a flaw you got a a nature in you that curses it, just keep waitin on your guy meanwhile dont loose focus on your major goal in life like excelling in your business or other stuffs dono, just keep on moving sha

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Poster. I have come to the conclusion that its an issue of luck. On that honest note, I'll wish you the best of luck in your future relationships and

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Do you get angry easily?Are you humble,which part of Nigeria are you from?Are you very light in complextion,Do you smoke weed or other things.Are you romantic?Do you starve them of intimacy.Can you last more than one round of sex?

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maybe you are too beautiful

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