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Why Do Guys Prefer To Stay Long Before Marriage Nowadays?

I RECENTLY DISCOVERED THAT GUYS NO LONGER RUSH INTO MARRIAGE UNLIKE PAST DECADES. IT WOULD AMAZE YOU TO SEE MEN OF 35 YEARS UPWARD STILL ATTACHING SINGLE TO THEIR STATUS.

WHATS REALLY HAPPENING?

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Then WAIT for them to be grown and stop complaining they are 'staying long before marriage'.

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Not that i'm like that - just that a lot of men have done wrong in my eyes. I don't discredit all of them though. I look for the few good ones among them

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You obviously did not get my sentence that highlighted in bold. You seem to think it's because men want variety that is why they are not getting married. That is not true, that is why i put an angry face on it.

I laugh at this statement. Of course, women know men love sex so they use this as a bargaining tool or as punishment. Some women have low sex drives and if you don't touch them they are quite happy for that to happen (no win situation for the men). If a women is not having sex with her husband, somebody else is waiting for the opportunity. Fact

With such an attitude towards men, i am not surprised you're very edgy. Looks to me no man can do right in your eyes. The man will have to pass so many tests to actually deserve an opportunity to be with you. By the time you decide he's a decent man, he switched off and ready to move on to someone else. A lot men realise that there are a lot of single women out there and we will take our time (not necessarily sampling them) to see who is good for us and vice versa

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Committing to a woman is serious business , it's a decision that shouldn't be taken lightly.

Too many men get married for the wrong reasons: they're getting older; all their friends are walking down the aisle; the woman is good-looking but lacks other desirable qualities; or they're scared they won't meet anyone else.

But it's normal to feel ambivalent -- even scared out of your mind -- about signing away all your other options for the rest of your life.

Whether or not a man ultimately wants to settle down is up to HIM, the key is to be aware of the reasons you might be afraid to make that commitment.

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alot of men wait a while before getting married. i guess they want to make sure they have chosen the right girl they want to live with for the rest of their lives. but there is that other breed of men who just have a fear of being tied down to one woman for the rest of their lives.

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That 'freedom' is an euphemism for the need to mature - a man who feels he MUST sample and taste all the varieties there are is not yet mature. I think you should leave them be till they are ready - is it better to marry early and rush out like David said or wait till you are truly ready?

Let them taste varieties if they want, and if the women permit tasting, then their issues are not with you and I, it is with their creator.

Men get married late for multiple reasons ranging from finance to lack of suitable mates. shagging red, yellow, pink and green flavours is not the only reason.

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In the old days our parents married earlier without all the wahala about dating or any regard to love and compatibility.

Face it, how many of those "marriages" are really happy today?

I'd rather wait until i am at least 90% sure this is the woman i can wake up to in the morning and still say thank you Jesus.

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Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here comes the CALVARY: Busta Buss, Stillwater, Debosky.

J-girl, so u went to wake your posse to come tackle me.

I am so ready for y'all tonight.

BRING IT ON.

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That is sooooooo right . . . alot of them have a lot of growing up to do!!!

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I agree with the above. Marriage is not a cakewalk, it takes serious dedication, hard work and a willingness to compromise. Many of us here cant even take care of ourselves yet . . . adding a woman to the equation is a recipe for disaster.

Rush in and rush out.

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So why do you seem so uptight. *sighs* i give up

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Says who? I can take jokes.

I am not a cold-blooded animal.

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U really cant take a joke!!!! Wow

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I'm not lookin for a fight oh

just a rhetorical statement

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wives are expensive nowadays.

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The reason is that men of nowadays prefer to be playboys and not fathers. They prefer to be free and single when they don't realize that they can be free and married. Also, they believe they can't find good women, when it is that good guys are so hard to find.

There are many reasons - but the koko of the matter is that guys of our generation are not serious or mature enough to start thinking marriage. It's very very sad. By the time, they start thinking about it - most of them reach the age of 30 or thereabout.

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I agree with almondjoy.

I will not marry a man that is too old.

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i don know because we like long theme hunts

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hey chudy,

where u dey all this while?

saturday na molade wedding oooooo. u go come?

by the way, u no dey shame? those wey u leave for school don dey wed, u still they out there they claim single.

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All the better kpa kpa!  Instead of deceiving themselves and others into "sham" marriages. They might as well keep jumping from Kitty-Cat to Kitty-Cat like their mascot 2Face Idibia, till they die so the serious ones can be easily spotted.

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well i think it has to do with a lot more than just economic situation. Guys are not ready to commit dem sef so easy these days. Unlike Ladies that have a time machine that ticks away, guys don't, as they can marry at anytime they wish even at age 70.

but Yicob my guy, this one wey u dey ask, abi u go soon marry. by the way shey molade wedding na dis weekend?

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Marriage isn't something you rush into. I think guys are now looking before they leap, as cliche as that sounds.

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