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Why Do I Get Harassed By Guys?

my friends, this has been my case since i was 14(started with my private lesson teacher), up till now that i am 25. each time i let a guy be my friend, one day or the other the guy would usually surprise me with a sexual move, either he's trying to touch me or he's outrightly trying to pull off my clothes.

i am dating a guy now whom i'm not in love wit also i have two ex-boyfriends trying to get back in my life, i don't like them either. i don't know why i attract the wrong guys in my life, i always fall for guys that are handsome(but i'm correcting that now).

please, tell me what to do when a guy harasses me, cos i have one who's currently doing that.he's a co-worker.

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DewDrop (f) Re: Why Do I Get Harassed By Guys?

« #26 on: April 26, 2007, 07:58 AM »

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oh whatever!

deal with it

People are hungry in the world

this one is worried about having too many guys trying to get at her

What about those women who wish a man would look their way and not point & laugh

Unless they're trying assault you in anyway

just enjoy it- you only get like 5-10 more years of this.

If it really does bother you that much, quit being friends with men.

Though it seems to me that u relish that attention!

your with someone you don't even like- For why!?

So why won't the wrong impression be made of you?!?

you obviously can stay around someone and not let them know your true feelings

so can we blame friend A for making moves?

Anyway- about your co-worker, tell him to stop or you'll report his behavior to a supervisor

And if he doesn't FOLLOW THROUGH!

Don't make empty threats!

Haba galfriend,why u come dey harsh on d poor chick now?u arent even mincing out words for her at all.Abeg small small before i conclude that u desire as much attention as she has

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iice, muki. . .plz come to her aid

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because you're a slag and you love it. Stop wasting everybody's time with this crap.

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they only want your obo - wet wet obo - nothing more - dont be deceived.

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noooo i hardly think being friendly should be interpreted as being flirty.

The world would be a hery dreary palce to be if everyone stopped being friendly to others, stopped smiling at others, simply becos they do no want to be classified as 'flirts'.

one can be friendly and still have clearly defined boundaries laid out.

Besides, a little bit of harmless and innocent flirting now and again can cheer up soemone's day and make you feel better - just do it in a tasteful way that does not harm anyone (inluding your existing boyfriend or girlfriend) and that does not give out the wrong signals

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u just send out d wrong signals like maybe u firlt a lot with boys

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I beg you fit post your pix make I see? Cos even as

you de talk so me self don de harrass fall for you o!

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IBEXY and 2muchmoney have hit the nail on the head.

You only avail yourself to handsome guys and this is the reason you get treated like trash. A lot of them know they can get any girl they want, hence do not respect the ones that chase them.

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Give him a proper shunning and warn him never to do that again.

And if i may add you need to be closer to God and let him guide you through. Only him can save you.

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lilian777 what is the meaning of his name?

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Alert, how alert are you really? I mean you should face the problems squarely, why are you in a relationship that you don't like? don't you know that the guy understands that you don't love him? and for that a guy will want to at least have something to show for all him time with you. Break up and let God have control of your life because I think you need to go for couselling. Good luck

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Alert call me for tips on 09-4802082 on at nite from 8pm

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lilian,

haba, wetin? na fight?

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Guys harrase you because you have to be bleeped, like every other woman you not an exception period.

@ Echidime,

See your life? Your name sef makes me wonder. God help you

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with a username like Alert, where do you expect the eyes (and probably d1cks) of the guys to turn to? sometimes, we just look for solutions to our porblems in far places when they're sitting right there on our foreheads. i for like to see your pic sha!

@ IBB Fan

I pity you

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ur picture pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Did u apply for miss nairaland contest?

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she's still with the man, or you be mumu

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[color=#990000]BABY GIRL IT'S COS U ARE JUST TOO HOT.

GIRL SAVOUR THE REIGN WHILE IT LASTS.[/color]

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pls can we see ur pics so we can advice u

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babe, maybe u shud cut ur coat to ur size. and not only fall for handsome men, cuz most handsome guys wud obviously be attracted to Finer and preetier gals than u, and for u thats on der case, that u are not fine, what they fink u deserve if what they offer u

there might be this flirting problem u have , that u are not aware of, ! that makes all ur close male friends think, u re Hot.

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Woww, poetic and psychic!

Is there no end to the many faucets of your personality?!

A man of many faces most interesting and intriguing.

Hi there Ade.f

I am afraid I have to disagree with you a bit here. I was born in the early part of the year (March) and I am in my mid twenties (okay late 20s), but i consider myself a very much together person. I know what i want and most importantly what i don't want in life and relationships.

I am not someone that will necessarily put myself down or dress down and dowdy so as not to 'attract undesirableattention'. I dress tastefully and appropiately Fair enough, a girl who wears practically next to nothing when she is not on the beach o other appropiate place is only asking to be harassed.

At the end of the day, it may not matter how one dresses, they would still attract attention from some undesirable elements. Maturity, tact and class is shown in the way such a girl/boy handles the situation.

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i dont know what to say,what i wud have said has been said,stop be friends with male,stop sending the wrong signal,dress moderately,let ur no be no.and pray it works.

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Girl, get your life together and know what you want. Quit tripping because you think guys are too attracted to you. When they get that stuff, off they go.

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i will say you should be happy and careful. the reason why you should happy is that allot  lot lot of girls and your age mate especially in America today are looking for man even if they find a half good half useless they will beg him to manage them. and the fact that those fools that you dump or dump you came back to beg means you are priceless, trust me it has happened in my case where the silly guy went out and look for somebody elses that showed him hot pepper and he ran back to the angel he left but the doors of heaven was shut against him before he came back. don't even think about accepting your ex-guyz back. a new angel that haven't treated you wrong is better than the angel that lead you to hell and came back for you ashes

be careful because you now have many choices, don't give a chance To Molest, do not also have two  guys fighting over you. further more, take your time to choose a correct guy. i end up with my dream guy today and we are very happy together. its just as if am dating my big brother. because i can appreciate another guy in front of him, other guys can hug me, hold me, play with me and all that. girlfriend, am very happy

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i bet u have a state-of-the-art-body structure and very proud to flout it.

body no be wood and guys no be mugu,they must try to chop at any means.

just watch most especially what u put on and ure responses to those around u.

u are definitely sending the wrong signal

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Hi Alert, I don't usually respond to threadings such as this but felt compelled to do so as i have been in the kind of situation you have described. I will tell you something for nothing though, there are lots of excellent advice here already, which if you search yourself  sincerely, you would/can relate to what fellow threaders are saying. I will refer you to these well thought out comments by :

1. dew drop

2. Chiangel

3. Adeboo

4. Lillian 777

5. Kelechiodo

6. Dollyp1

I can't speak for the guys around you, but i'm pretty sure you havent told them where u stand which is why they hang around you. Youre probably in your early to mid 20s and maybe even born in the early part of the year (don't want to sound psychic) theres so much going on in your head. Take time to find out who you are first, because there are probably many unhappy people around you and only u can stop that continuing-----

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I am reading between the lines and wondering,

"i am dating a guy now whom i'm not in love wit"

Why are you dating someone you don't like?

"also i have two ex-boyfriends trying to get back in my life, i don't like them either"

I bet you did not like them even when you were dating them?

"i don't know why i attract the wrong guys in my life, i always fall for guys that are handsome"

There is nothing like falling you choose to go for handsome guys

Deal with the root cause my dear sister.

Ask yourself

Do I like attention?

You may be sending signals unconsciously just because you crave attention.

Growing up what was I like, did I enjoy the affection of a father or father figure? Did I love myself and still do?

Do I secretly seek validation?

You may be going for 'handsome guys' just to validate yourself that you can pull (yes guys, ladies also do it)

Pray seriously about it so it does not delay or tamper with your marriage in the future.

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first question : do u ever give in? (n enjoy it)

second question: R u that too hot?

well susta don't worry that's the world. just follow the dressing tips n i believe that will help u through.

also strong will power.

wish u all the best as u seek to get out of this mess. I hope it does not affect u emotionally!

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hi sweet girl,

Let those guys understand that you are not a flet. Rather you are just in love nothing more

This is because, some guys use this opportunity to try you if you can stand the test of time.

if you let him know that you are not the type and he insist please for your reputation stay far from him.

BUT DON'T USE A HARSH WORDS ON HIM. YOU DONT KNOW WHAT HE IS HAVING IN MIND IF HE WANT YOU TO BE HIS LIFE PARTNER. you Understand??

CHEERS

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Lets see the pic. It will enhance our judgement. PERIOD.

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Be sincere to yourself. you seem to like the attention. if not then be firm in your "NO". let the guy know that you meant it and stick to it. you should equally make prayers your companion inorder to avoid any pitfall that the devil may be planing against you. and tell your pastor to help you in prayers, who knows some people sometimes live with spirit of seduction unknowly and that should be exorcised. i wish you the best of luck

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@ bolarge, if she gets slapped back nko? no gentleman 4 Nigeria again oooo!

@ moondust, U funny sha, she needs candid advice not soothn,

dear i feel u then again, u might just be the cause of your problem,contrary to the sayn that u may be too HOT.

Does it mean that all beautiful women get harrased?

Just learn to be a lady (theres a difference between a woman and a lady),respect your self and draw a line between am available and am civil and see if that keeps them check.

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no 1.  ur pics.

no 2.  ur email 4 personal advice

no 3   why are u not married at ur age when u have guys flocking aroud u

no 4.  go learn how to say NO cos many girls nowadays dont have NO in their dicco

AND PLEASE DONT SLAP NOBODY COS NO GENTLEMAN 4 NAIJA

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@ bolarge, if she gets slapped back nko? no gentleman 4 9ja again oooo!

@ moondust, U funny sha, she needs candid advice not soothn,

dear i feel u then again, u might just be the cause of ur problem,contrary to the sayn that u may be too HOT.

Does it mean that all beautiful women get harrased?

Just learn to be a lady (theres a difference btw a woman and a lady),respect ur self and draw a line btw am available and am civil and see if that keeps them check.

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I have the same problem with women myself, but am not complaining. I just wish they would throw me on the bed and rip my clothes off.

No harm in dreaming ehn

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put your picture first and after i'll decide

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U might be somehow attractive & loose.

Maybe u're d jokin type of a woman & u play allot.wat u'll need to do is Jst 2 minimise familiarities wit guys. Nd pray,so dat u'll never attract wrong men 2 manage ur future as a woman.dat is the greatest mistake anyone cld do. My dear.

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questions. are u sumptous?wat kind of dresing u dress?how do u talk?may b they wanted to take advantage of that). i think u hav this inferiority complex.just seat urself n figure where u got somethings wrong.and correct them

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i guess u like guys that have cars to drive around. flashy guys? thats one kmistake some ladies make, u cant expect most guys to spend, trip a lady out and not want to remove her cloths. i have done it. i love it when a lady loves me not for what she wants from me but she has to love for real, not for what i have in terms of looks, cash, ride to take her around. aint trying to be rude to the ladies, most are like that.

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You get harassed by guys because you LET them harass you.

Simple logic here. Moving along now.

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the fundamental reason is cos of THE WAY U DRESS and the kind of company u keep. also i have no doubt you r the kind that like showing off to guys, u might equally be rude to guy (they dont always like it that way)

dont call fo unnessary attraction

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Nuff said. Seem like one of those little brat who often feel entitled.

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hey there, its a serious matter but i will just advice you to go and report to the police or his nearby family or relations,

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