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Why Do Ladies Secretly Love To Marry Men Who Have Lost Their Mother?

Good day everyone in the house,there is an issue that has been bothering me for some time and i would like to hear from the ladies in the house. i discovered on interaction with some of my close female friends that ladies of this present generation would prefer a situation whereby the man they intend to spend the rest of their life with has lost his mother. i have tried inquiring from several ladies and none has been able to give me a satisfactory answer.what they seem to be saying is that they are not ready to accommodate any other person who would occupy even a small portion of their hubby's attention or anyone who their husband do listen to.

i see this feeling among ladies as an unfortunate one.they probably don't realise that they will be mothers-in-law someday and if i may add that their opinion is made more unjustifiable considering the fact that they expect their husband to care for their own parents but on the other hand do not want to draw close to their husband relatives most especially their mother-in-laws.

i will appreciate it if the ladies in the house can give their candid opinion. Thanks

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because ladies are so selfish and silly! follow the trend and the trend will be your best friend. Most (almost all) ladies don't want their mother in-law around them, most of them are even so jealous of their mother in-law because of the mother to son relationship. well it's all about the wife's family and you will have a very peaceful home, try introducing just lil of your family and your wife may start complaining.

and i repeat ladies are selfish and silly!

don't ask me why.

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Welllllllll

Some may be unlucky to have 'troublesome' mothers BUt how troublesome?So troublesome that she gave birth to you,man and you the lady who marries his son?Anyway, i count myself blessed because ALL three women we have married to us are really in love with the great mum, doesnt have proble atall, Conside this, this kinda opinion most youg and unmarried girls have here will affect the way the relate thier MILs and at the end of the day they invite hatred and get same!SHOW HER SOME LOVE, SHE WILL RECIPROCATE!

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really!

dis my 1st tym of hearing such a statement. . . .

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Often there is no love lust between wives and MILs. I heard ladies express concerns for the mother-in-law being the primary threat to the autonomy of their marriage.

On more than one occasion, I have heard a lady state that the demise or incapacitation of a would be mother-in-law would be an added bonus to their relationships

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@Poster,

how did you get to this thinking? IN CAPITAL LETTER, YOU GOT IT ALL WRONG!MOST LADIES I KNOW LOVE THIER MOTHER-IN-LAW.come to think of it,if you love your man so dearly,why dont you just extend that to everything and anyone that is his? and vthe other way round for guys too

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I have never heard about this before. I don't think it's true.

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my bf lost his mom when he was five, personally i feel bad at time because I would really like to have met her, I dont wish death on anyone.

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LOL. How did you come up with your percentage? Randomly? Just from your head abi? This is part of why we Nigerians have issues. No real backup, just random sayings.

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Yeah! Personally, i think 60 - 70% of young gals pray to have a man who's lost his mum. I don meet plenty-plenty of gals like dat. Amean, alot of em no wan 'mother inlaw wahala'.

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And they pray to be mother in - laws in future? Whatever ones sows, that she must reap. I pity such ladies.

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~ They wouldn't want 'MurdaInLaw' wahala ~

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If a man doesnt love his mom then he wont love his wife either, imo.

No matter how much he tells her he does.

You get your first impressions of women from your mom. Either good or bad.

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Really? I have never heard such a thing before!

I wouldn't want to marry a man who doesn't have a healthy relationship with his mum. This to me means that he talks to his mum but he is his own person. He can stand up to her and basically tell her when she's wrong. My husband and his mum have a relationship that I love. She can't control him, because he wouldn't let her. They talk a lot, she can call him to ask his opinion about random things. That's the kind of relationship I like. Close enough to your mum, but not the type of relationship where she controls him or is told stuff about his primary relationship. He never tells her anything about our relationship. She asked just one time when we were having kids and he simply said, he'll let her know. She will probably never ask me directly because she knows her son.

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not all ladies oh.

No one is praying for the demise of anyone's mother.

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