I know this sounds like a sweeping generalisation but I have found it to be true in almost all cases I have seen or experienced first hand. Why is it such a horrible, horrible thing to be married to a Nigerian man? Like there is a certain type of handbook the men read before becoming husbands.
Fine, a lot of newer generation men usually swear on their lives that they will never hurt their women but the moment they are settled into marraige, cheating begins. . . .as if this isnt the most painful kind of thing to do to your wife. And the people around them treat it like it is the norm.
I have hardly seen a Nigerian family (from my experience, especially yoruba people) who dont have one story or the other attached to their family name. The men always mess up! And in the most painful and ridiculous ways, I wonder how their women manage to have the patience and peseverance to stay eventhough most of them claim to still be there for their children.
I have an uncle. He's the kindest, most gentle and caring man I have ever met. If we werent related, he would be a very good model husband. We were so close. . .i discussed issues relating to my puberty with him instead of my mom. When he was getting married, I didnt go to his wedding because I was jealous. Later on, I met his wife and she suited him perfectly with her pretty smile. Very good woman, my heart melted when i met her.
Then a year into their marraige, I spent sometime at his house. I woke up one morning to find her crying. She refused to say why. I later learnt it was because she found out a woman had just given birth to a child for my uncle the week before. Meaning, he had sex with this woman a few months after their wedding.
I dont know how they resolved that issue but I was so dissapointed. I cannot fathom where she found the strenght to forge on.
Thats just my uncle o. . . . the kind and caring man. Talk less of many other Nigerian men.