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Why Do Men Need To Have Variety In Love?

Why Are Men Like That?

Why is it that, when a woman is in love, she can be monogamous and not even be tempted by anyone else, but, a man can claim he's in love, but still fantasize about every chick he sees walkin' up and down the street? It's like, even if they not cheating, they are fantasizing about cheating,

Why do men need to have variety, and can't just be with ONE woman, if they say they love the woman??

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I am grossly disappointed the men should come to this place

and say openly that cheating is in men's nature. How can they

shamelessly say that? They are invariably telling us that they

cheat on their spouse and that is not good enough.

Cheating, like stealing is a vice and it is found in some men

as well as some women. It has nothing to do with whether you

sexually satisfied with your spouse or not. Why do you think some

girls from rich homes are into prostitution? is it cos their parents are

not financially satisfying them? No it is not. It i just a vice and it is

in nobody's nature. We all have different character traits which can be

positive or negative.What of rich men's children that are armed robbers?

It is just habit that can be cured. Some women have it too. Imagine a

married woman having sex with her house boy when the husband is not at home?

Lets forget this whole shyt and pray that God does not give us a cheating spouse.

@ Seun

You are very lucky that cheating is not one of your vices but i guess that You have some

vices that a man who cheats on his spouse does not have.

Still me

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Guys are so complicated,when some guys love,they wont cheat on you but i dont know if those that do cheat after claiming that they are in love are really in love.

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@lioness,

if I were you i will be suspicious of my man. Men are wired in such a way that a woman's booty triggers off their hormones. Women  know that , that's why you get guys attention. It will be  foolish to think that men dont fatasize about women's  apples.

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Thanks 2c.

If you really want to get a [typical] man angry, be the one to call off the relationship. They usually feel they should be the ones ending it and feel insulted that a "mere" woman finds them wanting.

In Pakistan for example, if a woman files for divorce, the man takes it as an insult to his honour and accuses her of adultery. Women are usually of "no consequence" there so they can't accuse the men, and the man's accusations are taken as gospel. You know what an accusation of adultery is for a muslim woman in a muslim country.

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He has a mighty problem. I'd feel bad if my girl (I don't have one) looks at other men dreamily while she's with me so I wonder why most men feel it's normal to "appreciate" beauty.

Many of them will have a huge row with their girlfriends over the boy they "saw them talking with" but feel insulted when the girl insinuates the same. It's all about vanity -- most men feel they are more important in a relationship and can get away with anything, while the woman answers only to him. Pathetic.

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In this issue, self-control plays a large role. Why should I see a good looking lady pass-nbye and will not appreciate her beauty? I thinkk what matters is that we men needs a lot of self-control to show. Just b/c i looked at a lady pass-bye does not make me go after her. Afterall I have one right beside me.

I also think you the ladies need to work on this aspect in your man. It is natural to men to do that but not natural to lust after it. If you as a lady looks at other ladies even when you are right there beside him, then engage him and try to get what he is looking at in the lady so that you can put that on yourself. If its the a** or the burst, then may be you will need to make him see yours too. Prbably walk in freont of him and not beside him. Afterall, who says another guy is not even looking at you as you walk with your man.

Abegi, no so Baba create us, love us with it.

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Women love this topic sha

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tell me guys where r all the good men , listen guys dont know wat they want even if they ave wat they want near them hey r just dawn it

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men r just full of poo i ave given up thou

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to satisfy their needs, i know of women that also want variety, so its a two way traffic. Men do it, women do it i guess its just that they don't get enough of what they have.

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Most men i think do have varieties of love because in most cases they might have been jilted one way or the other. A broken heart they say can never be like a whole.no wounded lion will ever go near a trap, especially if it is hungry carelessly,there must be a way to get the bait without the hook. Men are trained to be cunny by girls when they were still boys.

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We may not necessarily want to have "variety of love" but we naturally get attracted to women with an increased urge to "have" them, unlike the way women naturally feel about men. Thank God religion, the laws of man and societal values keep us in check.

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I know they are alot of men but the way you are saying as if it is all men

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oooh really we think because thats what it is, tell me how many men out there are able to put their feelings or relationships

before their hormones, (ya'll just can't control ur hormones period)

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They are alot of good men around there not few, thats what many females think that a guy cant be faithful

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Men don't need variety -- the undisciplined ones want it and it's sad they're in the majority -- well, you know how it is with majorities.

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Women dont cheat more than men but the do it better than men.

Its only when the woman starts falling in love that she starts making mistakes.If not its hard to get a hold of her.

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mamaput and Rhodalyn in-other words you're both saying that women cheat morethan men only that they know how to clear/hide the evidence! intresting! Remind me of my friend's ex that write phone numbers backwards! breeze don blow fowl yash don open! True Confession! na una dey talk am Oh no be me!

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what makes you think women cannot fake relationships also

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If wishes were horses beggers will ride

When it comes to hiding evidence men are so daft.

So daft they will even keep a phone number in their jacket pocket.

A woman will learn the number off head or write it down somewere the man will never dream of looking.

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Free has said it all that we men make it so obvious! I wish we can chop, clean mouth, waka like women, and pretend it never ever happen! shikina!

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thats just their nature

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@Free

I dont know what kind of man you've gat Free but My aint like that.

If he'b looking at some chick's Bottom, hell i'll castrate him,,,,,,, straight.

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Don't make me laugh?

Somemen are not into women the don't cheat.

Some men don't have the time thats why they don't cheat.

That stuff about the woman having everything that a man wants is Karp.

Then no man also has everything a woman wants. And thats no reason to stray.

What happened to all the for better for worse stuff.

Men that cheat are running a way from responsibility and they run to women who offer them fun.

A wife has to think about security and the future of the family.

But men are like small kids they like to runaway to play.

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@free

What you said is true. Men cheat and fantasize about cheating if they cannot cheat for some reason. But note; not all men do this. I have come to realize that a man dating a woman he’s not exactly satisfied with her physical attribute will cheat ---- at least with his eyes or do the actual cheating if the dissatisfaction is even more.

A man who’s found all he wants in a woman never ever cheats. So make sure you are everything to your man; you will notice he looks not at other women but through them.

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Uhnn? If i understand you well, i think u r talking abt gay people.

I was saying men are not to be blamed, becaose if they see a fine as woman walk by, they must LOOK!. But a lady can see a fine Bottom brother, appreciate and stop looking.

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@hot-angel

see, its actually women that have the problem, not men.

If a more gorgeously dressed woman is passing by another woman, the other woman will look at this gorgeous woman from head to toe, as if she suddenly fell in love. Ifs its a king-size man stud that passed by, twill be the same thing.

Have you ever seen a man looking at another man, as in the head turning from total left to total right?

Ladies: A man could be your greatest treasure if you know how to handle them.

If you fear that your treasure will slip out of your hand, it will slip out.

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Men have really weird hormones. They can be truthful to their spouse, but damn, do you blame them? They see a nice apple rounded Bottom walking in front of them, and you espect them not to fantasize?

I bet you, if we girls could see the size of men's dick from their pants, we would also fantasize. Besides, when you see just the "guns" some men have, u go all, "damn, he's powerful, i just want him to throw me on his bed". See, it's almost the same, except, some men can't control themselves, they go wayyy overboard with the thing. Look and appreicate, it's accepted if you get lost in it a little bit, but wake up fast before you get in trouble.

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I just don't know what some women think men are! men this! men that!! men do this! men do that!! I'm sure prostitutes are saying the same thing!

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@Free

Hi sister, i totally disagree with your statement. Its like you think men are some dogs with their tongues hanging loose and just about looking for the next,   and all that they are, pure fakers,

It would have been better if you related your observation to "Some Men". cmon, i don't think so, and i guess its because a lot of women have it seated at theback of their mind that their man "is going to cheat on me" thats why things sometimes don't work out as you expect.

Another thing, men do not actually need to go outside to get the variety they need, heres one truth:

***If you know the way to a mans belly, you know the way to His heart. I know some husbands that they can hardly ever eat in any other place, be it fast-food, or at a party etc., except its the food their wife cooks**** and besides, a woman that loves a man will love everything about him and provide him the variety he needs right there within the confines of their home.

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yah but the truth is that all men are not like that, i dont know why females always think the male is this or that have they been with all guys before

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I don't think I'm like that. I value stability and loyalty more than all that.

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thats guy for u! even tho they going steady with u, they are still open to stuff lyke that, guys wil always be guys, as long as pple lyke beyonce and halle or any goodlooking girl accross the street exist!

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