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Why Do Naija Girls Like To Date Guys That Are Abroad?

It bothers me to know that an average naija girl is always more willing to date sbdy abroad than sbdy she can actually see at anytime.

Most of these relationships really don't go anywhere. The guy is out there kicking it, and the girl is in naija waiting and looking unto God for VISA etc. In most cases, the guy is praying for the VISA not to get through for a long time so he can be running both ends.

Naija girls have for too long exposed themselves to this exploitation, all for what- some perks here and there.

We should value life more, I guess.

What do u thing

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1) money, money, money

2) They can always front for their friends

3) I guess it also boost their self esteem--one way or the other.

finally, naija girls are like zombies. The minute the know u're in yankee or jand, they will stick to u and suck u dry!

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you are right @Gheorghe, all the females saying otherwise r bluffing; if a dashing guy comes from abroad and woo them , all, i mean allllllllll of them will say YES. And who will reject pounds or dollars thru western union every 2weeks, Absolutely none of them! So girls be realistic! D guy is cute, clean, even the ugly ones. But long distance relationship is not cool at all, she must have a back up, just incase, And the lady shouldnt wedd the guy yet until they are both living abroad. I have a close friend, a 23yrs old babe who has been dating a 26yr old guy on the next street close to hers; as soon the guy finished his youthcorp, he processed his visa and his girlfriend 's own together without marrying her first and travelled with her to london. In a year time she sent pictures of their court wedding and their new born baby; they are living ok, So, those babes who wants to marry yankee guy should wisen up!

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@busygirl,

yoruba girls are too materialistic, especially in England. dunno why, but it's true,

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@gbeborun, wat is wrong with yoruba girls? una don start again. Anyways, i don't think all the blacks girls here are materialistic. Few ones are very nice and decent. . .Good for all the men that go back home to pick their wives. No matter the location, nigerians are the same everywhere, with individual differences.

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@Omoge,

se i'm very correct?

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but Rslt,no be true I talk?

By the way that article was by a man,so no be only me see am

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@Babyosis

You don study Naijarioloy for America. They should call u Dr Babyosis (P.H.D). Wise woman

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@Babyosis

You don study Naijarioloy for America. They should call u Dr Babyosis (P.H.D)

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nice article omoge,let me quote my best part.

As for the men who go in search of these women, well, their mindset has been discussed. What needs to be added is the fact that most are never happy because they got what they never bargained for: stunned, disappointed and underachieving wives who never knew about 40-60-hour work week; women who never knew there are no dollar minting factories down the street, that America is not what they saw in the movies and magazines, that America is not a world of instant riches and glamour. You toil and toil and toil!

The unfamiliar can be mind-sapping, you know. These women see ghosts and dream of “bad-bad-bad-things.” Depression and identity crisis then sets in. Those who can’t cope then leave their husbands and marriage and try to go it alone believing their lots would be better without the “extra baggage.” Big mistake, for most!

As for the men, well, some will plead with, cajole or trick their wives into going into the nursing or CNA profession assuming the women were not already one back home. The nursing profession, they believe, is a sure avenue for making money and living the good life. Be it in Houston, Seattle, Dallas, Miami, New York and every where in between, African nurses abound. They are everywhere working mostly the night and graveyard shifts, toiling day and night and away from their husbands and children just to make ends meet. With no time to smell the roses or to wonder at the beauties that surround them, they become strangers in the world they live in.

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You all are right there,

below is a link, read the artcle and the response, quite interesting

http://www.nigeriansinamerica.com/articles/717/1/Why-Do-African-Men-Go-Home-to-Marry/Page1.html

gbeborun, haha

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also me think dating someone outside the shores of naija is a class thingy for some ladies.

Dont blame them either, am already tired of the materialistic and vain girls here in england, naija women na the same thing everywhere. just flash some free cash and those yoruba girls no go leave you. although they do it with some finese i must confess

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been following this thread religiously and i'm really havin a blast.

i just told a friend in naija that i'll be coming home this xmas and guess wot? i don receive over 15 phone numbers and various messages after my guy successfully announced that i'll be coming home. Even old flames have being keeping in touch. I just playfully asked one of them "U knw it's been a while, r u still that hot charming lady?" Guess wot? she just bombarded me with pictures, make i judge for meself. Anyways looking forward to the visit, meanwhile i've decided to share some of the phone numbers with my friends.

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there's only one scientifically proven reason why Nigerian women prefer to date men abroad and :HUNGER

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finally try and make it abroad ke? when they reach there their eyes will clear! when they see the crayfish lives people are living here.

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true talk i have seen a lot of naija ladies behave this way , after some years it sure becomes a prayer topic and they hell blame every one for their misfortune , at times like tat they even start assuming they had a generational jinx in their family line, oh women

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Not all of us though. Yes it is still a huge issue and its not only limited to Nigerians, Asians are terribly guilty of this too. You need to see the way the girls behave when they manage to snag a date with a white guy. You'd think they'd just gone to heaven and back.

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naija girls date people abroad so dat they can pose 4 their friends and finally try 2 make it abroad

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Bless you too sis,I am out

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But truly our men are being very deceptive and it's just not right.

They don't have to hype and flaunt all these non existent money just to nab a pretty girl.

It's not worth it because sooner or later she'll find out.

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me too,I've been on "exile" for disobeying the law

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Thats usually the problem with people living abroad, too much effizy. I find that telling it as it is earns recpect and reduces unreasonable expectations.

Those who get a babe by false pretence usually end up with very similar stories,i.e." she came here and her eye come tear"

Long time sis, I've been absent for a while.

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you're right samsilo,they think the money will keep flowing until they land at JFK international and understand that Okoro was nothing but a dishwasher in a downtown eatery.

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@Babyo. They usually don't know about the yellow cabsoo!

I think this matter mainly refers to Babes back in Naija, a few (tens of ) dollars goes a long way to impress them.

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If you can find gold in yellow cabs!!

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Question: Why do Naija girls like to date Guys that are abroad?

Answer : Because they(Naija Girls) are gold diggers

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infact i no know say dem easy for away guys for naija, who talk say naija women dey single for west? abi na for us and uk? becos dem ashawo for here get am too much (men)

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There is so much to learn from our people and Nairaland dey offer am pass naija college. Or sometimes u go think say na Jerry Springer show script u dey read. Make God please help us o.

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who no like better thing?

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Some do it for the sake of money,some fall into it by circumstance (chance) but they are not aware of the problems involved.

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I don't know how guys can do that and be able to sleep. One woman, wether naija or darky or oyinbo for this oyinbo land na enough wahala, then u go carry naija own join am?. Na only one woman from either naija or Jewish I fit marry, and na only one woman at a time. One woman one problem, two women ten problems, why would one want to die young any way?. I guess people like to learn the hard way.

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goodnite jare. im turning in now too. see y'all tomorrow? bye.

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oga goodnature, how una dey?

frankly not true. At least it does not apply to all guys. We all grew up in the naija culture too so we know what to expect. There is a huge difference between a girl holding out on sex or getting intimate too soon and a chic who just doesnt know what she wants. I've seen a lot of it in my cousins friends. Most of them go on and on behaving like the world revolves around them, when it gets to time to settle down everyone starts complaining that there are no good naija men.

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not all alliances with white women is for sex. but right from when i was young growing up in naija, young boys as young as ten would say "when i grow up and go abroad im going to marry a white woman" as if she's a prize, trophy or aspiration. its sad. its sadder cos they actually grow up and do it!

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its not stringing along anything. dont we deserve the right to get to know a guy anymore before we fall into his bed flat on our backs with legs wide open? i think we do. let him vex if he wants. its our body. not just any random soul should come and slobber all over us.

my mom once told me that a guy will always leave you when you hold off on sex and go where he'll get it easily.it has proven true.

they see it as playing hard to get. they really do expect sex at the first hello.

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My dear its not easy. When you're used to having a kiss on a first date it becomes uncomfortable when the naija girl keeps hedging for weeks and you dont even know where you stand.

Dont confuse it with sex though, not every guy is looking for a girl as a bed mate but you get to a stage where you assume that you're now adults and the era of trying to string the poor fellow along until he reaches breaking point should best have been left in the teenage yrs.

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i guess these naija guys are so used to getting everything easily from white women who truly are less inhibited as per their culture (no pun intended) that they no longer know the meaning of playing hard to get. if you dont 'drop" on the first date they accuse you of playing hard to get.its silly.

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the worst are the silly boys with cornrows hanging with women old enough to be their grandmother simply because she's blonde!

Black or white, all chics are the same.

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yeah, i see some naija guys putting up with crap that they would never take from a nigerian woman from white girls and they become so meek like errand boys. its just wierd. they just want to be seen in public with these girls. its like an endorsement or validation of their arrival. its like "see me . im with a white girl" or "i can be with a white girl".

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maybe it also has to do with the fact that white guys are not as open to dating outside their race as white women are. It's not so common to see the white boy-black girl combo.

Truthfully many black guys i know would pick a white girl in a heartbeat before they consider a black girl.

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It's only right to prefer one over the other. Ignore the naija beauties - not that there is anything wrong in marrying a white girl. But when you think your own women are not as good as white ones, there is a big, big problem

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did you know that 70% of all african american women are unmarried ? huh? did you know that? even for those who are educated to the hilt. the number one reason? "our men" marry from other races (not that there's anything technically wrong with that)

black women are more likely to want to settle with a black man.(poor them)

the oldest excuse of our men in the book? "at my level (ask me which level that is?) there arent many black women i can choose from".

that arguement is too tired!

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So because they give less stress, they are better.

It's also a shame that very few black guys go to my school as well but you don't see me praising white boys over naija guys, do you?

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madam that is not generally true with everyone. White girls dont necessarily make you feel better about yourself. A woman does not make you better than you make urself to be, she doesnt complete me she only compliments.

It's such a shame, there are so very few black girls who bother to go to school where i am.

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they give you al the blah blah blah reasons why they have no choice but to marry akata or oyibo. na them sabi. hanging a white girl on their arms makes them feel better about themselves. i blame the slave trade for the way black guys are in awe of white women. (that's fodder for another thread!)

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