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Why Do Nigerian Ladies Insult Their Toasters?

Who Do 9ja Girls Feel It Is Cool To Pour Verbal Insult On Men Who 'Toasts' Them?

I'm sure some other guys must be wondering about this too - ladies in civilised societies don't do that so why are our girls fond of this? is something to do with our culture?

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Real players do not take note. They just move on to the next babe

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NA SHAKARA Fela Anikulapo of blessed memory called it.

But after all the shakara, the babe gives in and the guy go bang am wel well back and front and go dey smirk behind her back.

I see it happening everyday.

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^^Nigerian ladies are worth the stress,if not,why do the guys go about stalking them and disturbing their dear lives? huh!!

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Frustration. Most aren't even worth the stress.

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Ah well, I think people will behave in a manner they think is appropriate to the situation.If u want to ask a woman out do it nicely, if shes being funny politely move on, any thing more is a waste of time.

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Not all Nigerian girls

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who, why when, where, how??silly silly questions 4 dis nairaland. who gives a poo what they think. if u go around trying to figure out why women do what they do, u will die young. get a healthy hobby son.

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The putrid nonsense flowing from their mouths can easily shatter anyone's self-esteem.

Their excuses? "Guy's fault".

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Cos the toasters are cheap and made in china

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Because most of the babes are too good for us guys.

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They just mad cus they aint stacking like this

VVVVVVVVV

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@transmo, lol, Your story was quite funny, but do you know the amount of men that use such things as "directions" and asking for the time, just to lead into "toasting"? Not to mention the ones who claim they have seen you before somewhere. Its difficult to know which is which sometimes, but the lady should have listened first I agree, because you cant assume every man is even attracted to you.

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Okay lets look at it this way.

Most 9ja ladies are fake bimbos.

Most 9ja men are waste of sperm.

There are better ways to handle these issues, all na common sense!

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a lack of attraction is not a staunch excuse for insolence.

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Ok. Some said guys are rude, they stalk etc.

But why are some girls usually rude even at the first stage of contact? For example look at this.

I live in a block of flats with very limited packing space so people block other people's cars and you will ave to call the owner of a car blocking you to remove his/her car before you can move your some times.

So this afternoon, I wanted to remove my car and there was another car blocking it. So I saw a lady who just finished locking the car up coming to my direction while I was going her direction. I wanted to tell her to call the person who will move the car because I knew the owner of the car and it was not her.

I started my conversation with "excuse me please", she ignored and passed by my side me as if I was not there. I didn't stop though so I continued my sentence. Not until she heard that I wanted her car removed so I could drive mine, it was then she turned and talked back.

I was very annoyed because I know very well that she taught I wanted to toast her.

Why can't a guy ask a lady for direction or a sincere conversation without her putting up that arrogant attitude(even if she was ugly)? I

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dey are not cappable enough dat why dey are abusing their toaster

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We spite men we know we dont want or like.

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it's not the fact that you toast, its how you go about doing it.

get your swag on point before trying any nonsense, abeg.

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IF LADIES DNT STP DAT ACT WE GUYS WL STP TOASTIN U.& U NO IF DAT SHLD APEN DERE WNT B BANGY BANGY.SO B WARND

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@obinoscopy mann thats a little wierd, ull trail her?in the first place i wouldn't advise anyone to try to get involved with somene they merely saw on the street or in a store

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loool this is really funny ok ill start by reminding the ladies that as men it is our dual privilege and responsibility to "toast" ladies. This is nature. If a guy plucks up the courage to approach u pls let him down easy. now guys i must say that for a lady to have to diss u that much u must be doin somthing terribly wrong. You have to be polite,look clean and smell good, and be confident. This way even if she is not feelin u she aint likely to disrespect u. she'll even appreciate the attention

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Poor english,stammerin while talkin,lack of composure,tatterd dresin,faking accent,outwardly dirty,liein while toastin,misuse of words,2much pesterin,boastin while toastin,body or mouth odour,tryin 2b 2gud wen she says she doesn't need your help, cursin her coz she said No,usin of vulgar wordz while toastin,telin her u must own her evn as she's sayin No,Wrong timing.imagin a guy toastin a tiredgirl under a hot sun. Wat do u xpect? Oops!!.  Al these cn make guyz toastin suck.

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4rm my point f view i belive it depends on yah aproach 2 d ladies,naija gals are nt dat arrogant dey only form wat dey are not, 2 me it depend on d guys.

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Amaka, i believe pressure can make people do

strange things We (Yourself and i) did not choose where

we were born abroad (whether NORTH AMERICA/EUROPE)

those born in Nigerian did not choose it too!

LETS JUST RESPECT BOTH SIDES OF THE COIN  !

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Quote,

Finally,

I happen to agree with Martinosi and I think the "long paragraph" was that detailed in order to sufficiently educate a greater number of people. We don't all come with the same IQ level. So stop crucifying him; you may skip the paragraph as it is not compulsory to read it.

I also agree that most girls living in Nigeria (even those from other countries) can be made to compromise their emotional loyalty or otherwise be bought by undeserving men. Again, Martinosi hit the nail on the head when he said it's as a result of economic poverty and poverty of the mind (both of which are somewhat related). I don't think EVERY girl in Nigeria has a low self-esteem; that's a rather blanket statement, but MOST do.

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Thanks for the vote of confidence noxious

and i would like to say that i was born and raised

abroad and moved to nigeria with my parents in my mid teens

so i have lived both sides and to tell you the truth

I SO GLAD THAT I EXPERIENCED BOTH SIDES BECAUSE I KNOW THE

PAIN, THE JOY, THE HIGHS, THE LOWS OF BEING A TEEN-AGER

AND A YOUNG ADULT BOTH ABROAD AND IN NIGERIA!!!

I LOVE MY COUNTRY NIGERIA AND I WOULD NOT BE THE MAN

I AM TODAY IF IT WAS NOT FOR LIVING BOTH ABROAD AND IN NIGERIA!

AS I SAID ITS HARD TO JUDGE A PLACE WHEN U JUST VISIT THERE

BUT WHEN U LIVE IN THE SYSTEM, YOU WILL UNDERSTAND BETTER.

Nigerian Girls have a strong heart generally due to the

economic strain and hardship and i take my hat off to them!!!

I LIVED IN NIGERIA FOR SOME GOOD NUMBER OF YEARS

AND I KNOW WHAT IT IS TO ENDURE THE STRAIN AND PRESSURE

WHICH EFFECTS EVERY CLASS OF LIFE IN THE COUNTRY!

AND I WAS BROUGHT UP ABROAD SO I KNOW HOW LIFE CAN LOOK LIKE

EVERYTHING IS FINE.

I WAS ONE OF THOSE KIDS THAT FELLOW NIGERIAN KIDS

WHO WERE BORN ABROAD WITH ME USED TO LAUGH AT US (MY SIBLINGS)

WHEN THEY CAME TO OUR HOUSE BECAUSE WE ATE

NIGERIAN  FOOD 70% OF THE TIME AND MY PARENTS

SPOKE TO US IN OUR NATIVE EASTERN NIGERIAN LANGUAGE

I USED MY NIGERIAN NAME AND THOUGH IT WAS LONG

MY PARENTS REFUSED ME TO SHORTEN IT AT SCHOOL

WHICH MADE ALL THE NON-NIGERIANS TO LEARN IT AND

ITS MEANING! YEAH I WAS KIND OF DIFFERENT, BUT

ALL THROUGH OUT THOSE YEARS ABROAD BEFORE

I CAME TO NIGERIA I ALWAYS NEW I WAS AN EASTERN NIGERIA KID!!! PERIOD

AND SINCE I CAME BACK ABROAD, THE WHITE FOLKS I WORK WITH

AND MANAGE RESPECT ME SOOO MUCH DUE TO THE FACT THAT I

KNOW BOTH SIDE - THE ABROAD SIDE AND THE AFRICAN SIDE!!!

AS I SAID I TAKE MY HAT OFF TO NIGERIAN WOMEN

AND I THROUGH MY INVESTMENT AND BUSINESS EFFORTS

ABROAD AND IN NIGERIA I AM WORKING FOR CHANGE!!!

NIGERIAN GIRLS FACE PRESSURES THAT NIGERIAN GIRLS

BORN ABROAD CANNOT EVEN FATHOM OR IMAGINE SOMETIMES

SO LETS KEEP IT REAL AND RESPECT BOTH SIDES OF THE COIN

NUFF SAID!!!

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@Noxious

I wasn't born and didn't grow up in naija.

this happened during my vacation there.

i was so shocked!! i guess it was a culture shock thingy. but eventually i just got used to it. that's how they do it over there. lol

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@Poster: It's not a Nigerian thing and GENERALLY if you "toast" a girl wrongly anywhere in the world, you'd certainly get some humbling treatment. Let's consider this too, how about those ladies well into their late 30's? How come they don't mind the manner of approach and rarely insult their (few) 'chykers'?

@Stillwater, The AMAKA etc telling horrible stories about growing up in Nigeria and having these "uncivilised" men approach them in the streets, I say you need a little schooling, and I say it with all respect. It's our culture that men approach women in streets and although I know many will misunderstand this, not considering that culture by definition is simply a people's way of life. All this talk about stalking has no meaning and makes absolutely no sense to a man who's lived all his life in Nigeria. Do we have regular, easily accessible clubs in Nigeria where people meet? Don't people use the church (as odd as it sounds) as a social meeting point? How many "average" Nigerian men get to attend weekly parties where they could meet their women in an acceptable, politically correct, social setting? We should try to separate life/tradition/convention in Europe and North America from what it is here, and the fact that our men would keep stopping complete female strangers on the road to talk to them is a CULTURE that would continue in Nigeria for a long time to come.

However, how these men do the approaching should determine how the ladies respond. As has been said, if you're approached respectfully, please respond respectfully. There's nothing weak about a friendly cheerful "NO" spiced with quiet dignity (as Michelin89 would have us believe she practises, LOL).

Finally,

I happen to agree with Martinosi and I think the "long paragraph" was that detailed in order to sufficiently educate a greater number of people. We don't all come with the same IQ level. So stop crucifying him; you may skip the paragraph as it is not compulsory to read it.

I also agree that most girls living in Nigeria (even those from other countries) can be made to compromise their emotional loyalty or otherwise be bought by undeserving men. Again, Martinosi hit the nail on the head when he said it's as a result of economic poverty and poverty of the mind (both of which are somewhat related). I don't think EVERY girl in Nigeria has a low self-esteem; that's a rather blanket statement, but MOST do.

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A Big Elephant is in the room releasing mess in der room and we act like its not there!

thats some nigerian girls and  a greater reflection of nigerian society for you!!!

Poverty and destituteness cannot be hidden only denied!!!!

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@ topic

I always say no with a smile. They think I am weak but after three years they see that no is NO.

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@ martinosi,

so what's this denial syndrome?

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GL,

I know its not every girl, but bowyy tooo many lol! are dependant on some man other than parents

and that also includes Pseudo uncles & big brother lol!!!

And Yes Yes Yes and i can Say YES YES AND YES Again Tooo many Nigerian Girls are cheap and

that goes Also for the ones that live in the Rich Parts of Nigerian Cities ie Lagos, PH, your Lekki and

GRA's, Poverty of the mind does not just go away becos u make over a million Naira a month

or move to a"So-called" posh part of town,

I have seen that too Nigerian Girls ie rich, middle-class, lower class, poor have

low self esteem, yes that includes those that use possessions to mask their

shallowness,  its the being born and raised in africa effect of general destituteness

and weak infastruture and institutions, it constantly messess with the mind

of the most nigerian girls even when they travel abroad, they still put on a front before

non-nigerians lol!!!

Lets face it, but i know most of you cant!!!!lol!,

i spent long, long periods in nigeria in 2008 & 2009, and i have seen that

any girl and i mean any girl can be wooed or bought over!!!

AS THE MILLION DOLLAR MAN SAID "EVERYBODY HAS  A PRICE AND IN NIGERIA THAT SOO TRUE!!!

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The Long Version is to Educate you!!!lol, cus i know

some of you Nigerian ladies who where born and raised in Nigeria who now

live in America or Europe subliminally suffer from "Da Denial Syndrome" lol!!!

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@ martinosi,

not every nigerian girl depends on guys for money. there are many girls who depend solely on their families until they start working, and afterwards fend for themselves. there are successful ladies out there who don't need financial support from men. besides, a girl who would fall for a guy because of 1500 naira (or a fast food meal) sounds cheap (for an average nigerian girl).

i agree with you, that's the way to go about it.

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Actually I don't like toasting any lady. I prefer impressing them instead of toasting them. Toasting is a condescending act and sometimes I don;t blame the ladies for insulting their toasters.

If I see a girl I like, I'll trail her to know where she is going to or where she is coming from then I'll look for a means where I and her can get close like joining her club or going to the gym or being in the same Choir group with. This way I can get close to her and show her my real colour, after that I can then propose to her. By then she'd have fallen flat for me!

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@martinosi the long grammar u wrote here is enough for even American or Canadian girls to offload a heap of insult on u

just simply say hash econmic factor contribute a lot to why Nigerian girls snag and insult poor toasters

cos we here in Nigeria knows that every day this equation is true and we tested it always. well here is the formula

1).Rich Guy with bad body shape (even as a midget) gets fine girls

2) poor Guy with handsome figure(even 6+feet tall) gets sugar mama or ugly girls

3) normal guy gets low class girls

4)some Lucy guys gets desperate girls too.

5) the rest unlucky guys gets destitute girls

or better

1) Money + Monkey + toasting = Honey to (Nigerian beautiful girls)e.g Yobo+Adaeze

2)No Money+ 6ft handsome body= Monkey to(Nigerian average and beautiful Girls) e.g Soul-E + Queen Ure

3) The rest is + or - Baba God help us from eve.

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hmmmm, I'm guessing youre either pretty hott, your swag is on point, or both.

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It depends on your level of maturity. I have never been a victim of such.

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because they are LOCAL,not all of them though

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Dudu, it all depend on how you do your own toasting

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Dudu, it all depend on how you do your own toasting

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@stillwater and all. U say, if a girl want's a guy with some 'manner' she should find a rich dude. In rich, are u thinkn Bill gates rich or 'Alaba sales man' rich? If bill, then u'll have to go to the parties, club and spots he'll go to, which 4 a very large number of my naija women is near impossible cause they(the girls) are broke or if they got some won't want to spend it to have the slightest chance with the bill type. Then if u ment the alaba rich, That's as much as u'll get and u should appreciate the gesture cause though it could seem a little 'uncivilized' they are d one's ('alaba' rich men like myself) that end up having a longer-term relationship with the ladies. So a little advice of sorts, next time a dude walks up to u to say hello, Respond with a hello and a smile.

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U are not rich, if you are rich women would crawl to you,just snap ur fingers and the legs open.

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@topic. Because guys 'toast' girls like they're trying to negotiate a price with a prostitute.

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@Spade:Did you call that girl in your profile pic a real woman?she looks more like a transgendered .

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because they are not to be toasted they are not bread or chicken, use nice words to make a good impression about yourself and you wont be insulted not by been harsh or want to force the your presence in the girls face, wooing a woman is not by force

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@ Topic

Let them continue insulting, do they even have a choice or know what they want, and some of em are out here on NL are the wildest thing u can come across the keep on pretending like holy Mary.

However i will not lie about the fact that some of our guys lacks that manner of approach.

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^^^ Wut the hell u talking about? Shouldnt you be on the North side slanging crack or som'n?^^^

Anyways, with Nigerian girls in NY I think its a self esteem issue, they wish they looked like the chic in the video below, know they dont, thus, get mad at the world for looking the way they do (excepting of course oyinda).lol

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