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Why Do Nigerian Men Want Respect All The Time?

I am dating this Nigerian guy and I really really care about him, but he is always talking about respect, drowning it into my ears like it's the only English word that exists in the dictionary. And so I pose the question today, what is it about respect with Nigerian men. He insists that he doesn't want any miss independent and I must admit that I can be a little stubborn and yes, I have been doing things for myself before he came into my life. I care about him and YES i do respect him. But I wanted to ask you good folks if it's just a Nigeria thing, this deep fascination with respect.

p.s He got mad one day when i stated that that African men want to be respected always, am I wrong?

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chai!!!

laughing my male azz off!!!

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Yes, daz wot it supposed to be. That was Bible commandment. Husband Love ur wife ane Wife Respect ur Husband.

So never expect Love 4rm ur wife rather respect, but if she respects u and also luv u you must be a lucky man

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If U know U can't accommodate his whims anymore, tell him how U feel and see what he feels of Ur feelings, I'm sure he'll reason with you. Dialogging is the way U settle things like this

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Everyone deserves respect.

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I dont knw why,but if he respects you,then i think u shud respect him.If otherwise pls dont.

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Rotflmao! Oh heavens. . . Isn't it obvious ? He is trying to get you to break up with him. Jeez, it is the oldest trick in the book, he's throwing things he knows you are opposed to at you, so you'll go "Eff this, I'm done"

So if i am not into traditional religion, you think there is no hope? I never knew this trick before, sheesh i must not know alot.

p.s he used to have long hair, braided her, no dreads and he was very much the American, all this talk of moving back to Nigeria soon, plus traditional religion and now respect is all new.

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His Nigerianess just sprang up? He wasn't like this? Talking about traditional religion instead of Christianity. . . Babalawoism from some who came to the US when he was young?

Rotflmao! Oh heavens. . . Isn't it obvious ? He is trying to get you to break up with him. Jeez, it is the oldest trick in the book, he's throwing things he knows you are opposed to at you, so you'll go "Eff this, I'm done"

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U love a guy's name?? I have always known you are a tom-boy!!!

Kayode ko, Kamoru ni.

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respect is reciprocal,if d dude does not want to respect himself,then he shouldnt expect an iota of respect from me

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There's nuthing wrong appreciating his traditional religion IF AND ONLY IF you can drink human blood, visit Okija shrine every week to prove your faithfulness to him, human sacrifices, jazz(juju) and reh reh reh.

Who knows? U might just love the mystery around African Voodoo science.

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Wait, what kind of things do you guys deem as respectful? Kneeing to serve you your food or what? I need examples.

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It's not common. . . . . .Most Yoruba peops/Igbo peops i know are Christians.

If Religion is going to be an issue, it's high time u walk away from the relationship.

Don't think for one second he would bend his decision for you otherwise u might be accomodating 4 other wives in a classic polygamy setting.

He's Igbo and I think his view of religion is an appreciation for traditional Igbo religion (i'm not fully sure what that means), instead of christianity. He was raised a christian, but he prefers traditional religion. Are you saying that there might be something wrong with appreciating traditional religion instead of christianity?

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                  Fayasoul

And you by a chance in the medical field??

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you can walk out after we are done with the argument

I don't walk out, i get very very very quite, with nothing to say and he is always like say something, I say say nothing. I know he hates that, I'm just not used to saying things when mad. Being quite works for me as I am processing it all. But he keeps sayings, say something,

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It's not common. . . . . .Most Yoruba peops/Igbo peops i know are Christians.

If Religion is going to be an issue, it's high time u walk away from the relationship.

Don't think for one second he would bend his decision for you otherwise u might be accomodating 4 other wives in a classic polygamy setting.

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I suggest you lean towards Nigerian men who were raised abroad. Preferably the ones born in The States. They have been exposed to different lifestyles and are more understanding

It's funny you say Nigerians raised abroad. He came here as a child and when i met him he seemed more American than Nigerian. It's as if his Nigerian side sprung up after fully being comfortable in our relationship. Now there is talks of respect, and traditional roles, especially talks of traditional religion and not even Christianity as he opposes White man's religion. Is this common?

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Look at who's talking, we all know you are a sexist.

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Be careful of what you wish for. Her leaving during is better unless you wanna hear things that can not be taken back. I suggest the same to dudes. Better leave than say something that will completely damage the relationship

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But it's not only naija men. Women too wan shakara (older women).

It's a Nigerian thing, and I must say,I respect that a lot.

But they need to understand that demanding respect is not the way to go about it, [i]earning [/i]respect is the real deal.

As to your post, it becomes annoying an irritating when any man begins to demand respect from your every action.

Ask him if the relationship dwells on respect or on the communication and feelings you both share.

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say bye bye to your guy as soon as he finds a woman who can cook and do domestic work very well.

Respect is a big part of nigerian culture, you want to find out if its something you can stand for the long term before you get hurt.

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Pick one. Isnt it better to walk out and calm down if you dont want to hear any yelling?

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the lady wants to know what respect entail for u Nigerian men datz all

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Most Naija men grew up watching their mothers give their husbands maximum respect.

Why should they settle for less??

If a woman cant respect ma manhood, she can toss off.

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No not all, just want to understand where Nigerian men are coming from. Like I said earlier I care about him, but the talk on respect just had me thinking a bit. Would a Nigerian guy respect his woman equally? I guess that's the main point of my argument. Or better yet, what does respect entail? Cos lord knows I'm not too cut out for the domestic roles.

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