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Why Do Some Naija Women Think Being A Single Mom Is Ok?

Why are Nigerian women so content with being single mothers? I have seen far too many. I don't think many of them realize the effects that not growing up without a father has on the children.

I've noticed especially the younger generations think nothing of having children out of wedlock. It's so normal. WTF? Learn to use contraception if you can't be abstinent. I'm not trying to be a do-gooder. I'm only saying Nigerian women need to be more careful in relationships. I'm sick of hearing women blaming their idiocy on men. If you were not Molested, you have no right to complain if you get stuck with an unwanted baby. What some Nigerian women are doing just makes the men think they can just use them and abandon them with the baby/babies because it has become such a normalcy.

I know this happens everywhere in the world but I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about us. We don't need to use other people as a measurement. Our society is rotting and deteriorating and this is one of the major reasons why.

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To Riskie, whatever that means, It`s not your place to spend your life judging people especially the young girls. A person can also become single not by choice. A whole lot of women are in miserable marriages and if one quits that institution, automatically they become single mothers. Don`t come here and talk kak!!!!!

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@ riskie

i'm at DIAC, hult. can we see b4 i leave for naija on thursday? i stay at the green community.

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There's nothing wrong with being a single mom although having a man in the house is quite the ideal situation. Many children raised by their moms alone end up being normal and sometimes even better than those raised by a mom and dad

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@ Topic

I am a guy so it difficult for me to speak categorecally. BUT. ,

I see nothing wrong with women wanting to be single mothers (as long as they know who there baby-daddy is). (my opinion)

I think this single mother mentally thing is another evidence of western civilization slowly eating away our Traditions and cultures.

Normally it would be taboo for a girl to have a child outside of wedlock but. . . poo changed.

But I'll be damned if any child of mine opts to be a single mother, a queer/lesbian or a freaking pastor.

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Problem me? I dont think so.

It is just that i cant mine eyes off ur pics

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@riskie

ok interpret. Anyway i trust u sha, u re too fine to curse

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@riskie

sorry i won't compliment u again. Y all these cursing?

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she never said that. She has never said anything bad

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@riskie

I don't usually do romance, the only reason am here is to read your posts. I love the way u express yourself

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that doesnt count then. . . u werent raised by a single parent, your parent split after u were above d age of consent!

Believe it or not there r actually women out there who plan d whole thing, who actually set out to have children for themseleves, hav no interest in getting married. . . u may call that selfish but they are fully aware of the risks and problems involved and fully prepared for it.

It does sound offensive to people lik my brother and I. . . and insulting to people lik my mum.

I suggest u stick to keeping your opinions to yourself if u can't express them without meaning to insult people

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I don't have any issues with how I was raised, thank you very much. My parents didn't divorce until I was 15.

The problem is not being a single parent. The problem is the way it happens and what happens thereafter to the children mostly.

The way you were raised and that you have a relationship with your dad is your experience. I have also had a very nice one with my father. That is my personal experience. But this is not the case with all people raised in single parent homes. In fact most of the people I know who were raised in such situations didn't have it so nice.

The issue that I'm talking about is how some women enter into risky relationships and don't think about the future and how what they do may affect their children. They do things like intentionally getting pregnant without a commitment or any assurance of one and don't think about how the kids may feel later when they only have one parent.

Anyway maybe what I'm saying sounds offensive or I'm not doing a good job of explaining what I'm trying to say, so I'm not going to say anything anymore. I guess next time I'll keep my opinions to myself and just post smileys on other people's threads.

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Sweety that is exactly what u r saying

Mind the way u use words,

u r entitled to ur opinions but suggesting that single parents r d reason d reason for all the troubles in d Nigerian society is pushing it. . . if u have issues with d way u were raised, i suggest u discuss it with ur mum. . . i wldnt trade d way i was raised for anything and i am infact proud of the fact that some women have d guts to go it on their own. i do hav a relationship with my dad, being raised by a single parent doesnt mean u dont hav a father. verything can b handled maturely. . . i understood d situation between my folks from an early age and my mother helped me deal with it. i appreciate it all more now and am infact proud of what my mum achieved. i probably wld do d same.

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I never said all, I said some. The word 'some' is in no way indicative of generalization. I have already acknowledged in the first post that it happens in other places, not only in Nigeria.

About it not being a big deal. That's your opinion. To me it is a big deal. I am entitled to think and speak/type as I please. Just as you can.

Read the post well before accusing people. I did not generalize.

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The author of this thread almost infuriated me with this topic. Why generalise? What's the big deal in being a single mother. What you dont understand is that every woman has a choice to make concerning her life. She knows how best it would suit her to live it and i dont think she ever plan or dream of raising her kids alone. Circumstances might have warranted it so it is understandable. I am not saying it is the ideal thing to be a single mum but pls caution yourself next time when it comes to this sensitive issue. ok!

Being married is good and ideal but it is not the ultimate as far as i am concerned. MY SINCERE OPINION!

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Why Do Some Naija Women Think Being A Single Mom Is Ok?

Why Do Some Naija Men Think Abandoning Their Kids is OK?

They both made the child therefore they have equal responsibility over it but that's hardly ever the case.

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Kini Big Deal? Abeg,It's a free world o jare.

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@ riskie

have been trying to reach you since i read it, so I could compliment you. Prior to reading the joke, had the impression that u were just interested in dissing other tribes (u and Mc Usman).

Anyway, nice one, keep it up

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I'm not talking about single mothers in the circumstances of divorce, abusive relationships etc. I'm talking about those that are single mothers because they were with a random guy/boyfriend and had a baby by "mistake" or those who use children as a way to trap a guy.

I'm not crazy. I wouldn't blame a lady who was getting beat up by her "husband" everyday and left so that her kids could have a better life.

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Any woman that opts to go the single way rather than stay in an abusive marriage/relationship gets my whole hearted support. It is not the most ideal situation to raise kids but it sure beats some of the wrecks that we call marriages these dayz.

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post it 2 the joke section abeg

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funniest joke have heard in months

An atheist was walking through the woods.

'What majestic trees'!

'What powerful rivers'!

'What beautiful animals'!

He said to himself.

As he was walking alongside the river, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him. He turned to look. He saw a 7-foot grizzly bear charge towards him.

He ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder & saw that the bear was closing in on him.

He looked over his shoulder again, & the bear was even closer. He tripped & fell on the ground. He rolled over to pick himself up but saw that the bear was right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw & raising his right paw to strike him.

At that instant the Atheist cried out, 'Oh my God!'

Time Stopped.

The bear froze.

The forest was silent.

As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky. 'You deny my existence for all these years, teach others I don't exist and even credit creation to cosmic accident.' 'Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament? Am I to count you as a believer'?

The atheist looked directly into the light, 'It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask you to treat me as a Christian now, but perhaps you could make the BEAR a Christian'?

'Very Well,' said the voice.

The light went out. The sounds of the forest resumed. And the bear dropped his right paw, brought both paws together, bowed his head & spoke:

'Lord bless this food, which I am about to receive from thy bounty through Christ our Lord, Amen.'

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Maybe back in the day. But from my observations a lot of younger people could care less. This is just my opinion.

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I thought Nigerian women tried so hard to get married and disliked being viewed as being without a man or a single mother?

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Theaz a reasn 4 everythn, ma mum is single, has been 4 a long time, and we are OK!

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my question are

have u been married??

do you have child??

if the answers are no, then you are not qualify to start this thread

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