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Why Do The Nigeran Women Reject Me?

My finance took me to a gathering with several couples there and none of the Nigerian women would talk to me. I dont understand if i did something to offend them. The guys were warm to me but I received a very cold shoulder from the women.

The only person that talked to me the whole night were two American girls.

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what do you mean by that rider?

It's not as though we can borrow okporoko and ukazi from her

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i think she just needed to whine about something. Maybe she's still PMsing.

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I don't see anything these women did wrong.

did she know them  NO

did they know her   NO

Personally the most I say to a stranger at a party is hello and I move on.

I don't go striking off a conversation and taking bathroom trips with someone I don't know.

If she went to a party anywhere and didn't know anyone there, I'm sure it won't be any different.

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Excellent point. Maybe they acted "cold" because they dont know you at all. The average Nigerian tends to avoid pple they dont really know. Men do sometimes try to act cool and make you feel welcome, dont expect the naija woman to do so until she knows you very well . . . u'd be surprised how nice they could be . . . up to the point of becoming a nuisance.

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Pls u guys shd leave Naija women alone. . .

Sometimes they themselves are afraid of rejection and that is why they stick with each other. . .

Nigerians generally are very proud but sometimes its just a minor case of inferiority complex

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Naija party is worst than any insult

they act nice to you and smile at you

larra on. . .they'll insult you behind your back and gossip. . .

naija women. . we try sha

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you guys remember this was at a party

who goes talking to " strange women " at random in a party?

That's why I don't go when I won't know anyone coming.

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BTw. . . she's not nigerian, right?

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@ post

perhaps u r being overly sensitive. . . .

ever considered it probably had nothin to do with the fact that they are nigerian?

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@ stillwater my dear,I learnt that one today.

How about those of us that are low black abi high brown?

Skin color is not something Nigerians care that much about.

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Sistawoman, sure, depending on what event you attend you might encounter a crowd that's more receptive; however, you should not automatically expect a reaction any different from the one you experienced on that day.

Those are the twigs that come along with dating someone outside of your own world.  There tends to be some sort of animosity.  Eventually, as they get to know you more, they may become fond of you and actually like you, or they simply just continue to loathe your presence. It's life, deal with it.

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I understand the hypocrisy in my statement and the way i was treated last night has caused me to re-evaluate how I will treat them in the future.

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isnt it hypocrisy to be complaining then or is hostility ok simply because the other woman happens to be white? She's human too you know.

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You probably need to learn how to "gist" like a Naija woman , ask your fiance to teach you

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so there is still hope the more events i go to right?  The way they treated me almost made me not want to go again.  Should I have talked to my future husband about this?

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I think they are of the mindeset that you stole their man, (you should stick to you own) kind of thing. Personally I believe once you live away from your origin, anything goes, anyone is fair game,

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