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Why Do They Keep Coming Back?

There has bin this funny but true trend

You meet a guy, u guys start dating and its just like he can't live without u as he is just all over you.You guys talk about virtually about everything and anything under the sun.Meanwhile during the course of getting to know each other, you have made this one thing clear: NO SEX UNTIL AFTER MARRIAGE! and he doesnt object neither does he bhave as if he can't just cope with that.

Months into your relationship, he starts bringing up the issue and it gradually becomes an issue and a soource of misunderstanding.Then when ure not yielding, he starts dating someone else.When u find out, you can't stand it and u guys decides to talk about in and in the process u both willingly decide to go your separate ways.Of course he is too willing to call it off.Obviously,he continueS with this his new found love.

Surprisingly,few months after uve both decided to call it over, he starts calling and he wants to come back into your life.

Trust me, i REFUSE but he never seem to give up, even till tomorrow.

The truth is why do they keep wanting to come back after treating me the way they have done?

Dont be suprised that this has happenen with two guys in a row and it has been almost the same story all through trust me.

PLS WHAT DO You ALL THINK?

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@derin007, my word for you is that, you can still take him back, cos the guy has realise his mistake that is why he wants you back and his going to play the game according to how you want it. so give him a chance and see if he has a change mind, but restrict him for what he has been demanding for.ok. just an advise.

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omaga25red

Thanks 4 all that.The fact is that i made up my mind whilst growing to abstain.

Its just a standard.God has got standards which HE will never bend.

Consequences notwithstanding my mind is made up.Let me keep myself for that one man that God will eventually bless me with.I want to also be a standard for my children yet unbornI dont have to know who he is b4 i do the right thing which is keeping myself for him.that is the height of trust u might say!

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Na real mission unaccomplished.

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"Mission unaccomplished"

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he's coming back cos he wants a taste of the elusive pie!

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The reason for coming back is to see if he could still get you in the sack because he spent all that time with you and he couldn't score with you.

If i were you i would not be tricked into marrying him because he would get some sex and be out.

quick question what influenced your decision to not have sex untill marriage is it religion? or are you scared of sex or better yet have you had sex beofre and now you changed? no disrepect meant by these questions just wondering.

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well, girl, that has been the common problem among lovers. it happen to me also,but, i thank God that we have resolve it recently. you know what, it is a normal thing, it's what a guy must ask from his girl, so, it depend on howfar you guyz have gone before you encounter such problem, I for instance have such problem when we dated for 3yrs. but thank God we have settled. later

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@uspry1

is dat u in the picture?

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@queen01

Welcome to Nairaland! You will love it! Plenty of time meeting different Nairaland people! Plenty of laughing, educating, contributing, learning, and changing your life lot better yourself!

The more you will save too many heartbreaks learning from their mistakes that you won't happen to youself! Be smart! Be cautious! Keep your legs close!

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@uspry1

hi dear actually i'm new here, tryin to know a little bout the forum, wassup?

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I advice u stay away from that guy because once he get what he's looking for believe me u won't see him again.

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Bravo Lady. Keep it up. Those guys sucks. They didn't really love u in the first place. They are more interested in your Well. If a guy really love u, he will be more than willing to wait. He just want to add you to the list.

When I was dating my wife and I learnt her stance (she was a virgin too), Boy was I mad with love and admiration for her. Keep it. That is your weapon. Don't let anybody decieve you that virginity is nothing. Personally I treasure it. You will surely meet somebody who reasons like you. Girl I am happy for you and mighty proud of you.

They keep coming back because they now know your value. I love the following quotes. One, more of male ego and perhaps they now know your worth

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They keep coming back because you are unfinished business. Its probably not love dear, its the male ego thing. They just have to be the one to pop the cherry.

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If they keep coming back then you should keep looking good the way u are(they cant help that).U are simply great however they might also be comin back to complete what they didnt finish in the first place.Just make sure real love dont pas u by.Enjoy.

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we keep coming back cos we cant do without those we really love. . .

if our issues were based on sex, then i see no reasons why we shouldnt heal the wound. . .

Sex aint evrthin

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Lemme get this straight, aren't u glad they come back begging?

wld u rather they were like "good riddance to bad rubbish"? You's the one havin the last laugh so keep ur head up girl.

And don't eva be taking back those dogs, they belong in the pound.

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Not as easy as u fink especially when the feelings arent lost. Apz the posta is sick and tired of the blokes, and is interested in knwin why they kip comin bck. It comes dwn to virtue. Good fins are alwz hard to find and tht may explain why we struggle to come to terms with breakup if our partner is got the RRR factor. RESEPCTFUL, RESPONSIBLE AND RELIABLE. Thts the key.

@posta. credit to u. I guess they only comin back bcs u'r tht good. I mean bta thn the others they'v met. U sure wont be single for too long.

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Speakin from experience I gs. Thts a very strong possibilty.

Another nice point but again, it comes down to the RRR factor. RESPECTFUL, RESPONSIBLE AND RELIABLE.

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hmmm. . How do i put it now??

Ok

I feel a girl that is a virgin should date a guy that hasnt had sex before and they can build from there.Cos trust me its not gonna be easy 4 a guy that has been there to be faithful even if he loves her.

So take ur time and get the right guy for u

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take him back and he'll treat u worse than that!

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if you don't want to be with him, just stand your ground and tell him you are not interested any longer.

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you are right to say it works both ways but obviously they won't continue going after you for long again. once you tell the you are not interested, trust me after a while you won't even hear from them again.

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