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I met her in my final year in school, fast forward to 13 months after. I have never given any woman such a large portion of my heart cos I've been in quite a number of relationships before her. Before I graduated, she loved me more than life but I never took advantage of that fact. I started working and she is still in school.

If we had an argument in the past, she would always say she was sorry regardless of whose fault it was, like I said, I never took advantage of it. I must say I'm very experienced in women affairs. I am always busy with work but I still manage to call her like 4 times every day. I noticed she started telling me lies about who she talks to on the phone but I am a confident guy that knows what he wants, I always forgive her in the shortest possible time.

Recently, we had a fight and after 2 days, I said I was sorry cos of the things I said that were outta place, she told me she needed some time on her own, so I decided not to call her anymore, it's been about 3 weeks and she still ain't called so my male pride isn't gonna let me call her cos I don't want to give her the impression that I couldn't live without her.

The funny thing is that if I wanted to hurt her, I'd do so very easily but I'm a fair guy, I always have females that wouldn't mind doing stuff for me and she knows this, she used to be scared that if she left me for a while, I'd give in to those other females, now it seems she wouldn't mind. I am thinking that since she no longer sees me often cos it's a long distance relationship, these feelings she had might be fading or she's found someone else, or now has bad friends, there are 1001 possibilities. I wouldn't go gaga if I lost her cos I got a lot of mental and emotional resilience, but then again, it's gonna pinch.

I would love your opinions on why you think she's acting strange and what you think my best line of action should be.

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It's really amazing how people change, I heard u all and I'll like to hear more so I can take a decision cos when I take a stand, I stick to it to the end

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iykedee

I don't have a great deal to contribut but if she ain't tried to contact u in 3 weeks, i sincerly feel its over, her attention is being taken by someone else.

I feel your pain bro, take heart and move on, it wasn't meant to be her, when she does realise what she's lost like u rightly said it'll be too late, just go through the emotions now rather than prolong ur misery with wishing and hoping

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If after three weeks she hasn't called you, then its possible she ain't feeling you anymore, so just let her be and move on with your life.

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I thing i have learnt is if a lady loves she'll be all over you

and if she dosent there is nothing you can do about it.

Her love for you has probably faded.

As for me i wont stress myself because of any girl.

you can never persuade a lady to love or care about instead pretence if all you get at the end.

I have treated some ladies like angels in the past ang got nothing at the end.

while some were treated like poo but still held tight to me.

Ladies are just like that.

If you talk to her and the situation persists then let go.

Dont disturb yourself.

No lady has the best of all qualities.

Life goes on.

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I never pictured that I would be in this position cos I resolved that I wouldn't date a girl that was still schooling cos I saw a lot of things in my school days. In as much as I hate to believe she has some other dude, it seems very likely. I think I'll let her fly and if she comes back, she'll be sorry cos I'll be long gone.

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@poster

I feel you with u story

The reasons::

Many of us cant keep distance relationship sizziling 4eva., especially when we dont really kwn what we want

The girl may have gotten another dude who is now winning her, which might mean she is trying to keep all with u in d past

Bad habbits corrupts good mind, wondering the kind of female folks she keeps as friend

Bros, keeping love alive is real hard work, how ready are u for it?

If u are,it means  u have to roll up ur sleeves, throw cautions/pride to the wind and go in search for her

Only ur findings can solve the puzzels

Or alternatively let her fly, if she comes back,she is ment 4 u,but if not she is never ment for you.

Take heart and may u find a way out to ur pblm

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Good.

A JOURNEY OF A MILLION MILES BEGINS WITH JUST A STEP !

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@ poster

she may not have forgotten you but that is not to say she is not catching her fun, maybe she wants you to call her first just the same way you want her to call first. just give her a call or pay her a visit just to know where you stand with her,

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I feel you,lets see what happens.

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Yeah i know she is vulnerable but then i won't want you to depend on information from her collegues or people staying within her area but i will want you to see things for your self and swallow that male pride for now.

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I'm glad someone feels me but she has a female room mate and beside if she was doing anything in her house, I wld have gotten wind of it cos everyone knws we are an item and almost everyone know me and wld not hesitate to call me if sth was happening.

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