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Why Do We All Take Infidelity So Seriously?

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Why is it that when someone's husband, wife, fiance, fiancee, boyfriend or girlfriend indulges in sex with someone else, the person becomes very angry? Why is it such a big deal?

Here are some factors that came to my mind:

[list][li]Your wife/girlfriend/fiancee could get pregnant for the other person and give birth to a child that is not yours. Note: DNA analysis can be used to determine the paternity of a child.[/li]

[li]Your husband/boyfriend/fiance could father the other woman's child and consume resources that would have been used to take care of the your own children. Once again, we observe that such pregnancies can be prevented using various methods.[/li]

[li]Your partner could contact STDs or the HIV virus and pass them on to you.[/li]

[li]Your partner may spend a significant amount of money on the other person, therefore 'shortening your ration' (I guess this applies more to unfaithful men ...)[li][li]You feel bad because the infidelity implies that your partner is not satisfied with your 'performance'[/li][/list]

Ok, that's all I can think of. It sure seems as if the above 'disadvantages' of sexual infidelity are just too weak ccompared to the indignation that people display when they discover that their partner has been cheating on them ...

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WTF seun. A biological argument for why it's okay to cheat now that we have contraceptives? It's not okay to cheat because most people in a relationship are under the impression that the relationship is monagamous, and it makes those people unhappy to have their trust exploited. If you are up front with a woman, and she says you can cheat, then it is not wrong. Swingers do it all the time, and they don't mind.

Dude, never get married, and for God's sake, never have children. It just wouldn't be fair to them. It's not like you would invest time in ensuring a better future for them. You'd be too busy finding other ho's to impregnate.

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Because when you take vows you are making a promise, it doesn't say love me and sleep with other women. so if you make such an important promise especially about our life and not fulfil it then, i have the right to get pissed off. and also when you enter into a relationship with someone, the idea will be to forsake all others and i am the woman for you, so why tell me you love me and bang someone else, it just isn't right. you are supposed to be faithful to the one you choose to be with.

i think we take it seriously bcoz its a promise made by both partners knowingly, and i wouldn't want to get some kinda disease because you couldn't keep it in your pant.

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What if we all simply stop expecting sexual monogamy, and operate open relationships instead?

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its so unfortunate.That there is no more faithfulness in relationships.

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Infifedility is the same as cheating..Cheating is a negative word. I don't know anyone who likes to be cheated

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This is a serious matter because there is more than hurt feelings to be considerate of.

One of the most important factors for me is disease. No one wants AIDS, H.I.V. or any infection. People's lives are at stake. The person you're cheating with could be wacky and try to hurt your partner or anything. Who would it feel to be the cause of something like that from making a senseless act that you could have been honest about.

Why not be honest? If you are interested in someone else for whatever reason then let it be know. As much as people say that they rather not know if their partner is cheating,,,, I believe most people respect honesty. It doesn't change the fact of cheating but at least you are aware and have the choice of deciding if it's something you're OK with.

The reality is that people are going to do whatever it is thatthey want to do and there is nothing that can be done about it. Honesty is the best policy.

That's my take

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The fact that your partner can bond with someone else sexually is a very serious issue. However some people can forgive it and some people can not.. But the act remains that the act of infidelity remains a grave offence whether u are caught or not , or whether u are forgiven or not...

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Just curious, seun. What are your thoughts on infidelity? Do they differ if it is the woman being unfaithful or the man?

I think people take infidelity seriously because when you decide to date someone exclusively or marry them, you are taking a vow before God (usually) promising to be faithful to that one person, through sickness and in health, until death do you part. So it hurts and damages the foundation that you have built your marriage/relationship on when one person in the partnership breaks those vows.

I take infidelity very seriously and even if I had children I would not let that prevent me from ending/leaving the marriage if I thought that it was something he entered into knowingly (and how could it not be?).

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Ezinne, are you saying you like to share your men?

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