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Why Do We Cheat?

Just about everyone I know of has cheated or betrayed someone who was under the impression that you would not be intimate with anyone other then them.

I'm doing a little research on this subject and would like to know the circumstances that led you to cheat!

We live in an age where cheating is more prevalent than ever before thanks in part to internet dating sites, working long hours with the opposite sex, a pop culture that down plays the significance of being monogamous and in fact encourages people to cheat by describing the thrill of it all in songs, movies, and magazine articles.

We don’t hold cheating against icons such as John F. Kennedy,

Martin Luther King, Bill Clinton, Michael Jordan, or Brad Pitt.

In fact most of us know someone who is cheating or has cheated on someone and we still remain close trusted friends with him or her. In fact many of us have cheated ourselves.

The only time cheating really upsets us is when we have been cheated on.

Cheating is one of those things that most of us have one definition for when we are engaged in secret activity and another definition for it when it’s our partner that is engaged in the same activity.

I'm not out to judge anyone after all I too have cheated.

I just want to get as many reasons why other people have done it.

Besides answering the big WHY question I would be curious to know if you got caught and if so did your primary relationship end.

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variety they say is the spice of life, u need a little bit of this and that, then we can confidently say it a small world

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forget , a ll na story, sometimes we cheat because we can get away with it! simple,

and also, variety is the spice of life

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it is in the nature of most humans to cheat, if u don't like it, u can stop doing it.

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pls dont condem me about this fact.

I am married to a lady i dated for eigth good years but after our mariage my wife

becomes something else hoping i was having an affair with other girls which is not true

she fustrate me to the extent that i dont love her anymore, even to have sex with her

there is no more emotional feeling from me towards her.

After some time i started dating a lady close to my office who dont know that i'm married. she always call me to say i love u even if i dont call her before i go home she will be angry with me saying she miss me.

This have really drawn my attention from my wife to this lady, but unfortunately today i saw this so call girl going into the hotel with another guy spending more than 1 hour and she still call me today to say i love u.

I want to go back to my wife and try to love her back but my reason for cheating in the first place was that my wife push me into that.

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yes o.GOD has to safe u people cus u need dat salvation

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why do u think d word cheatin originated frm women?.abeg do research well

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when there is true love, there is nothing like cheating.

cheating is out of love to me.

its because of selfish interest

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People cheat due to different reasons some either the partner is not satisfying sexually, others cheat because there partner can not satisfy them monetarily and others cheat because they are caused it is in their blood they can't help it.

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Don't you know that stolen water, taste the sweetest?

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nature cant b cheated. . .

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I don't exclude the possibility. but if I should, I really hope it won't be more than once if not I am moving to the psychiatric hospital permanently. I don't think anyone psychologically sane would cheat repeatedly!

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simply bcus him or her changes is nt a justified reason to cheat

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spot on. Now thats the question you suppose to be asking oga poster.

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I can't say for others, but I hate the idea of cheating. Since I can't forgive being cheated on, I try as much never to cheat no matter the circumstances.

Thye day I cheat is the day I am paying a visit to a psychiatric hospital!

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you've given most of d reasons above. some do it for fun, adventure, variety, etc just 2 name a few

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What is cheating?

The best answer I have ever heard to define cheating came from an Older Lady sometimes ago

She said, “If you are saying or doing something with someone that you would not say or do if your spouse or partner were sitting next to you then you are cheating.” People, who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.

In essence cheating is having a secret relationship or participating in secret activities with someone that your partner would not approve of.The key word is “secret”.The cheater doesn’t want his/her mate to know what they are doing.

Filling In The Gaps

One of the most common questions asked of cheaters is why didn’t they just leave their mate before pursuing another relationship?

As you will see the reasons vary from person to person.

One common theme seems to be that cheaters often appreciate many aspects of their present relationship and they are simply looking to “fill in the missing gap”

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why do YOU cheat not why do WE cheat.i ve neva done dat nd i will neva.

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