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Why Do We Go Into Relationships?

The high rate of divorce and single parenthood these days is a cause for concern. What is it we are doing wrong? We go into relationship for different reasons. Some to kill their loneliness, some to boost their ego, some go into it cos their friends are all married or engaged, some for money, some for love, some for passion, some for Bleep, etc. Are we victims of misplaced priorities? Our generation need to tackle this incessant problem destroying homes without fathers.WHY DO U GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP?

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there is no hard and fast rule to relationships, its what you put into it you get in the form of results. You have to be happy with yourself first before you think you can make someone else happy.

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But do you know Yimiton, that some peeps take you for granted and don't appreciate the little you do for them and they just want to use like a rag huh ? alotta things happen oooo

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companionship and a sense of being appreciated.

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everyone goes into relationship for different reason. Relationship is just a course on it's own, you don't have to jump into it cos friends or brothers are going into it, little wonder why you see some peeps out there waiting for the right person ! and peeps who eventually go into relationship because of their ego or whatever can end up not getting married in future.

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we get into relationships to learn.

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its just like asking y we get married.

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well well well,ats a nice 1,i agree wit u Mer-C,u know ma mom alwaz hammer dat too on me,d main reason abt goin into a relationship is because u fill u re compatible wit dis fellow and u luv him not only 4 physical attraction alone,and we shld av it at d bak of our mind dat we cld eventually marry d person,so we shld be careful so as not to go and be playin arnd wit d 1 while we misuse d opportunity

          In a nutshell,d main purpose of relationship is 2 prepare ursef 4 marriage.

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I've always been taught to go into a relationship with the final destination as marriage (ma mom hammered that in ma head)

So wen I "fall in love" with a guy and I start dating him, of course marriage is always topmost in ma mind.

I don't like the concept of changing bfs anyhow. Infact I've had only 1 other serious relationship plus ma current one.

I wudn't have broken up with ma ex but for religious reasons. He was a muslim and I'm christian.

Ma current relationship is more acceptable by ma parents and I must confess that I'm happier.

I'm in it cos I love him and I want to marry him. And that will always be one of ma motifs in relationships.

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That's a very valid question. There's many many ways to answer it. Ok, in high school, I got into a relationship because everyone was getting into one and it became annoying to see everyone swoon over their love letters on mail days, so I needed my letter to show off to my friends as well. I can't say I loved the guy in question, he might have been getting into the relationship for the same reason I did. After high school, I realized that relationships are mostly cliche and the ppl that get into relationships genuinely are very few if any. Some ppl do that to show off their prowess in getting someone, but not necessarily keeping them. Then I came across a book by Joshua Harris called 'I kissed dating goodbye', which talks of the casual ways we get into relationships and then our standards in everything drop, coz the more you date, the less happiness you find, hence the high rate of break ups and divorces, and that's why many ppl care nothing about really loving someone, it's just a technical thing to go into a relationship. It may sound very prudish, but I want to get into a relationship for the sole purpose of marriage. I mean, what's the point of dating to pass time? It may be just me, but the more of your heart you give to someone, the harder it is to give the next time you get someone else to date. So if the goal is not marriage, then to me, it's pointless. Very controversial and bound to bring about a storm, but that's my opinion that I will defend and that I'm entitled to.

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"Olagbangba" ya post is of a high sentimental value "it stirs certain good and bad memories in me". For sentimental reasons, i will choose to say u've said it all. You're indeed a sentimentalist

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