Why do we marry?
It is true we don't get taught in a skool some of the more important things in life. We should however make use of opportunities available to us to learn. There are books articles videos and seminars on the subject of marriage. Taking advantage of these resources would be of great benefit don't u tink?
I disagree with the bold.What happens to marriages without children? Or couples who do not wish to have children?
The main essence of Marriages is companionship, follow by sexual satisfaction. Child bearing is the 3rd and the least of the 3. Most religions agree to this, especially Christianity.
But what this thread is asking is 'cant we achieve all these without getting married?'
Marriage is a sacred relationship between a man and a woman ordained by God for companionship on one hand and, the procreation and training of children as antidevils on the other.
The primary reason and purpose why we should marry is to raise children who would be empowered to embark upon a project or course that will be of benefit to humanity thereby serving God through selfless services to humanity.
Many marry for wrong motives who pay darely for it shortly after. A few examples of the numerous wrong reasons why we marry are: Pride of being the spouse of a particular celebrity, Rejection by parents thereby seeing marriage as an escape route from parental domination, non-controlled passion for sex, lust for beauty and lust for wealth among others.
So, why must you marry? Marry because you want to fulfill a divine order to raise children who would fight injustice and corruption that have eaten deep into the fabric of the society. Before I forget, in case you are a Nigerian, please marry to raise at least one child who will solve electricity problem in Nigeria!
Thanks. Compliment of the seasson.
I feel u cos at some point in my life I also despaired about the whole marriage tin. I in fact experimented a lil bit wit having a partner wit whom I shared all but surnames with but I discovered that without the legal frame work of marriage it became easy to find excuses not to work things out.
Now am not saying marriage is a guarantee for staying together and working things out but when u realise u have a legal obligation towards someone it provides some measure of motivation.
This taken together with the other reasons folks here have stated for wanting to get married should provide a balanced view on marriage. But take this as a caveat: it's what we choose to work at, that works out.
If it would not make the other party happy, the other party should not marry me.
No be by force.
I'm not marrying to make me happy. That's slightly inaccurate.
I don't expect marriage to be a harbinger of happiness, but I would be happy to marry. Finding peace and happiness within the marriage is an added bonus that I expect.
I know it's not a bed of roses.
They are plenty in there. Ya just gotta look harder.
I would be perfectly satisfied with marrying for struture and permanent unity with the love of my life in the eyes of God.
The idea of marriage in and of itself is absolutely romantic and sweet.
There's an assortment of reasons of why I would want to get married.
It's a desire in my soul that must be fulfilled
I will take it that, you accept marriage, because of your religion and traditional believes. That is good enough but some peep dont give a damm about religion and traditional believes you know.
I agree with your good choice concept, but so many people never know/believe they were making wrong choices until they got married, then it become difficult/late to reconsider thier choices. Again if they only remain lovers and later realise they are not meant for each other, they simply move on thier separate ways without any divorce complications
The debate has been that, all these needs can be met by 2 lovers without getting married. Why must we say 'I do' when we can achieve all these without getting married and possibly prevent future pains.
That was why I said, holistic completeness is in marrying. Something is wrong with meeting some of these needs outside marriage. Religious beliefs apart, even traditions understand that there is something wrong about those who believe in doing things ordained within marriage outside marriage. Having a life partner is never a pain, pains come from wrong choices. This is true of every other thing apart from marriage. Wrong choice is the mother of pain. A good marriage choice is one of the most wonderful things that can happen to any body.
Reality is until you get married to someone, you are always second. Second to themselves, second to their family, second to their friends, second to even their dog.
Everyone deserves to be first and if by misfortune you fall in love with a mummy's boy, or a friend adulator, nothing stops you from tieing him up in marriage to retain the first position. Then you can make him pay for all those years you spent being the less important.
When i use the word mature, i am not talking about a man that fell on a sheep and all of a sudden found some hair on his chin, i am talking of someoone that know what he wants and will put his feet down, a man or woman that is not afraid to say his mind and damn the consequence . . . not some boyz that mama will say something and they start shaking.