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Why Do Women Love Bastards?

Ask any woman her ideal kind of man,and her response will almost inevitably include a man who is nice and gentle towards her.Yet you can't help but notice that women are attracted to men who treat them badly.It seems that the more rough you are with women the more your are likely to get laid.If you are nice,you heven't got a chance in hell.

Think of it,when we were babies,we were extremely selfish and treated women anyhow.We pied on them,cried all the time,vomitted on them and yet they responded with affection and allowed us to suck their bosoms whenever we wanted.

Now that we are more mature and treat them with respect, what do we get?We have to lie,cheat,cajole and spend money just  to get laid.

If that is not unfair,I wonder what unfair is .Can someone please explain this dilemna.

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Hackney,

You got it spot on.

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Some lines of wisdom: women get bored easily and as a result Mr 'Nice' doesnt usually get a look-in.

However a Bad boy is usually unpredictable and daring which gives the ladies a certain rush and keeps them 'engaged' over quite a while.

Believe this or not: a woman does not fancy a man that asks if he can have ; they prefer men that just go for it and take it ; i guess every girl has an inner slut wanting to be roughed up a bit.

Dont hit your gals though;just keep them guessing and with the ocassional outdoor squeezing (ha ha!!)

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Personally, I'm married. I didn't date much, was only interested in serious relationships and that's what I got. I never actually got involved with anyone that fits the description of a "bastard" as outlined in the post. I was only interested in a serious guy who had confidence in himself, didn't need approval/praise from his friends, knew what he wanted in life, was a Christian, had a good relationship with his mum and could speak up to her, NOT a follower/doormat, has a mind of his own. That's what I have and I thank God!

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So what kind of guys are you gals dating presently or perhaps in the past that fitted the descriptions?

I should assume that the word "Bastard" is the extreme case, cus what is bad for A may be good for B.

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True, most people don't want a dull guy/gal. But I'm pretty sure those are extremes, there's always balance.

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Nevertheless, I think some of these so called bastards have a better sweet sides that some ladies can not resist. No one wants a dull guy/gal.

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@Taken, you said many girls want the popular guys, guys that many other women want, so these guys end up being proud and thus "bastards"?

I guess I could then say that many men end up being attracted to very beautiful/high maintenance type of women, no? The guy's friends think the girl is beautiful, etc, this makes the guy's ego swell. These high maintenance ladies end up expecting a lot from their guys, thus end up being stuck up/pompous/etc?

It's like a silly cycle. If we all would just have confidence in ourselves and stop seeking the approval of our friends/enemies, the world would be a much better place.

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Na curse be that?? No be curse o, but a fact that hurts. I personally wish above all things that some of the women I have met have a very good husband but they just don't.

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Think about it Some girls are just hopelessly devoted to losers

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nah, no be that kind book me dey talk about.

There are other info - well groomed and well defined info that will help some guys out.

It is not about messing around either but gives you insight to how some of yall ladies dey do yanga. Besides, many so called good girls carry around the "I want good guy mentality", but their actions sought out for the baddest of guys.

Whatever the case is anyway, guys still need to understand women to flow with them.

Lastly, some of yall ladies will never be able to identify a good man when he is right before your nose.

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I dont know about women loving bastards.

One thing i do know though is that the whole playa thing does nothing and never did do anything for me. Ive read the book the art of seduction that tells guys to sorround themselves with beautiful adoring women and flirt with their girl's friends or sisters to make her mad or jealous and all other blah blah BS. I hate that book I remember reading it and wondering WTF? but it seemed like just about every guy bought the book and was trying to imbibe it into their everyday lives. the results? Dudes walking around talking and acting like they dropped out of a sleazy movie. trying hard to put on a persona that wasnt them. Like the book said to do you could sorround yourself with airheaded women who sing your praises and make your frail ego grow. That 'act will never attract the real kind of woman that is worth the ring. Just drop the act and display real man qualities.

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Wouldn't every man be a bastard, depending on the lady?

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Seriously, I am not trying to bash the women but I go tell my version of this issue.

Some of us guys adopted the players rules after many of these ladies treated us like poo. So, wetin man go do.

And it worked so well; but then, please use these rules to boost your egos, approach, understanding of some women, and lastly teach the females in your lives how to recognized good men.

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<Ask any woman her ideal kind of man,and her response will almost inevitably include a man who is nice and gentle towards her.Yet you can't help but notice that women are attracted to men who treat them badly.It seems that the more rough you are with women the more your are likely to get laid.If you are nice,you heven't got a chance in hell.>

Some men do not appear to be bastards or whatever from the beginning.

The girls-ladies-women: they want the most popular guy, very very handsome, very tall, built and handsome, very rich, a baller,

if a guy has a fine girl, other girls what da same guy, lousy guy, talk of the town guy, guy wey don baller all the girls, smooth mouth guy, sexy and irresponsible guy (hoping to change him later). In short, the more popular a guy is the more he is wanted by many girls - they just want to be with you.

Why - b/c many women want to look good publicly.

Least I forget, the influences of some mothers (with all sincerity, they want them to have a good home).

Sometimes, cus of sentimental reasons & up/down emotions.

And other times, only God knows what is going on in the head of some these ladies.

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Even if it is true that "many" women tend to rely on their friends in their choice of a partner, that doesn't answer the OP's question as to why do women choose "bastards"? We're assuming these friends are women too, so you're saying these friends and the woman choose "bastards?" Why?

I do believe that it is true that many women like to look good (not just physically) in the eyes of other women, but why would this lead to them choosing "bastards"? What is good about these guys?

I don't know if the OP is correct or not. All I know is that the people I know do not go about choosing bastards as their husbands. At least, not to my knowledge. We all need to be confident in our skin and stop relying on what other people think. We'll all be much saner and happier.

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Then you are part of those few. But most females are still influenced directly or indirectly.

Yall like to look good in the eyes of other females.

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This isn't generalization, I think we should all give ourselves opportunities to find out some whys.

Tell me, do yall ladies not often chose a guy based on the influences of ya pack of friends?

Only few females go out of their ways and choose a man without any consultation from their friends. Proof me wrong please!

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@ poster

Word! It is one of the discovery I found out in my own research, women are terrible at making the right choices when it comes to men.

Some women who are sincere even wrote about it that yall ladies like rough guys and hope to change him later in the future.

Result of my research,

One of the major reason is the influence of their friends, most females hardly stand firm on their personal decisions without the contributions of their female gangs.

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Notice how your entire post is about 'getting laid:", 4Play

shows the kinda women you're looking for.

You're looking for cheap tarts

They're looking for bastards

should be a match made in heaven

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@ Poster

You askin why do women love bastards. . . . . . you mean *cheap black bastard*!! Well my brotha, im so glad you asked, you see some women love it when love hurts ( na low self esteem dey worry dem). Try tellin dem o, when love hurts it won't work.

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I get the sentiment of the question. Infact, I am a woman and I've wondered it myself.

Thankfully, my sisters and the close friends I have are not like this. Maybe it's the type of people I have around me or something but most people (both men and women) I know are pretty responsible and level headed. The thing is I get annoyed/fed up easily with certain types of people so probably attract other types of people. We all need to evaluate the type of women/men we attract.

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I get the sentiment of the question. Infact, I am a woman and I've wondered it myself.

Thankfully, my sisters and the close friends I have are not like this. Maybe it's the type of people I have around me or something but most people (both men and women) I know are pretty responsible and level headed. The thing is I get annoyed/fed up easily with certain types of people so probably attract other types of people. We all need to evaluate the type of women/men we attract.

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@ poster what do u understand by bastard.

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because they are bastards - ooops!

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true to some extent. some ladies actually love the crazy ones. when ure too cold, ure an abomination for some

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Please dont generalize.

Nairaland women do not constitute a good representation of Nigerian women.

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wrong post: y do women like beasts

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@ xcape

ey yah, pele. To be honest, I feel ur pain. there are so many silly boys out there as well. Hang in there!!!

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@xcape

lol

maybe u should re-consider the type of women ur hanging out with? I'm just saying!

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I don't like bastards. I like nice guys. There is nothing like a perfect guy or Mr. 100% nice, but some idiots are non-starters. I have been fortunate enough to not have met any idiots/ assh*les, maybe except one. Soon as I realize that the person is a bastard, I kick him out of my life, real quick. I have them know that they need to take their pettiness, selfishness and immtaturity elsewhere, because it is no good here.

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@xkape

out of curiosity, are you speaking from experience then?

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Besides any guy just getting to know a girl will tell u that u should not treat her too nice all the time because she'l take u for granted

I dunno about this one oh. I'm an equal opportunist and expect a certain level of 'niceness' and respect, not just from guys., and I like to think that I treat my friends and people in general with the same level of respect and kindness. So like I said, If I think someone is beginning to play games or manipulate my feelings in any way, then it's time to X them off the list

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@kimba

Dont tchew the guy out, I mighht not agree with his expression but he raised a good point.

Women are always makin a fuss about how they want to be treated right but 70% of the time they stay in abusive and unhealthy relationships for all sorts of reasons

Besides any guy just getting to know a girl will tell u that u should not treat her too nice all the time cos she'l take u for granted. It sounds twisted but it happens

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maybe cause they think they can change them, anyways i ve nevr luvd a bastard so i can tell u

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@4Play

"we"? how many of you?

hhmmm. Thank you for describing yourself on Nairaland. I know its not easy to come-out with such a confession. May God Have mercy.!!! Now that you've gotten the weight off your chest, I believe you'll be a lil more relieved. hhhmmm

Anyway, kindly expantiate on what happened between the iinterval: after she(your mom) forcefully took her bosoms from you and didnt allow you to suck anymore, and now that you've begun to "lie,cheat,cajole and spend money just  to get laid.", i mean, how did you view women between that span of time,

Also on the "bastard" issue? you were not saying you are a , or

Also, are you trying to say all a woman is good for is just bosom-sucking and sex?

Theres something "MORE" you're trying to say, so blurt it out.

Its usually said:

Boys who didnt respect their mothers can't find it in themselves to respect their girlfriends/wives, and usually they pass the virus down to their own kids. Its one major problem in todays world, too bad

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