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Why Do You Guys Feel Intimidated By A Secured Woman?

Here's a question that I have been recently searching for an answer to. I'm literally dying to know,

Are men intimidated by women who are independent and smarter than they are? I've found myself having to downplay my status what i represent rather so I can avoid uncomfortable situations! I've worked hard to get to where I am in life! Why should I have to conceal who I am/what I do so I don't bruise some guy's ego?

You'd think a guy would be happy to know there are women out there not looking to be "taken care of".

Most of them probably just assume you make a lot of money even when you're just managing your life and are only after you for that reason".

Are you kidding me? Please tell me this isn't the consensus!

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A guys confident shld speak for him

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It's OK, It's Alright. I will marry you all.

Am not like other guys.

You got it?.

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Aproko inbox me you e-mail addy please

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@Onyilady

Maybe u have been rolling with the wrong and insecure bunch either that or you rub your achievements on their noses just guessing

Really what sensible man would not want an asset? Afterall i have seen women with inferior intelligence and qualifications that still suck at being wives or partners. The problem is a lot of y'all would want to play our position and not your position i.e you dont deny a man his basic respect regardless of your status and expect all would be well in the relationship/household

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To be in a leader in what ever circumstance u need a form of control over those under you, most guys feel a woman who has the money will usurp the leadership role in a marriage thats y guys get uncomfortable with chicks that re loaded. It`s up to the ladies to balance the love and respect angles to a relationship no matter who holds the pepper. I have seen a situation where the wife is more loaded but treats the man as a husband should be treated they still happily married after more than 10 yrs together.

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The words that stand out for me here are control and insecurity, wish life was a lot simpler than that but surely a woman who works and can hold the family together should the man fail to do so should be celebrated, men and their EGOS!

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As naturally rebellious and high minded as most women tend to be and how difficult it is for most to tame those xtics, U can imagine how much harder it is when a woman takes that she lacks nothing and doesn't need a man for more than sex and anything else she wants from him, then add pride to the list and try living with that.

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Thats the order of the day, you should have a degree but should stay away from a masters or a PHD just to cater to low-self-esteemed egos.

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it all depends where you live. in the real world, men are dying for such women but in 9ja they are mostly frown upon when it comes to marriage.

like the previous poster said, its all about control OR RATHER insecurity!

just read the many threads on NL about men asking if its RIGHT for a wife to earn more than a husband, if its RIGHT for a wife to make her own decisions in marriage, if its right for a wife to build her own house etc

most, dont view women as an equal partner but rather as someone who should never have more "power" than them in the relationship.

if a man has a successful wife then HE is successful but they never see it like that and rather look down upon this idea!

as for the ones who use the bible words for words to define a union in 2010, they have seriously lost the plot!

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Some men would definately not go for women of such status cos they feel such women would be difficult to control, and those are the no- nonsense kind of guys. As for me such women don't intimidate me for the kind of person i am, but the fact remains dat : most women who attains such status tend to go out of hand at one point or the other (just a few remain level headed) even if it's just to small degree. But i guess dats where tolerance come into play.

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