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Why Do You Not Want To Get Married?

Since there is a thread on why u want to get married, I guess there shld be one, on why u don't want to get married.

ok, little break down, I know for a fact that it is not written any where that one MUST get married, so why is it that when you tell people u don't intend to get married, they start running their mouth.

The same way the person that wants to get married have reasons why they want to, the person that don't want to get married have reasons as well.

Myself for one, don't want to get married, if I have my way. I strongly believe people should get married once they are ready to fulfil their various roles in a marriage.

Anyway, if you really don't want to get married, let's hear your reasons.

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wow, good place to be to relax. The politics section is simply crazy. Seun is really breeding some mad souls on nairaland no doubt.

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^^Sincerely, its not easy taking care of your kids as a man without your spouse o!, i'm not a married man yet o! but its what i have experience with my junior ones.

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True talk!

I rather remain single forever, than getting married and having no kids.

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^^I'm the only son of my family too but i don't think that really matters, its an african mentality cos its crazy to eat what you can't swallow.

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@Tosinville, hmm, so your not wanting to get married is because you think women change after child birth, why do you suppose women change after having children? (that is assuming they do change)

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@Tine, marriage can't be a problem if its only about my wife & i without kids cos if she try to mess up then she'll leave or seperate immediately but ladies changes in marriage when they start having your kids and where do you wanna chase her to after some of her weird steps cos you'll end up taking care of those kids al by yourself and thats some kind of miserable life, so if u don't want that then u have to accept the devil as your wife like that cos its your own destiny lol

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I think marriage is over-rated and not a pleasant place for many but there are a few happy couples, those are the ones that inspire me but the rest make me want to just be on my own and deal with me instead of another person's crap.  Marriage is a huge sacrifice for some/many and definitely not for the faint hearted. . . . .  .it needs absolute commitment and won't work if half of the union is not fully in it. . . . . .

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@tosinville , is marriage about children?, I think marriage can be what ever you want it to be, you could decide to get married and not have kids

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SexyDuby

Yeah! i jus don't like too much of stress in married thinking about wife & kids feeding, clothing, schooling, bills, purchasing diapers, baby crying at night, baby mama drama 4 coming back home late from work, buying food stuffs, renewin little little stuffs for the house etc alot u know well it also depend if you can make me just a male baby boy for my first child then no more kids, i'll pay u 4 that & you'll be with me.

Note: no second trial if u produce me a female as d first cos u'll take dat along with you cos too much of kids na another wahala after their mama wahala.

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I don't want to get married because:

1. I'm gamophobic

2. I'm gynephobic

3. I've seen so many tears, I've consoled a lot of married people.

4. I've experienced the recklessness and wickedness of women.

5. Love doesn't exist, and even if it does, it doesn't last forever.

6. The only thing that women contribute in relationship is babies.

7. Marriage is prison.

8. Women change after marriage

9. My kind of girl exists only in my dreams.

10. Marriage is not compulsory.

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Growing up I noticed that married people around me simply didn't look happy and promised myself i wasn't gonna be getting married. As i grew up i realised happines was not a function of being married or not, but didn't see any reason to go back on my decision of not getting married.

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I don't want to get married cos i don't like the stress in it.

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Before I came up with the later, you should have understand why I said that!

And I swear to God who made me, the gal that would be lucky to have ma children will NEVER regret being with me!

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^^^^Ranoscky

what about putting that one wonderful person

right in the middle of the two options you've provided

production of an angel with your own kids

give it a try

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Why do I want to get married = B'cos of my mom. To make her happy cos, she is the source of ma happiness!

Why do I not want to get married = Sick and tired of women. Adoption will do it for me and live a peaceful life!

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People can be single for a moment, but still decide to get married. I think this post is about people that do not ever intend to get married.

I do not want to get married, because I love to sleep alone. Funny enough, while I was growing up, I hated sleeping alone. The irony of life!

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@Tine, its not an assumption o!, ladies most especially nigerian ones change in marriage after child birth if you rush into it thats many 9ja guys date their girls for some years to study her a little before proposing marriage to her.

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This isn't different from d thread "Why are u still single"

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The summary of it all is - R.E.S.P.O.N.S.I.B.I.L.I.T.Y

It stares you in the face. U either shy away by covering ur face or stare back at it!!

Marriage is a Noble thing - ", shall a Man shall leave his parents and CLING to his wife, and they shall become one"

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I wonder what is making you to take this type of nonsense decision. God said we should go into the world and multiply, replenish and subdue the earth, why do u want to change it and put yr own law?

Any thing that is making u to take this type of decision doesn't worth it, i tell u.

No matter what has happened to you before baby, is not the end of the world, dust yourself up and face what the future holds for u, get married cos is God's law and purpose for our lives!

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Why get married when I'll get divorced later? Besides, why do I need a ring to prove my love? Marraige is totally unnecessary and too expensive. A complete waste of my time.

I don't want to get married AT ALL.

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God said in the holy bible that a man would leave his father and mother and get united with his wife.

so i see no reason why i shouldn't get married

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for procreation and companionship even some culture demand it and its biblical as well.

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I think i agree with you, life is all my decision making.you can decide you don't want to marry but i guess you have add a bad experience of either witnessing one or your relationship with your man was not pleasant.

I want to say that the purpose God on this earth is for us to worship him and if you really want to obey the commandment of God u need to get marry for you to give birth to young ones who will continue to leave as God as design.

I want to say i am not all that strong in my faith but i believe deciding not to marry does not worth it.

I am a man who can treat a woman the way she want to be treated that is one all the ladies i have ever dated always pray i marry them but the fact is that i am not ready for such thing now.

Men generally are afraid of commitment and this is not helping matter because age is not on the female folk.

I will like to advice that if really it is as aresult of bad experience about marriage please try me, you will love to even maryy me!

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So, I take it that, everyone here wants to get married. No sworn single guy/single?

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