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Why Dump Your Friends For A Lover?

Why do babes dump their girl friends when they find love? What exactly goes through their heads? Amongst my circle of friends i would say am the realist amongst them. Am very blunt and i just say things the way they are. Am pretty straight forward. When they have problems they always seem to be knbocking at my door and when its sorted am the last to know. I feel used you know. Let me give you guys a typical example. My friend was having a whole lot of emotional problems etc she even slept with my boyfriend (obviously an EX now) i forgave her because we are humans. We sorted her problem bit by bit and she got better. The next phase is academic problems. With Prayers and fasting and serious words of encouragements she scales through that. She came back for her graduation and I was not invited. Good, maybe she forgot. Now she meets a guy, they are dating and she is planning a wedding, i get to hear from a third party. People!!!! where did i go wrong?

Another case is a dear friend who gets married and all of a sudden her single friends are not good enough. Inshort a lot of babes do this and i always wonder why? people say i should wait and see, that when i get married i would probably do the same. I doubt it though because i take my friendships seriously. A True friend is worth 100 romantic relationships. I think married or single we all need our friends. They have roles they play too in our lives. For one, if you are a very romantic wife and your husband is hardly around who keeps you comapany and keeps your mind SANE/from GUYS

People, what are your opinions? am i the bad guy here or what?

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it  depends, bt onetin is d type of friends u r, wat do u discuss as friends, wat u do as friends. whn  friendship is built on lust, tru lov wll prvail it, bt whn  friends wth positive objective i;e 2 say, they hv plans 4 d future; hw 2 make gud homes, gud husband etc. no lov can stop it. when u engaged indiscussing hw 2 play d fast ones over guys wth ur friends, whn she found smbody dat she lovs, she wll avoid u. whn u said u found solutions 2 ur friends problem, d question is, wat kind of problem d found d solution?.

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bebe,

why do you want your married friends to still have your own friendship above their spouse's. eh?

Spouses are supposed to be each other's best friends.

Pray to God to give you a husband who will also be your best friend.

chikena!!!!

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@bebe2007,

Don't sweat the small stuff! Maybe you don't need such friends.

It's a different game when people marry, their priorities will change. Running a home is not some piece of cake and the woman is multitasking to keep the home happy esp in naija. Sometimes you grow apart with friends in the midst of facing life challenges.

Some married women keep their friends out of line if their man is randy.

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simple. these girl u mentioned where never your friends!!!!!!!

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You are quite right. I dont know exactly why they do this but i think i am also in your shoes. I dont know if my friend has found her love but this friend has been behaving somehow to some of us(friends), I dont know the actual problem but i think you are right in some aspects.

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What i know is that Any how Any how, You will need to introduce you friend to your boy friend or gf. cheer

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do i smell jealously or plain unforgiveness. there r tyms dat pple drift apart frm old frnds not jus cos they think they r not gud enuff circumstances cause them to. if u trully her her frnd u will undastd dat and if she does not tell u abt she gettin married well dont u think its her loss. we ladies shld learn that there r some situations dat we carry out actions n we unintentionally hurt others that does make us less it jus makes us human.

pls if ur frnds 4get u afta gettin married or wen they ve boyfrnds then its their loss not urs

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do i smell jealously or plain unforgiveness. there r tyms dat pple drift apart frm old frnds not jus cos they think they r not gud enuff circumstances cause them to. if u trully her her frnd u will undastd dat and if she does not tell u abt she gettin married well dont u think its her loss. we ladies shld learn that there r some situations dat we carry out actions n we unintentionally hurt others that does make us less it jus makes us human.

pls if ur frnds 4get u afta gettin married or wen they ve boyfrnds then its their loss not urs

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That why guys will always say BABES FOR A WHILE NIGGAS FOR LIFE

This is because unlike girl they value their friends more. How i wish girls will learn that too.

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dont u that love is blind.

it is because love is found.

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So very true, some of my friends tend to leave their lives behind when they fall in love / get infatuated or start deluding themselves. It's like all of a sudden, they can't like connect to the moment before meeting the guy.  Like you, with my friends am a straight shooter, a realist.  Hence when they start that ish, i tell them to get their heads straight coz, when i loose interest, i loose interest, it aint gonna come back.   I can understand their scenario really i do, they are wrapped up in their love, but you can't cut someone from your life just because another entered without the cut person doing anything malicious to you.  

I don't need to bloody know everything in their lives, far from it, but like duh don't act you don't know me coz you in love coz one day, you might actually not know me.  Thank goodness, i balance well.

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but just to say i will never choose a guy over my friend i belive friends r forever

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i didnt read allot dat but sum friend do deserve to be dump freind always leave prints in ur heart its either gonna b a gud one or bad ones

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