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Why Is It Bad When A Woman Sleeps With Many Men But Cool When A Man Does Same?

Why Is It Bad When A Girl Sleeps With Many Guys And Cool When A Guy Does Same?

It troubles me when we say gender equality and yet do not practice what we preach. Guys should also be called names such as LovePeddler and sluts and bicthes and whatever Kitty-Cat names there are for doing the samething the girls do. Don't you think?

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hahaha, so I'm actually very pro womens rights but I once heard a joke that made this situation a bit funny to me (please don't take this a s sexist, it's a joke)

"I just had an argument with a girl I know. She was saying how it's unfair that if a guy fucks a different girl every week, he's a legend, but if a girl fucks just two guys in a year, she's a slut. So in response I told her that if a key opens lots of locks, then it's a master key. But if a lock is opened by lots of keys, then it's a shitty lock. That shut her up."

Again that is not me, it is someone else and it was a joke

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True, what goes around definitely comes around!

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Because it is the man that arived the earth first, and na im first get dat thing, so seniority is applied

Secondly, man nor fit carry bele, but if u be girl just try receive am mke u see if you nor go carry bele too,

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because your a man, so it dont count/matter?

f*ck dat sh*t

d 1st highlighted - dats bull f*cking poo! how do dey lure men from d men's house

or work place 2 d prostitutes place? dem use juju or voodoo? hisses

d other highlighted - sh*t, i'll call a man those names if he's sleeping around

f*ck dat!

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I guss right from time in memorial,women have suffered such humilation. its all about inquality.

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Come oh,

Do u mean the guys that sleep with many gals molest them?

if not y e dey bother u? the gals sef wey open their leg no send y must u?

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I think that no body will call any body names when they are both DEAD

AIDS is real People,

I really dont see what is cool about making urself a public toilet

Man or Woman !!!

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because a woman and a man are two different people!!!

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Are you saying that women need to use their sexuality to achieve influence or wealth, and since she already has to use sex for that, she shouldn't make it worse by being promiscuous? I'm not going to respond to that until I'm clear on what you're saying, but I will respond to some of the other things you said.

In regards to sex, if the man knows what he's doing, the woman gets hers too. How do you think women are able to enjoy sex if you really believe that, and trust and believe, many women enjoy sex too. Sex is not about the man so don't get it twisted. And no, this isn't a man's world because if you have that type of mentality, then you may as well say it's a WHITE MAN'S WORLD because they are the ones with all the advantages. If you fall prey to that type of thinking, then you may as well not aim for anything good in your life and settle for mediocrity. Essentially, promiscuity is bad on the parts of both men and women and the real problem is that there are women who have been conditioned to believe it's ok when men do it so they accept it. When more women reject promiscuous men, those men will have to think twice before bragging of their so-called sexual accomplishments.

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Wow you guys have some funny though good analysis here.

Diva I couldn't agree with you more anyhow.

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@Kokcity,

I hope you didn't think I was implying anything from my question. I was just curious to see if you had a different viewpoint from what I usually hear, such as what gocity just posted.

@Gocity,

I see your viewpoint, but it depends on how you look at it. If the girl is giving men sex for love, then she is a victim, but if she is doing it purely because she enjoys sex and doesn't care to be in a relationship with these men, then she's not causing any harm to herself. And from what you said, I can see your don't approve of promiscuity from women? What about when men are promiscous?

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@Naijadiva

I will not base anything on her sexual history.I think a woman that has played the field, is good enough to take to the alter.Examples are Madonna,J-Lo,Elizabeth Taylor, Even that Indecency Star, I forgot her name, is engaged. You never know what strikes it for people, i will make a judgment based on my feelings for the individual.I will marry someone that i am compatible with period!

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Question for you Kokcity. It's good to know that you don't call women names who sleep around, but while you sleep with them, would you get involved in a serious relationship with them or would you marry them? I'm not judging you, just curious.

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@ Topic

I am not about all you all, but i kind of like my women test driven a bit. I think a woman that sleeps around and is getting hers, is just doing what she does. I am not going to call her any names, just wear my Trojan and smack "IT".Woman who sleeps around, is Like a "broken in" baseball glove. Like a well oiled Engine.U feel me?

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Thanx 4 that support and understanding. The explanation and analogy is quite good.

Thanx again you truly are a diva!

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Babagana, I'm glad you raised the question, and I don't think your motives were to gain favor from women. I think that people, esp men, would find it unusual because it negatively affects women, not men, so most of them are not directly impacted and therefore would usually show little concern.

I don't think it's ok when either a man or a woman are promiscuous, I think the problem comes from society. A woman is judged more harshly, and even though it's really men who are dictating this, women are the ones who accept it. If more women rejected men who were promiscuous, those men wouldn't have the upper hand that they do now. A man is more likely to admit to having many previous partners because many women will accept it even if they don't like it. We don't have to accept something because we are told to, and promiscuity is counted in that.

I can't remember who, but someone said something about equality not being a right, that it has to be earned. That's not true. People who hold power didn't earn that power, it was given to them. A prime example is discrimination. Do blacks not deserve the same rights as whites? Whites don't want to give up the power so they oppress blacks, but that doesn't mean it's right.

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maybe it's because ....

it's a man's world and women have had to put up with it cos they have no choice...

cos of the way women and men choose their spouses. Women are less bothered with a man's sexual history than men are. Other qualities may be more important to them..

some women may acutally prefer men like that, kind of like comparing James Bond to the 40 yr old virgin. And men that waka about are more likely to have that image of confidence and strength that women like.

maybe it's cos of the way women and men see sex. Men are usually less emotional about it.

ps. I'm not in any way trying to make excuses for men's hypocrisy.. i'm just saying what i have observed or think i have..

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both sides are bad but a woman is blame maybe because a woman should be more responsible

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Its a shame I must say. Its not cool 4 both sides. Its more terrible when it comes to the female. U need to respect your body and treat it right....U can be a love-vendor or anything u want to be but HIV is real n condoms break on accident.... Peace out

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For the love of women can you guys simply take it from me that I have not received any favor from any lady here nor is this topic intended for that purpose. In any case I can simply ask anybody out that my mind desires without having to come to NL and propose a topic like this.

This is most ridiculous any way, why do I even have to bother defending myself? Lets not deviate from the point of discussion here. The story isn't about babagana but the attitude of both women and men.

Thank you very much!

@yem, pls look at this from a broader perspective not from only the nigerian forum of name calling but globally. BLO's and so on may not be known nicknames around the world.

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@babagana....if you say there is no favor you can get from women, i will say that is another level of discrimination which you appeared to be fighting against. You're stylishly caught in your web.

You should not also forget that men that sleeps around are equally being called names like BLO (Balogun Leyin Obinrin), NFA (No Future Ambition), Faworaja, Ako Aja (Male Dog ie. Bingo), Oku Obo (womanly Die Hard), etc.

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Of course a guy who sleeps around can be called a LovePeddler. Look up the meaning.

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it looks like babagana is trying to gain favour from women here.

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Sleeping around does not get you any award and does not make anybody look better in the society. It is as degrading as it sounds; any person indulging in it is simply dragging their lives slowly to the graves. It is like a sickness that can affect both men and women. I guess the guilt is kind of more on the woman than on the man due to nature.

When I think of the word PROSTITUTION, my mind picture sees a woman selling her body directly or indirectly to survive. It is a very degrading trade invented by women to take advantage of men they lure with their scent of attraction.

If there is any upgrade to be made, it has to be made by women themselves, if they don’t give up their stuff too quick, I don’t think men will sleep around.

As for equality, it is something you have to earn, it is not a gift and you just can’t negotiate it. There are lots of women doing big things, we just need to see more of that and things will change.

LovePeddler – BITCHES – SLUT – ASHAWO etc remains what they are for now.

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a woman can sleep around with as many ppl as she likes as long as she's discreet. even without a man's world, a woman's chocho is regarded as sacred among other women. so, I guess the table is tilted against them.

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Ola kala @dark_Night.

I agree its not too common to find men going against a course of injustice usually propagated by men themselves.

I do it lets just say for that reason above "men don't do it".

besides is it not a course worthy of men's support?

Further more the scriptures have always kept women in special places while men do otherwise

remember mother Mary?

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But guy sha...this na wierd topic to be coming from guy man sha O.

Anyways....

Dude, its a man's world. NA SO E GO ALWAYS BE. No one can change that.

That dont mean, we aint gotta respect women.....na them truly dey make man get ambition self...think am.

But suggesting calling a man names for bedding multiple women just dont sound right.

Women hold tremendous power, its simply balance.

Trying to turn us into name calling stuttering wimpering hunks of flesh aint gonna help make no-one feel better.

And remember, an important fact - the physics of things. (draw your own meanings here), but consider the issue of rejuvenation, the push-thrust dynamics and you come to see that women have different "operating systems", which are subject to different laws. (vagueness allow in order for discretion)

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Well CYT, look at it this way not all of African Culture is right and sleeping around i do not think is part of African culture with all due respect.

Marrying a number of wives may be permitted by african culture but do we not have a responsibility to upgrade and respect the status of women? The women that bore us? I think they deserve more than that, more so I was refering to name the calling. And my point is what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

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Well, i wouldn't know why the author of this thread must ask this question even when he knows much well that African culture permits the man to marry more than one woman while it is an abomination for a woman to have two husbands at a time.

The same applies to sleeping with multiple partners.

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It's the natural order of things.

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It's the natural order of things.

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Well I believe in equality, culture or not. People should as much as possible see things in a better perspective.

Women may have in the past been ridiculed and humiliated for sometimes the wrong doing of men, but thats in the

uncivilised past. But if this goes on now and this civilsation says its okay and that its a mans world therefore nothing is wrong with it, then  I think there is a problem with even this generation.

Because I do not see any reason that justfies a mans promiscuity and unjutifies a womans. This may as well be in consonance with the planned obsolence of the leaders of yester-years. So whats our pride in this civilisation?

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I Guess that's just how life is.

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Bagoma, I think there's a difference between "getting caught once" and "keep getting caught". c0dec said it's silly for the prey to keep getting caught.

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Why Is It Bad When A Girl Sleeps With Many Guys And Cool When A Guy Does Same?

Let me try an answer that question. i'm going to use an analogy here.

in the game of mating, we men are the predators (or hunters), while the women are the prey.

a hunter proves his worth by how many preys he can catch. the more he catches, the more likely he'll be hailed as a top marksman. now on the other hand, isn't it silly for the prey to keep getting caught by the hunter? i guess that answers your question.

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firstly, its not nice for one to sleep around whether male or female. then coming to ur question why men are not called names when they are guilty of the same offence.,snazzydawn said something and shes right.its a mans world right from creation. we are just trying to change it to suit everyone cos gone were days when women call their husbands MY LORD.

its not easy to give up right or previlledge,it takes quite a while and its gradual. even from the bible we read,a woman is stoned to death if found guilty of adultery and the man spared.from the culture we all belong to,a man owns a child and not a woman.we were told that a girl has no name or home until she gets married.though these are changing now.despite the fact that the world is getting more civilzed but some ofd the cultures inculcuted in us can not be easily eroded.

men were allowed to marry more tha one wife even morrow,u see a man is kw for that naturally and its really hard to change the trend of things so swiftly.

as gay marriages are now legal in some countries,one day women will be treated totally equally bt it will have to be gradual ok.

RESPECT TO ALL AFRICAN QUEENS!!

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They will be able to teach theirself new style u know now 50 by 50.

example: u have ur own company while i have my 2

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Yeah ocho you're very right people should be careful but that is even why guys who don't zip up should be called worse names but instead the women suffer more from humiliating and degrading name calling. This is most unfair to ladies thats what I am trying to say.

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i don't think anyone should be called names, those name are just hurtful and don't solve anything. I think both guys and girls should be wise in this era in HIV/AIDS.

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@babagana

sorry am retrieving this back.

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babagana i guess you mean to say that when girls sleep around they get labeled as a "LovePeddler", "slut" e.t.c all the name in the book. and when a guy sleeps around he then becomes "the man", "the player", "the love-vendor".

anywho whoever thats doing the sleeping around, please remember that hiv/aids is alive.

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What difference would the name calling make?

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Snazzy I do not think its amans world its all ours men, women, old, young, boys, girls, even animals deserve some sort of respect, but the arrogance of men has been there for too long and there is need for us men to be more respectful of women. After all they bore men.

FOD I am lost with your position.

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well,no matter how much we fight,it's a man's world!!!

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