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Why Is It So Hard To Find Someone?

I have a lot of female friends but having that one very special person dear to my heart has been very hard particularly after i broke up last year.

Its very hard i must say, a lot of girls i've met would just not want committment but they want the benefits applicable in a committed level relationship.

Please advice or culd it just be a peculiar problem i am facing. I'll appreciate your inputs.

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Nahhh for the most part, i think you get what you put out

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@Sagitarius,''finding d right person may be hard some times because most of d people we want are always taken. ''

I totally agree with you.It can be painful atimes.

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finding d right person may be hard some times because most of d people we want are always taken.

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Aj,

while congratulating you for a good catch, I urge you to pray and fast for those friends of yours that God may enter their stony hearts. I also want to let you know great guys abound. But they keep finding the wrong ladies. Ladies are not helping matter by looking for ready-made husbands.

Dating now aday is like what you called "recharge". People just break hearts at wish while looking for Mr and Mrs Perfects specially made and designed in heaven.

When we work at our relationship from the scratch, it helps strengthen the bond provided we are since.

The sight of DSS people made me open my heart for penetration. We must learn to love with empathy and utmost respect, trust and commitment before we can locate the missing link. Of course, magnets attract both sand and iron, an individual with wisdom who had discovered him/herself should be able to seperate iron from sands. Unfortunately, that is the missing link. To escape labour of refining crude Iron, men and women with desperate missions jumped at the fine sands and build their marriage on falsehood. It doesn't take long for the dream to crumble before their eyes.

Instead of learning from that failure, they says "good people are hard to find!"

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for ones i agree with IYA.

o boy, enter church. babes boku for there.

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Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

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Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

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Lol

you funny, yet right. I know about that. I know that most churches have responded to that by organising "singles summit" and other spiritual retreats for the DSS. That is Desperately Single and Searching. I don't blame them. At times the DSS were victims of circumstances beyond their control.

Seriously, there is crisis. It seem family materials are now endangered species. You are damn lucky you escape the perilous time.

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No Olanajim, never had to try that route thank goodness. In ma own case, I never had any problems meeting the right people.  Infact, I was in surplus demand and could not meet the supply since I had to settle for just one.  But I heard that when people get very desperate and can't seem to find love the "normal" way, the resort to "spiritual" means.

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Have you tried that before, Almondjoy?

Well, the poster have an issue with women. He is right if what he meant to say is getting a decent girl. It is not a news that decent ladies are not evenly distributed. It is also possible he had been moving with undesirable elements.

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Join a church fellowship. Those ones there usually will keep the "agape" going till the after life.

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I honestly don't believe in the "pretend - you - are - poor thing" when you are rich so that you don't attract the wrong girls, permit me to say its bullsh*t!!

You attract wrong people when you flaunt your wealth, you can be a rich and simple man, not all wealthy people wear crazy and expensive attires and certainly not all drive platinum and chrome plated cars, wise men call these "glittering toys" and unfortunatley they ahve a way of attracting easy girls,

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I don't think its fair to ask a female friend out, especially when she is involved in a relationship, that does not mean you cannot have a bottle of drinks together, because for all you know, she could even introduce you to a nice girl like herself

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Maybe your poor. women love money a lot. but if your rich hide your riches and see among them all who comes to you because of your wealth.

Pretned to be sick and see who come to take care of you all day. then she is your woman

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welcome to my world man.

just take your time, you dont need to rush nothing. its all good. it aint that bad to be single you know. not bad at all.

easy does the trick. take it slow and shine your eyes and one day you gon find the right person or you gon find the person and make her the right person.

do not make the mistake of asking out your close female friends cuzz it aint gonn@ work. certain things are better left the way they are.

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Well the truth is, u cant get the right person, and if u get them they might not be down for u; but sometimes if u are lucky u get the right persons.

All u need do is to make the right person out of the person that is not right, and u'll see how splendid and beautiful it would be. I'm speaking out of experience

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I don't think its that hard, just that we are blindfolded by so many things that we don't notice other things that matters to us a lot.

as they say " the patient dog eats the fattest bone"

be patient and don't rush into sth u're gonna regret, they right person will sure come along ur way at the appointed time, Don't be easily discouraged!!

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I don’t think it is a good idea to ask out your female friend especially if they are already in a relationship. I this you definitely need to change your social circle ie start meeting new people outside your everyday life, maybe that would help.

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Something new, thats tryin out a new relationship, its not like i would throw caution to the wind but I think I know when to make a move.

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thanx damsal, but i have moved on.All i've said theres nothing pointing to me being scared of trying something new.

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why would you want to ask out your female freinds who have lovers? If you do care for one of them let them know how you feel in a very subtle manner don't come on them to hard, and hear how she feels.

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You are probably still really hurt from your last relationship and are just finding it hard to move on. It isn't actually hard finding someone, but it's definfitely hard loving someone cause it's an emotion we can't control. Take your time you'll meet someone soon.  

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Girls lie a lot so, the girls you've met are probably just trying to play hard to get i'm sure if you went a little deeper you'll realise one of them feels the same way you do.

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Thats serious but thans for the word, but hw easy is it to ask out ur female friends who have lovers.

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it's not really hard

say finding the right person that's hard

but u'll find someone that' u really like or love

the girls u have met,maybe some of dem want it serious ,and u dont know?

just try dem,and see da ways

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