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Why Must You Date?

I ve been thinking of it all this while that  is dating necessary for those who are not ready for marriage especially teenagers? I think dating should not be done with or among those who are not matured enough.

Why Dating?

If you are sure that you are not going to marry that girl or boy the why must you date her. there will surely be abroke relationship which is not good enough for the heart.

So date wisely.

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i think friendship should take place before dating even if it will or not lead to marriage.we should never think of dating a stranger, someone we are not familier with but rather make friends with him/her to know whether u both fit eachother for dating.

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Dating before marriage is normal. the ultimate concern should be: should people date just because they find the other cute and want to try them out; i.e dating for fun. Does it really increase your experience with the opposite sex or is that one of the things people say to gratify what they do?

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well when i am on phone with my girlfriend she tends to talk to her lady friends a little more than me but when we go out or something she is all over me i guess i was jus wondering what topics i could talk bout on the phone with her

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What do yu mean? Don't understand!

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yea my gf and i love each other but when we talk on the phone it seems like she is talkin to her gf more than me is that normal or not

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i was just wondering if there is anyone who could help give me advice

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Because everyone is dating.Do you want me to be left behind?

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@ topic

dating is not necessary, our great grand fathers never dated but they got married

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topic don finish for NL?  **shakes head and quietly leaves the thread**

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i think chuk bass is silly, just as his comment is silly, if u av heard bad experience wit ladies dat doesnt mean all ladieds are d same. u cant get a descent lady wit dat kind of mindset and attitude.

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Abeg Seun do somtin to stop this verbal and vulgar war.

I hate generalisation. Some ladies are promiscuos, so are some guys.

Some ladies take dating as a time to have sex. Guys too. Its all a matter of perception.

No matter how many pple u slept with in the past, u can have a happy marriage if u truly love your partner and if you leave your past life.

Fruitfulness or happiness in a marriage does not depend on how long u date.

I'm for dating tho, But Sex during dating or courtship is against the tenets of our major religions.

So, date but dont do. Shikena!

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wether long date or short date it all depends on the mates. if the two understand themselves and think the same, no one will be happy to lose each other, and they will still come back to each other after sequels of misunderstanding. that is the ideal of dating, it has to do with understanding b/w the two, which will lead to marriage if they keep steadfast.

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lets be real.as for me o.i date to have fun and see what all these booties are made of.all the d things wey some pple dey talk na stories

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@ POSTER :why will you not date before married ? do you just want to pick someone on the street and marry ? my brother marriage is a long lasting thing o

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no mind them - na so ppl dey carry make other ppl put curses on their familes and their lives

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I read somewhere that dating is a South American culture that occurs before marraige,but now dating is like a casual thing all over the world.

Well i dont see anything wrong in dating as far as you dont have sex on your first date.

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Pls don't mistake datinf for friendship. You don't date to know who you're going to marry. Aint you supposed to marry your friend?

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hmmmmm,

I cant help peeping!!

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I dont think there is anything bad in dating once you do it right.

As long as u avoid pre-marital sex and being too much extravagant. Those things do not add much values to the relationship, the best thing is to be yourself and stop pretending to be what u aint.

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Many dates lead to courtship and I believe first impression lasts longer, so dont take dating for granted

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Dating is important cuz it helps you to know what you really want in a man or woman and it isn't all about poking.

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If you don't date then who will you poke. You wan remain virgin be that o my brother. haha

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so you should marry anyone you meet? isnt dating about getting to know the person esp whether or not you two are compatible enough to marry?

dumb question, dude.

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if u get ma kind roomate u go cry. dis guy dey gist me how im tell one guy wen chike im sista say im go kill am!!!

funny enough dis same guy boasts 2 me of all his conquests in toastin' chicks >>>> funny ain't it

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thot i should introduce [url href='http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Kissed_Dating_Goodbye']I Kissed Dating Goodbye[/url] - by Joshua Harris 2 guys (who neva read it) in da house.

>>>>>>>>>don't let the title decieve u

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don't think its necessary u date b4 u d kind of spouse u want

!!!!!!!!!will u date a guy b4 u can assess his xter??!!!!!!!!!!!

i believe more often than not people'r catchin' some fun when dating >>>>and dat ain't wrong

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lets not mistake dating for courtship. dating can lead to nowhere or to marriage, it doesnt matter. it can be long or a one night stand but courtship is one strit road to marriage!

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Dating is over rated. You only date a chick to f***k her silly and dump her after wards. You really dont get anything from chicks except nagging, jealousy, greed, extending her personal and family problems on your head and cheating!

Why bother. Just f***k er silly till your tired and spew her out like an irritating vomit that she is and look for another one to f**k and have a good time!

Shikena!

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@JJYou - well enough to marry them and support them for life - even when they make decisions we may not agree with - we stand by them - because we have made that commitment - you will NEVER know any body fully - We will never know ourselves FULLY - as we are constantly changing daily - so in a way it is always going to be a gamble and a risk - but atleast by dating it becomes a CALCULATED RISK

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Dats all. one thing more, datng must not have to do wit SEX.

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you date because

- you can

- you think you don't know the other person well enough

- you want a taste of who you may be about to comit your whole life to.

- you are not sure you can be in a marriage with someone you dont know and grow to love them - so you want to fall in love first

- you are not sure whether you feel strongly enough about the other person to comit to thenm fully

- you want to find out if there are any reasons / habits you may not be able to live with.

Marriage is a life time commitment and it is sacred - i think the earlier our generation start seeing it as this the better for society and all those children who suffer because of broken homes. If it means you date for while to 'be sure' then heck i say DATE - rather than take a vow before God and then break it later just because you find out after 5yrs - he is not the man yout hought he was and you can't change him!! date honestly and openly and it should be to both your benefits

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dating is completely healthy.if ur scared of taking risks then certainly u haven't started.i think people should date for as long as they find each other compatible and are able to tolerate eachother,cut i think people shouldn't court for more than than two years. i guess they are two different things.

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Na the goodies guys dey after ma broda!

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you can date for six weeks, or for 10 years. i prefer short terms. Georges .w. bush and laura only dated for 3 months.( not the best name or example to use but it worked for them).

the length of dating can be determined by interrests in marriage and studies/carreers.but once you know that you are compatible, go ahead and have an engagement and plan your wedding . be it in months or weeks,

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my dad was 17 and my mum 14. they got married 2 years later and have been married for almost 40 years. my cousin was 24 and his girlfriend was 23; they dated for 8 years only to divorce after after 1 year.

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Dating is not only necessary, but important.

It depends on your perspective towards dating or dating someone.

Dating helps in maturity, helps you gradually grow from a teenager to a matured adult.

We are aware that sometimes we dont keep our folks as friends, so you may need someone who is ready to hear you out in personal issues, dear to you, sincere, encouraging, like a work partner,,

Dating helps you discover yourself as a man or woman; how you can be rational, wise and even foolish. Dating is a stage in life we have to pass through because we need to discover ourselves and what type of person that most fits you.

Like they say, education is important, but education is advancing everyday because its yet to touch every aspect of life. So where can you learn the untaught? we still get education from family, society, friends, peers and mostly dating.

In sociology of life, people who are dating or who have experienced dating from one position to another are likely not to have a divorce in future,

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I no know oh!!!

I think it is. The question is "How long should you date"?

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I think the question should have been; 'when should one start dating?'

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