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Why Should A Man Not Hit A Woman?

Hey people!

Could any of you educate me on why people think a man should never hit a woman? The issue has been on my mind lately, not because I'm itching to beat anyone( just so the silly ones know. ) but because I've noticed so many people expressing the opinion that it is wrong and yet I can't find a reason to justify this.

What do you people think? Can anyone give a sensible and convincing reason for his/her opinion as clearly as possible so we can get this sorted.

To me, men and women are equals in every respect and i see no reason scientifically or sinfully( I don't think i should say religiously) why they can't engage in whatever form of physical exercise( forgive whatever thought this creates ) in their everyday interactions. Although it is a fact that most men bully women, the probability of doing the same to other males who they may perceive as weak is the same, given the right conditions. So before we label anyone a 'woman beater' ( yeah, you Chris Brown haters,  bring it on ), lets educate ourselves on the perception of this species.

Before you post, You should also know that the fact that women are 'expected' to be soft, charming and whatever, is not a reason. Most women also engage in fights and would not hesitate to throw blows if the opponent is perceived as a weak male.

Expecting sensible replies,

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If you don't think women are physically weaker than men, either A. You are a weak man physically or B. You are obvilivious to how God naturally created humans. Being physically weaker does not make a woman inferior. It is just the way it is.

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I think what women should just know is that hitting or verbally abusing a man and not expecting him to hit you is as hard as a junior colleague dissing you at work and even though you have the power to deal with him/her,you chose not to.

And pls spare us the woman are physically weaker than man.Weaker men get beaten by stronger men everyday and nobody discriminates against that.

Don't attack men verbally or physically and you will have no probs,how hard can that be,it's that simple.

Just know men gets hurt when verbally abused as much as you guyz get hurt when beaten and i think it's just the "super ego" influenced by the society that makes men think "women should not beaten no matter the situation".

Personally for me though,your partner should be an exception.

P.S-I've never beaten a woman in my adult life.

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@Fulaman198: Believe it or not, your views are as much a product of societal elements as they are of certain inherent characteristics. Its the mix that makes you who you are. And these elements and characteristics are meant to evolve and consequently, can be shaped.

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I doubt I will ever meet a woman physically stronger than me. With that said, I will never hit a woman. If a woman infuriates me, I give her the silent treatment.

I don't think it has anything to do with western society. I just don't believe in hitting women. In my mind it wreaks of physical incompetence and weakness.

A woman should respect a man though if she does not then she is a useless woman.

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@Fulaman198: Most times, yes, but there are exceptions where the woman is physically stronger than the man. In that case, what would you do? Add the assumption that the woman is the trouble maker and that she was the first to consistently hit at the person.

I am only trying to ascertain the concrete societal sentiments (and their evolution) that led some societies, especially the west, to follow certain conventions such as this.

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A man is physically stronger than a woman, what do you prove by hitting a woman? I would never strike my father, but I would definitely strike a man hitting a woman. (Hopefully I won't get shot in the process if I'm in the western world).

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I just think its courtesy.

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@Fulaman198: Flawed logic. Would you ever hit your dear father? If not, never strike a man.

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Only weakling men hit women, that and men with low self-esteem. Would you ever hit your dear mother? If not, never strike a woman

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And as a woman you should not also EXTREMELY verbally assault your man cos 90% of women her verbally stronger during conflicts because when it gets to the point that you nag him and her becoming overly verbally assaulting he my get physical.

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So sad I got late to the party. You see the Op's a case of human gender psychology and it is quite so simple. Every Gender has what they are good at. You see for women it is emotional or verbal assault and for men it is physical assault. But the simple thing is that usually confrontations move gradually from verbal assaults to physical. So at the initial stages the woman has the upper hand. They can talk and dramatise and cause wahala. A woman should know when to stop her verbal aggression otherwise she may reach a point where the man can become aggressive the way he knows best; physical aggression. So when you and your partner are in a heated argument as a man you should know when to walk away when you can't take it anymore and as a woman you should know when to stop talking. But some men don't walk away early enuff and some women don't shut up. If a man begins to walk away some women follow him and nag him. Some women even go as far as strangling his clothes first or pushing him when he is ignoring them rapidly moving the conflict to physical and more often than not getting their aszes whooped in the process because you can't win a man in his own game; physical. A woman should neva lock her man's collar and never slap or hit him cos if she does, the man may do the same to her and you know who is strongest physically. At this point the woman is fighting a losing battle.

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Criously...let's just do some analysis...

There r some things dat r nt just acceptable in d society.. One of em is a guy hitting a woman...anoda example is a dude hitting an adult back wen d adult hit him 4 doing something wrong...

Yes some women r aggressive but as a man u expectd to calm ur nerves down...n knw he to sort tins out b4 deh get outa control...

Am sure u won't take it lightly wit ur younga sis bf if she reports to u dat he hit ha n he inflicted injury on her...n u wnt also hit ur younga sist wu is year younger dan u...

N its nt abt d society alone labeling it dts its nt good d fact is wat is nt good is nt good,aint nothing to justify it...am sure if u lov ur lady even if she is wrong it won't occur to u dat u av to inflict an injury on her 2correct ha...n beating is 4 kids n children nobory beats an adult u only express ur dissatifaction verbaly...nt wit vandammes kicks...

N let's look at it...its only abt 10pecent of women dat hit n even less women respond to wen a hit em compared to abt 68pecent of men dt hit women...its also nt good 4 a woman to hit a man..

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@ op if I'm correct,ur question is we should give a logical reason 4 d saying dat a man should not hit a woman? Emotions are a part of us humans n we can't distance ourselves 4rm it. so wen women are involved considering d fact dat most men are physically stronger dan women,it would b unfair 2 let a man fight a woman as dis is not even fighting but beating. If u find dat reason is based on emotions n perceptions n is not logical den d logical reason I can find here is maturity! Y would u fight with sum1 who's not ur size? If u knocked her out would u say we're equals? I'm not physically as strong as a man n I won't expect him 2 hit me because he has an advantage! If u still find all my reasons based on emotion den u have 2 accept dat emotions,sentiments,e.t.c are a part of us n our brains do not control us in everything,dat is y we are social beings n dat is y d word 'morals' exist. In general it is an animalistic n chidish behaviour 2 engage in a physical combat weda u know d person or not

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Hey Ebonyeyes, you say it is better to pick battles with people your own size, so are you saying that if David hadn't killed Goliath, Golianth had enough reason to murder David? And also, if a woman my size or larger than me throws the first punch, I have the right to fight back and teach all women a lesson? To me, that is exactly what you're saying. Now I know this is hard for you, but try to think before you talk, or even post for that matter. You are lucky to have the freedom to even speak your mind. Savor it. Besides, what are you even doing with a computer in the kitchen?

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Men, Never allow a woman to provoke you to wrath, malice, vengeance or physical violence; Walk away, no woman is worth it !!

Peace !!

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we are helpless beings!but somehow we make the world go round

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@post, do you know that some gals hit men and expect them to walk away? Such naivety! U get what u recieve. Most times if a couple get into a fight, no matter d reason, d man is called all sorts of names. They forget that some women are impossible to deal with. Sometimes i think d society favours women as well. Check out a celebrity divorce. D court orders d man 2 split his assets in two. All d money he works to gather over d years, he divides and gives to his ex. Now that is just sick!!

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@OP

You are the one who has provided the fuel for the misinterpretation of this issue. U started with Why Should A Man Not Hit A Woman, an emotional charged subject. How come u are searching for a 'scientific' observation in an emotional matter and forum?

IMHO if u had said Why Should A Man Not Fight maybe u'd have gotten better responses. Because IMHO there is no difference btw a man hitting anoda man and a man hitting a woman for in the end u are hitting anoda human being bringing pain n trauma to the person.

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i don't know the answer to that question, but if you insist on knowing why, beat a woman and you will know why

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What right do you have to lay your finger on another human being ? Well, may be it's because we're a systemically weakened country like Nigeria that's why you think you can escape with violence. enough said!

so someone bashes your windshield u bash them in right?

Feel sorry for you. Did they put their hands on you? the inbreds people are raising these days.

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Let me tell you, the same way a woman shouldn't remain in a relationship with a man who as much as raises his finger, a man too should flee from a woman with such tendencies.

What right do you have to lay your finger on another human being ? Well, may be it's because we're a systemically weakened country like Nigeria that's why you think you can escape with violence. But believe me i've heard of powerful parents who've had their son inlaws thrown in jail for putting hands on their daughters.

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Exactly. And women complain that they are not protected by society. If a woman instigated the whole situation she still gets away with it while the innocent man pays the price.

People seem to forget that women are HUMAN too, they are capable of doing as much damage as men. People gotta stop treating women like children.

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all u ppl are just yanning dust probably because u've nt met the kind of woman that will taunt u to the extent that u will have no choice i for one would beat any female who upgrades my anger.imagine we are fighting and she picked up a stone and smashes my windshield wud i just say cos she is a female i wudnt react.

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OH, but the women who keep going back to their abusive men aren't fools right? lol gotta love 'em double standards eh?

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you will never hear me supporting a woman hitting a man, but don't men claim themselves as 'head of household' then they should have self control over situations as they present themselves. If you have a gf who hits u, ure the fool who stays in the relationship.

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Just like every man is someone's father, brother or son.

At the end of the day if you dont want to get hit, keep your hands to yourself. SIMPLE!!

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Quote- A coward is someone who doesnt retaliate with violence when necessary.-

If I appeal to you personally then your stance should be the same. It is only when you apply to yourself that you find objection abi? EVERY woman is a someone's mother, sister, or daughter. you wouldn't want someone to do it to your own kin, but yet u rally for justified 'violence' and u call 'real' men who have self control to not to commit violent acts cowards. Now tell me, who is the real coward? The man who after an argument feels like wailing on his wife or the man who can walk away like an adult and come back like one with sense? now tell me who is really the coward?

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And how did you come to this conclusion?

I guess I touched a nerve for you to come with an ad hominem like that.

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@bloodbath- no woman should strike a man.

but I hope u don't see fire when ur dad beats ur mom or beats ur daughters, I hope that 'violence' is necessary as well.

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What I dont understand is how women always Dam about wanting to be treated as equals, yet they feel its alright for a woman to hit a man and he should just take it. A man's natural reaction is to retaliate, yet they completely ignore this.

And alot of these so-called men on Nairaland disgust me. ''Only a coward hits a woman'', NO!! A coward is someone who doesnt retaliate with violence when necessary.

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People the question is 'WHY' cant a man hit a woman? Emphasis is on WHY. Give us reasons.

I believe time has come to question most of the things we do in the name of tradition!

The issue is not if it is right or wrong, rather of reasoning,learning and then of better understanding. Dont just tell me not to smoke tell me why I should not smoke. For those of you that want a play ground to display your juvenile tantrum, you should be directed to NAIRALAND KIDDIES SECTION! So that Uncles and aunties can reason.

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you asked a dumb question

so in all the science books you have been reading you never came across the place where men are genetically stronger than women

u wanna justify hitting a woman cos you do it i guess

usually men that hit women are cowards and cant even fight with men their size

and they are usually insecure and in general puss*ies

gbam u hv said it all

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You will pay before getting the reasons, it seems you are writing a book.

Cheers

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You shouldn't mind if any woman uses a tranquilizer on you if you go hitting her. At least you agree its barbaric to hit them.

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I hit before now. But I now know it's wrong. Don't yab me; at least it's better to say the truth than lie. And I ask God to continue to give me the ennoblement to overcome at all times. I continue work towards not going back to my vomit. IT IS NOT PROPER FOR A MAN TO HIT A WOMAN. IT'S BARBARIC, IT'S INHUMAN, IT'S DEMEANING.

BUT, SHA-O, WOMEN CAN BE ANNOYING MOST TIMES.

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@Chiozor,

You painted a picture of two strangers who are married. If you courted your spouse even if for few months and she has some tendencies of madness you will surely know. She must let off her guard so that you will rightly take a decision even before the alter and 'i do' issue. No sane woman will want to fight her man or maybe the man gave the impression he is a chicken in a man's skin. Women has a way of having deep rooted respect and almost fear for someone they love so where does the issue of carrying weapon come in? I STILL SAY THAT THERE IS JUSTIFICATION TO HIT YOUR WOMAN!

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It's a lot more likely that a man hitting a woman will do more damage than the other way around. Men are bigger and have more upper body strength than women.

And it's not OK for women to hit either.

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No sane man will want to hit the other especially his woman!

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In conclusion,a word of advice to any woman that doesnt want a man to hit her. 1. Dont run your mouth at him. 2. Dont break or attack his electronics[in your rage]. 3. Dont steal his money!

Do this and I guarantee he will never lay his hand on you.

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It Is not acceptable for men to hit women, i think men that hit women are Indirectly hiting their mums.

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the poster talked about engaging a woman in a fight, could be any woma, either your wife,girlfriend e.t.c.

i really don't support hitting a woman but some women ask for it.

A neighbor of mine was sick and he and the girlfriend went out to buy snacks and drinks for the guy, the guy was broke so his girlfriend paid for the stuff and on getting back,an argument ensued between them

The guy asked the lady to take back the things she paid  for if that was the reason she was insulting him and he came to my house and i gave him food which he took home,

On getting home,the lady keep insulting him but he kept quiet, she got angry that he didn't respond to her and slapped him 3 times and later poured the food on his body and even stopped the guy from leaving the house when he wanted to, the guy started beating her and all hell was let loose, i was even still blaming the guy but when the guy showed me all the marks on his body inflicted by the girlfriend in the past,i come bow.

Some ladies deserve it but not all

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Hello please it is not good for a man to fight a man, worse for a man to fight beat a woman.

Men are stronger naturally with more body mass, muscle mass, more testosterone, more red blood cell , more everything,

Beating her is like proving all these things which you aleady know.

Women are weaker and so should be taken care of by men but when the person who is supposed to protect starts to fight you , well i dont know how else to say it but it is bad.

The behaviour is lbelow animalistic Wait a minute, animals cannt even do it.I have heard of male animals protecting their territory from fellow males and not female ones.

You wont see a rooster fighting a hen-----true talk

Learn from animals

I Have always wondered what i wld do if a man beats my wife, (trust me i will violate all the laws of morality to fght such a person)

Please dont fight a man let alone a woman

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Sleekman am rite there with u bro. I am seriously touched by ur comment. Thank u.

While u edoyad, the bible say if ur rite eye disturbs u 4rm servin God, pluck it out. Does it literally min u shuld do it and if u fall into dat category will u pluck ur own eyes out.

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@sleekman, i hate to burst your bubble but some of your points are kind of twisted

Hypocrites acting like they dont hit women ?

Well if you exclude the fight i had with Deborah in pry 3 and the one i had with Helen as a teenager (18/19), yes i can say i have never fought with a woman in my adult life.

In the first place, what constitutional right do you have to strike another human being ? Do you know there are countries you can spend time in jail for such ? That's not even mentioning the victim being female.

God made men stronger and wiser ?

I'm not even going to go into the "wiser" part of your remark as i believe there are girls who'll respond to that. The thing is your story doesn't quite hit everyones spot since not every one BELIEVES IN A GOD IN THE FIRST PLACE. Incase you don't know, the females of most species of animals tend to be more considerate and generally smaller in anatomy compared to their male counterparts. Mammals which we humans are ofcourse are no exception from that phenomenon and thus your idea that "God" made it that way wont hold water in many places.

militant women seeking retaliation

Why should you remain with a "militant" woman in the first place ? Is it not the same bible that states that we should cut off our hands if they drive us to sin ? Or is fighting not a sin too ? Then it would be logical to leave such a person as the bible has already instructed you to do such than engage in a barbaric sin.

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Hi everyone, I must say interesting. I particularly have to give props to whoever raised d question. Some people here are hypocrites. As if they've never beaten a woman or perhaps slapped or had a minor scuffle with a woman before. First of I have never beaten a woman but I have had scuffles. As for me, I do not believe men & women are equal. God didn't make them equally. There is an order. God-Man-Woman. Also men are generally stronger, wiser & less emotional in their judgments. Women it must be said have qualities unique to them that makes them excel. My theory is without women I think this world will be too practical and far less emotional. So men & women compliment eachother very well. If you are like me who doesn't believe in hitting a woman because I see them as weaklings then when faced with this problem I must tell you it takes strong principles and very high level of self discipline to restrain yourself from hitting a woman. Let me site various examples using myself as a case study. I don't believe in hitting women so when I quarrel with a woman it doesn't even cross my mind to hit her. However there is a problem when you come across in my words 'militant' women. Women that will hit you at the slightest opportunity. What do you do in such scenarios? Especially after she has hit you & you haven't replied she now switches back to the tongue bashing using statements ''Show me you are a man'' and someother times when she sees its not working she decides to attack you so viciously that you are torn between your principles & an all out repraisal. In such situations you have to use strenght to overpower her, hold her down until she cries and pleads for mercy. NB. Never hit her. Women tend to get the message. If she is mouthy & you always run from a verbal fight, one day stay on prepare tongue tool and dissect her, if she sees you're winning she'll want to result to a different strategy which most likely will be hitting you. If you aren't hitting back she'll go mad & want to go for a full scale war. Make sure you don't hit her, over power her & hold her down until she begs. This is only solution for a woman with a history of violence. Tame her back into the civilized world. I repeat never strike a woman. Once U start you almost never stop. There is a spirit behind hitting women which has to gotten rid off. Different senarios call for different measures.

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hello people,

nobody should hit the other,especially men shouldnt hit women.reason?they are stronger.another one?its cowardly and not right. if u honestly take a look at guilty men,they are the complexed ones and they almost usually shy away from confrontations with their members of their sex and need to hit a less strong person to make them feel 'male'.short story-man hits u,call ur brothers or just say goodbye becos he'll do it again except you give him reasons not to attempt it again.ha ha

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Most people will just not admit that sentiments aside, THERE'S NO REAL REASON why men should not hit women, has anyone noticed how frequently 'Mum' and &

'Dad' have popped up in this thread?

We all refer to societal standards and sentiments far too much, but objectively speaking, violence is usually not a good solution to any problem.

So poster, there you have it : if a female could hold her own against you in a fight, she'd probably do it.

So everyone had best not hit anyone.

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Answer yes or no. Is it okay for a guy 2 beat a girl. If yes then is it okay 4 ur DAD 2 beat up ur MUM. Think about dat.

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  just watch them react

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I think that's actually a little sexist.

Neither sex should be hitting the other, is what I think

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