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why do so many women stay in abusive relationships/marriage even to the point of death?

after being slaped, beating, called names, and other ugly things why can't they just pack their things and leave?

afterall, all it takes for the men is just 6months to remarry another lucky lady soon going to be abused, while the other one is dead

it reallys pains me to see women go through abusive in their relationships/marriage all in the name of being and staying married

so what says you?

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Love conquers all problems. Stay and build your home (dats if u survive), and if u don't, u died for love.

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All these girls wey get sharp tongue, why wont u get beat

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leaving the house for him, first saves me some beating, slapping and cursing for that day or even a week or months

it makes him see that i can still do something about it not always staying there and receving those beatings

it gives me a chance to really reevaulate my life now and what i want to do next

and lastly it makes him think i am more valuable than he is treating me so leaving him makes a very huge difference,

you know like that saying that goes " you never know the value of what you have till you lose it"

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Is not that most woman can't leave. they are afraid of where will i start from. Who will take care of my children and OJU OLOJU KOLE DABI OJU ENI

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Is not that most woman can't leave. they are afraid of where will i start from. Who will take care of my children and OJU OLOJU KOLE DABI OJU ENI

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I think I rather be part of the statistic than have a man abuse me for the rest of my life and making it a living hell.

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You can't imagine the 'silly' things love can make

one do.Some stay for other reasons tho and I think I'm with

OMO on this . . . I don't see how packing out will solve the problem.

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true cox they have become used to the abusive that it has become a normal or their daily routine, so it is harder for them to accept that it is not normal

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It's not only about love. . . .it's because they don't know what to do or they're helpless.

A loving mother would do anything to protect her child.

If her husband is abusive to her, yet her children loves their dad, she would endure the beating to avoid a broken family.

Another scenario:

She is jobless, helpless, and depends on him.

If she leaves him, where will she go? Who will provide for her?

Some abused women out there are really not silly or ignorant. They just simply can't live without their abuser.

An illegal immigrant will rather stay abused than report her host to the police.

Why stay?

Fear, helplessness, dependent, history of abuse etc

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i had a friend who was in abusive marriage, her husband was abusive both physically and emotionally, everyday she had scars, and the worst path is that when u ask her what happened to her she always denies it, one of her excuse is oh is nothing i just fell from the stairs or similar excuse. every attempt was made to get her out, but she remained and her husband finally beat to death, she died and after 6 months the husband remarried, citing he cant stay alone. now who is the loser? if only she listened to her family and friends and moved on as easily as her husband did when she died.

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I know how you feel. I used to get upset about that a lot too but I have talked to a lot of women going through this and by the time they finally accept that the abuse is a bad thing and they should not deal with it, they are already so broken down emotionally and mentally that they feel like they do not have what it takes to make it on thier own. Abuse in marriage is the worst thing someone can go through and I agree that the first time he pushes you or shoves you, you better have a plan B because it will only get worse. Plan your exit so that by the time he graduates to using a stick or a club on your head, you are financially ready to break free.

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so how does packing ur bag and baggage resolve the problem? dont me wrong, i dont subscribe to any form of violence but i also do not think leaving the relationship will make it any better.

staying and keeping a relationship/marriage no be small matter ooo. alot of work and perseverance goes into it. unless u wan join statisitcs

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