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Why The General Believe That Relationship Should Last Forever?

why is it that we meet a person and all we can think of is spending the rest of our lives with that person?

why cant we just enjoy the moment without plan for the future?

why do we want to own the person and have right over them?

whats ur idea?

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@ Eldee,

When is The Game's album coming out again?

Thunk it was due this month or something. . . . .

Anyways, just found out Oz is now on itunes.

I am downloading already.

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What the hell is Alarina?

If you as the guy expect the girl to be exclusive to you from day 1, done be surprised if she thinks it's gonna take it to the future.

In other words, both sexes shouldnt be expecting anything until you know it's what you both wnat

as for dropping traditions, tell that to the families of these people.

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Quote from: eldee on Today at 10:16:18 PM

Abso-freaking-lutely!!

And if they don't take the easy way out by commiting suicide, they will talk your ears out, blubbering all over the place about how they'll never love again, how he/she was the one. . . the fact that he/she just got dumped by the one does not register about him/her not being. . . you know the one. And just when you are almost "There, There"-ed out, they meet someone else and the whole freaking process starts all over again.

Jeebus! Shoot me!

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Eldee while i agree with some points, you cant exactly blame just the women

Fine not every relationship is gonna end in mariage. Obviously but dont give the girl false HOPE.

You cant deny there are some guys that few days into the relationship they are going around screaming "Iyawo mi" blah blah, if you;re gonna be saying such rubbish so early why be surprised if she too goes around claiming husband after 2 dates?

Also I dont think any guy who doesnt believe the current relationshop is solide/worth it should be asking for the girl to be exclusive with them.

Of course you have to keep in mind that no matter what country you;re in , you're still Nigerians. These girls are Nigerians. Most with Naija parents. Naija mentality. No parent wnats to hear their daughter say "oh im just seeing some dude", they want to hear that it's serious, it's concrete, it's going somewhere

I really depise the fact that because some people have been smuggled aboard they fail to realize what we still have traditions that follow us. It's like you dont even try to put any effort into understanding what these girls have to go thru and why they think the way they do. blah blah the girls in blah blah do blah blah. Who gives a poo? If you have a problem with how they deal with certain situation, talk to them about it insread of just having outright disdain for them on the onset cos of how they were raised

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rofl! You don practice am on your own kids?

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Question - Why The General Believe That Relationship Should Last Forever?

The Answer you seek my friend, can be found in the pages. . . last pages of these books.

1) Cinderella

2) Sleeping Beauty

3) Rapunzel

4) Beauty and The Beast

5) Snow White

6) The Enchanted Maiden

. . . . . All end with *say it with me* "And they lived happily ever after"

Our Generation is already a lost cause but we can save the future generation from this archaic mentality by BANNING ALL FAIRY TALES WITH THE HAPPILY EVER AFTER endings.

At Bed Time with your kids, substitute

Cinderella with Child Possessed.

Sleeping Beauty with The beast Within - Why Men are Violent.

Rapunzel with Homicide: A Sourcebook of Social Research

Beauty and The Beast with Till Death Do Us Part: Love, Marriage, and the Mind of the Killer Spouse

Snow White with Heart Full of Lies A True Story of Desire and Death

Sure they will be scared to bits, sure they'll have nightmares, will probably never marry and if they do, they'll get their gun license the same day they get their marriage licence, kiss their husbands goodnight and immediately rooster their guns but I ask you. . . isn't that better than having their heads filled with bed of roses and believing crap about One True love and Happy Ever after? I dare say it is.

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oka watever eldee. we are not marriage obsessed. we just don't want to waste our time with some fool who can barely tell the difference from left to right. so just because a lady might think ahead where the relationship might go as in marriage doesn't mean she is obsessed with it.

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there's quite a diference between going on a date/dates and being in a relationship.

many people dont know the difference

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I see a girl, she looks nice, she's clean, she doesn't yibon every 5 syllables, no obvious deformities, yea i want to go out with her, and by the second date i realize she's a black blonde, imma lose interest, why? cos i can't spend d rest of my life with a slowpoke. Point is, if mind is made up that we can't have a possible future , no point wasting my time and yours. Doesn't mean i'm thinking of putting a ring on her finger as soon as i see her.

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Priceless!!!

We shall continue the rest at Nandos.

Nando's is a portugese restaurant. . . . . .

It's cut n dried for people with church minds n mosque minds.

Mhhhhhhhhhh Beckham n Posh met at Nandos.

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okay im not saying that as soon as i walk into the relationship im going to start talking of marriage or spending our lives together. im saying that i would date people i would see as potential life partners.

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Another ignorant piece. The question is who are the white girl's you've been meeting? The ones i meet have a pretty clear idea of what they want and it certainly isnt a quick shag.

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Not necessarily a "we must marry" mentality, it's a matter of knowing what you want and going to get it. I would not entangle myself with people with no plans for the future. As I said earlier, total waste of my time.

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It's only our african women that feel every dude that takes 'em to Mr Biggs three times is Mr Right

I've never seen a country so marriage obsessed . . . my daizzz

I thought relationships always start with 'Let's see where we can go with this' before 'Let's take it to the next level'

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Rofl, So Busta even after all your 'warnings" the goat still hang around? LOL,

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Communication Rocks!! Make sure both parties are clear from the beginning what the relationship entails. The problem here is that, Men more than women, like to have their cake and eat it too.  For those type of situations, I strongly recommend "open relationships" And contrary to popular belief, they do work,

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i feel that if im dating a person of course im going to think about the future. i mean isn't that the point of relationship. to see if you can spend the rest of your life with that person. i dont understand how people are in relationships for two years and still have no plans on marriage.

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Only Africans have this mentality. . . . .

A white chic has a chart of how many guys she must shag before she gets married. . . . . .

They know the relationship is a dead end right from start so no strings attached. . . . When she's choked, she moves on and find anutha geezer!

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Exactly my sentiments

If you go into every relationship with the aim of getting married, what happens when you see that u're not made for each other?

This we must marry mentality is the reason why people commit suicides after break-ups

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I am mature in age n mentality, do u consider me as a potential husband??

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I'm going somewhere

In the first place a 16-20yr old would never be my boyfriend let alone a potential husband, where I'm concerned. The thought of considering him as my date would automatically be swapped off my mind.

I like my guys mature both in age and mentality.

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People define the kind of relationships they want to have.

Although Africans are conservative about pure sexual relationships so nobody sets out to have a dead end relationship based purely on sex.

In some parts of the world. . . . .a guy and a babe can agree on such arrangements with no strings attached.

Where are u going??

I mean are u saying u would see a 16-20 yr-old dude as a potential husband if you're dating him??

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not for me.

I have actually had one knowing right from the beginning that it wasn't going to work out . . yet, i dug my head in it and got more than a headache.

sometimes . . .some guys don't understand the word "NO" or "I NO DO AGAIN"

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So we're gonna be telling each other we're in love, knowing it's only temporary with no hope of leading anywhere? That's the stuff evil love stories are made of, no thank you. Not going anywhere, not worth starting. Feel me?

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Some of us love to know where we are going. I would never date someone I don't see as a potential husband. What's the use of a pointless relationship, total waste of my precious time.

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100% in agreement. Why waste yours and her time if its not going to lead anywhere? At this stage i have no time to waste on a bootycall.

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What then is the essence of a relationship?

Concerning owning? Dunno 'bout that.

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