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Why Won't a Girl Tell a Boy That She Likes Him?

Why is it that a girl would like a guy and won't let him know? Let me know, but the truth of it is that I haven't really found my kind of girl ...

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we only need to change our mentality in dis country cos in the western world, things are seen differently.As 4 me the only girls that have actually told me they like me are the ugly ones(no offence).i'm yet to see a fine sweet girl walk up to me and toast me.Is it a crime 4 a girl to toast a guy?must we guy do the toasting every single time.

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no big deal if a girl asks a guy out,

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see guys, every body have there diffrent character, it depend on persons involves, that is it.

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Thanks for participating in this topic. We have examined a very wide range of ideas and opinions here, and I want to suggest the creation of new threads titled, "How to Ask a Man Out - For Women" or "How to Ask a Boy Out - For Girls"

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i agree with u ooooooo

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How can I possibly tell a guy that I like him? It's so awkward. I'll rather keep crushing.

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Hi Guys

my first time here & its nice to join in

For me, i think when a chic digs a brother she should let him know, he's not gonna think she's cheap

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becos she has her dignity to keep and she may not be able to stand to pay the pain if the guy says no.

To see a girl that ask a guy out it should be that the girl really loves him. So wat will she do wen he says no.

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How on eart do u expect a girl to go to a guy and tell him she like/love him.Then after that u will say the girl is cheap that she brought herself to u to use and dump she...........

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it is just too abnormal.

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over my dead body to tell a guy that i love him.

they will just take u as granted or that u are a tout. but some girls did dat. but if i love u, i will not let u know. i thank God that all the guys that i love always love me back. because i don't have the mouth to tell him that i love him.

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over my dead body to tell a guy that u love him.

they will just take u as granted or that u are a tout.

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Well Z4m My dear you are in U.K.

In Nigeria is a different story or should i say in africa.

Right frm day one God made it for the men to ask first.

Is not as if am saying women don't do it right here in nija ,no far frm dat they do but they are very few and men don't appreciate it.

They prefer those ones they go after than the ones that came after them

i hope u get my point.

They believe once a woman start asking a man out, that means she is desperate to lay her hands on any man.

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I see your point Gina,but not all guys think that way. You know there are some guys that are shy too, not all guys are confident, some guys actually like you to approach them first.It actually makes them like you more, cos they know you are confident, and some guys like a confident gurl, or should I say MOST?

Why would a gurl be considered a cheap LovePeddler just because she asked a guy out? that's just not right, not very STRAIGHT thinking, only fools think like that.Why do people think, it's only right for the guy to ask first, I mean the gurl has got every right to ask first too, doesn't rele have to be the guy FIRST.

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Coz men are bastard.

Once a girl makes the first move she will be regarded as a cheap LovePeddler.

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@pharrod,my guy get real and stop dreaming.Why are u troubling yourself over a girl who apparently doesnt give jackshit about you.Dont let her deceive you,she only needs you to comfort her maybe when her real man makes her sad.There are millions of girls out there waiting for you,why kill yourself over one!!.......be a player man,there is enough to go round over and over again,time is short you know,you are growing older and the bible says enjoy your youth while you are still young or are u waiting to enjoy your youth when you are in a wheel chair.Get up man and get moving.

Ova and out

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Ladies concider how pretty u think u really are..if u r beautiful..u know it...men will look at u on the street. I dont mean having a fat one behind and infront..those bring sexual attraction, I guess not a bad thing but most atimes...men will look at ur and get pervated due to these wonderful possesions.....Not really cos they love you.

Neverthless, some guys will look at u and wana know u for realy so u gotta know who is real and who is there to play games witht the bobby.....ladies u know where i am going....In any case..I dont think i will tell a girl to ask a guy out unless she has known this guy for a long time, built good confident in the teddy bear relationship. Most atimes it just happens naturally.....so ladies just learn from this and apply it...Guys are sexually foolshish including myself , if u give an Bottom, we will Bleep the poo out of it..If u present urself in a manner that will show u worth my time, i will treat u like a lady and explore the possibility for a longer relationship. I dont give a dam..

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There's this girl that i met in one cyber three years ago ,i saw three times and i didn't see her again ,i saw her again this year ,but all those years i didn't see her she was still in my mind.But now i have seen her and i told her what i want without mincing words Since then it has been one disappointment to another ,she will give me a date and will not show up ,but i love this girl .When i started to lose interest on her ,she is now came back and told me,that i should convince her that i love her ,but she kept hitting me hard ,dropping my calls to her,using hard tones on me .all sort of things.but she told me one day thats she likes speaking to me and me shouting at her ,that she likes to hear my voice when she is not happy.But she never showed me that she love me or not .and she flashes me everyday. I'm confused about her .What do i do.do i leave her or do i wait for her a little bit more.

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The girl will soon miss out when she couldn't talk.

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Hmmmm, what an interesting topic! i personally do not have the nerves to ask a guy out(though i have thought of it a thousand times). it's not so much a fear issue as it is a pride issue. i know this guy in my classs who i have been dying to talk to, he's a real hottie but that's not it, he seems inteligent too but i guess if i go talk to him and ask him out, i'll hate my self for doing that cos i don't exaclty take such rejections very well so i'll just retain my pride and bottle up my feelings. somehow, they always fade away.

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I think the major reason is the fact that our culture does not really encourage a girl to walk up to a guy pronouncing her love, as such a girl would be seen to be wayward.

Such a girl will rather show her affection in some other ways that she feels the man will understand. Take the case of Isaac and rebecca, a sign was used and Isaac understood the sign.

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it can go either way although the norm now is for the guy to make the first move

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well.. its just in the head of the ladies....

they never do it.. cuz like hot_angel said, they might feel cheap. atleast i have never seen one

except in movies.

They got this body language and eye contact thing of telling u,

its all cool anyway.. we are used to it.(guys)

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nna, awahoooo, abi na woman go go dey look for a guy or na guy go come to look for the lady.

abeg, make una talk better thing.

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Let her ride on.

Let's see.

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Well, I don't think there is any thing wrong for a girl going for the guy she likes. Since there is this saying that "what a man can do, a woman can do better" so I feel that, the confidence that a man have to met a girl and talk to her, I believe females to should have that confidence too to approach the guy of there choice. But it must be be done it their own ways.

hey girls that will do wat you just said are cheap chic i as a lady a made my wish to suffer a guy because they are bad and mean

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Well, I don't think there is any thing wrong for a girl going for the guy she likes. Since there is this saying that "what a man can do, a woman can do better" so i feel that, the confidence that a man have to met a girl and talk to her, i believe females to should have that confidence too to approach the guy of there choice. But it must be be done it their own ways.

For instance, a girl can not just see a guy moving on the street and she start calling her and asking him she love him is not suppose to be so. it must have to be done with brain. and most be some one you have known for some time.

Secondly, you can go for a guy you love through your ways of dealing with him. through you characters to him. I mean the way you act with guy will always convince him that you love him.

I have seen quit some number of girls that have approached me that way. They go as far as buying me somethings i wouldn't expect they would do. i mean they act kindly to me and that made me know they are interested. So i simply continue with the game. I just ask them is "hope you don't have a guy"

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Well its two way thing. Life is tough. If u really want something you have to work for it. Boy or girl.

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Mhmmm...yeah right? And deprive the guy the thrill of chasing me? I don't think so...not anymore anyway

Sure I'd found myself in a situation when I had the hots for a guy...short of carrying a sign that says: " I like you"! The guy was just too dense to catch my drift....or maybe he did and chose to play ignorant cause he felt he had a fanclub (apparently I wasn't the only one vying for his attention) That kinda put the fire out for me..and when he did decide to look my way, it was too late and boy did I have the pleasure to let him know it!

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without any disregard to women, I have had women ask me out. I honestly did not see them as cheap( y won't a girl want to be with me). I am male and all. I like what hot-angel said though. I have gone to parties and girls have sent me their numbers, its really no big deal. Its not what u do, but how u do it. You have to be graceful

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matrix,honestly i dont think u live in nigeria,or more to the point its easy to type out but if a girl actually asks you out first,how will you look at her. No fronting now,answer the question with your churchmind.

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Honestly, If a girl likes a guy and she thinks the guy is a bit slow, she can help the guy out..There are a thousand and one ways she can help him without looking cheap. Most times its the fear of"what will he think of me" or "what will the society say" that dissallows women from letting men know they like them. Invite the guy for a drink or something, and tell him that you have a crush on him, and tell him you think its a really bad idea.. Trust me, he will ask y u think its a bad idea, and then he will tell you how much he likes you.The second way is telling the guy to stop calling you because u don't want to get attached to him....He will tell you why he wants you to get attached..

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hi buddy, i think if a girl ask a guy out under a normal condition she might be comflictin issues and putin the guy into a better chance to ridicule her, but if the condition in which the girl said it is understood by both parties then no dirty dust will be on air.

Ladies go for wht u want, but wise up on her to present the issue.

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hey legry a boy can not change the plans i have made for myself more over i only have one more year to finish my education and i will still be young

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Please, do come off it, America, europe or asia. its same world. Lets get real. My dear, don't allow what you fancy to pass you by in the name of intergrity, that one na cowardness or inferiority complex.

Meanwhile, na which society you dey talk about, abi no Naija again. Abeg, make una help me ask her where her domot be. Anyway, since she has access to internet, it mustn't be a primitive society at all. Wake up !

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abeg almost everything seems to be ending up in sex; no vex oh! but i thot this page was about a girl liking a guy and not being able to tell him when did it enter sex? pls there's another topic on sex, lets leave this one for what it was originally meant for; which i believe is 'communication'?

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Not bad a all. If you do it, talk it. Shunning sex talks wont make you a virgin or dis-virgin when you know you do do the real thing. If you're up to it, discuss it but always with caution. I mean, it shouldn't a life style but when you have to, don't pretend. Ladies, sex talks don't mean you're being immoral. Good to be truthful to oneself. that's it.

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thank you, i mean you, for your good suggestions and ideas. I wish to hear from you. You can send me your m*bil# n@mb so that i could hear your voice.. tanx, BIG Jeffery..

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ya all am kind of diverting the topic now.what if a gurl is "open" to talk about sex is it right or wrong? and what wld u think of the person?

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love4ever, why do think they are shy? Have you ever tried it once?

This is not a matter of being shy, it is a matter of intergrity. I mean, it is not not a polite thing in our society. We are not in Europe nither are we in America; we are in Nigeria! It is unheard of; ladies are to reject guys, not to face rejection by a guy.

well i have never tried it and i do not wish to try but my friends have told me a lot about it

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to legry

hey legry i did mean that u are different but it just the way

you do your things the way you go about talking abiut girls like there are everything you are interest in sorry anyways for saying you are diffferent guy. but honestly it is good for you to stop all this things it will never lead you to anyway/

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Twinkle why dont we have more women like you it would make this world a whle lot easier, but why spoil it with the no respecting of he man aspect, why you do that

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See legry dont talk like that, a friend of mine was beaten up by her boyfriend so bad she had 2 go to the hospital bleeding like a stuck pig u think i want that 2 happen 2 me of course not.

its not as if i like only fine boys but see guys generally these days r ruthless and if i want 2 go out with one ill look for a responsible young bachelor not any irresponsible little child okay

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a lady making here feelings known to a guy that she has studied does not make her cheaper or any of sortt. I appreciate women that can go 4 what they want

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Love4ever i dont love girls alot according to your quote what i do is respect them alot and in return i get mine back, and yes off course ill hear what others are saying and ill comment on it too, and please do tell me madam what makes me diffrent from the other guys here.

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so you like to hear what other people are saying you are one kind of boy you love girls alot stop it. legry you are not like the other boys i have met here

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legry, thanks for the compliment. My head dey swell! Anyway I was only being real, you know. So Mr seun moderator/administrator, don't you think I deserve a price for being the best on this topic? Lol!

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