People, please help me out here. It happened about 1week ago and although I've forgiven her, I've been asking myself why it happened? So what's my story, please read on:
I've been going out with this girl for the past 2 years now and we have always been very happy with the intention to get married in another 2yrs after her NYSC. I really did love her and made sure she lacked nothing (the most recent was the N150k laptop I got for her about 1 month ago), even if that meant a little inconvenience. Before this experience, I believed she really loved me also and we certainly never had any major problems except for very minor arguments and stuff. The only difference between us is that we aren't from the same tribe.
Okay, she happens to be a student who went home for hols. Last week, she calls me to tell me that some old man - a friend of the father and from the same tribe comes to their house with his son for , you know, "this is my son, he is working and is interested in marrying your daughter". According to her, her dad tells the friend and his son that his daughter is still a student and to wait till she graduates.She didn't tell me about the incident until 2weeks after it happened. All this time, I call her at least once daily. About a week ago, during a phone call she tells me that she had sex with someone. WHHAAT
I'm still trying to get over this "experiment of hers" when a few days later, she resumes school, comes to see me and then tells me that it really happened. Can u please imagine that? I ask with whom she did it with and after some hesitation she tells me it was with the guy (who came with his dad) to come see her father. Apparently, her folks ask her to go and visit the guy (at least that's what she told me) and during that visit, they were gisting and from gisting, it happened and that was it. She says it was a mistake.
She literally broke my heart and I was insistent upon a breakup. She begged me not to; I thought about it for a day or so and decided to forgive her on the premise that we are all human and sometimes we make mistakes. I have forgiven her but walai, forgetting things like this is not easy. I have never cheated on her and I have been trying to rationalize things in my head.
People, please how the hell could something like that happen? Do women make silly mistakes like that. I really need your candid opinion in this matter.