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Whydo Girls Expect Guys To Spend Onthem Before Saying Yes To A Relationship ?

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@A-40

You be snake?

Oga o.

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That is the problem with ladies in our society, A lady can even say yes to a baboon so long as he spends the cash on her,

they are so MYOPIC,

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@ poster

the one's that expect money are your gold diggers

and those are just your man LovePeddler.

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awww, gabby, that's so cute! I think, ok, that's <awwwww>

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My boyfriend and I decided to go on a date. He pick me up and we drove to the cinema. Just when I was about to buy the movie ticket and telling him to go buy the popcorn, he pulled out 2 tickets from his wallet (it shows that he has already bought it in advance) and so I told him I would then go buy the popcorn and he said he has already paid for it just have to collect it.  So I told him that I needed to go to the toilet and I went while he waited for me outside. I went in and called the restaurant to book for a table for two and told them that if my boyfriend is paying, tell them that it has already been settled. I gave my credit card number and the 3 digits to secure the payment.

After the movie, he told me that we are going to have dinner at Mc D and I told him that I would prefer to go to the Victoria's (the restuarant which I have made reservation with) - Anyways, he loves dining there and so we went. When payment time, he was going to pay but the waiter told him that it has already been paid for and so he look at me with that smile and he said, Ok, we're even today but I'll win tomorrow!

Mind you, this was our very first date. He never did win after that date as I have my ways all the time. We're usually even.

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So Poster, your topic aint that real to some couples.

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They wrongly equate your buying them stuff with loving them like crazy to want to spend a fortune on them!!!

Not all are this way mind you.

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Guys again spend money on the gals and you will get what you want ,work hard you will get whatever you have spent but GIRLS can neva get that moment back.

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@ Topic

Simple. To buttress the law that states; "there is no romance without finance

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Girls dont give their bodies

We collect bodi

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Boys spend money,work hard and you wil get money,girls eat money and give your bodies,you can never get it back,equation balanced ,QED.

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Its not just an Expectation , its a necessity.

Why do you want to date someone without doing nothing.

Love no be for mouth, na action word o.

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ok, @Topic -- I do NOT expect a guy to spend on me before I say yes.

Besides, I don't understand all this money spending issue sef, I mean . . . wht do u guys mean by "spending"??

what does the guy want to buy me that I don't already have?? -- It's not like he is going to buy me a car or a house or anything like that! soo apart 4rom such two I don't see anything else that is worth all the bragging

Money hardly plays any part in my relationships -- besides I hate a guy who will try to show me that he got this and that, they are always full of themselves. To hell with your money jor.

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What they dont understand is a money-hungry girl can not get any love from we guys we might spend and take you out but the moment we get up in that Bottom.Its a wrap

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Unfortunately for broke geezers, girls see it as signs of commitment.

How sad!!!

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Maybe i misunderstood what the poster was talking about.  I thought he ment spending money in the since of taking a woman out and showing her a good time.

Why would a woman just agree to be in a r/s with a guy based off of no information.  How am i going to get to know u unless we go out.  True there are free things we can do together, like the park, musuems, outside concerts, free movies in the park etc.  But a guy has to be creative to think of plan and put together these moments.

I am certainly not going to be sitting in some guys house that i dont know and i am deff. not going to have him at my house w/o having dated him for a while.

So no you really dont have to spend any money to take me out to dinner or a movie but you will need to spend time which to some is the same as money.

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Because when he sucks in bed, she'll have something to consol her!

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You use money as bait to hook a girl and then complain that all she wants is money? LMAO. . . That's like spraying yourself with shalanga water and then complain about flies following you.

Guys have a lot to learn. . . a whole lot. You don't have confidence in yourself, you think all you have to offer a girl is money and materials things, it's only natural you'll attract girls who base their love on those things. Instead of lamenting, I say take a few self esteem classes and start believing in yourself. . . . mmmkay. Good.

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if you mean "spending" as in taking me shopping and buying whatever i want, then no. I dont expect a guy to buy me anything before we are truly in a relationship. it would be nice if he did but it wouldn't be expected of him. but once we enter the relationship, well that is a whole different topic.

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It's not necessary for a sharp guy to spend b4 she can succumb to the guy;but for the sharp mug gu's is easy 4 a girl to take cons of him b4 accepting.Is all about playing sharp.

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nothing but it depends on how the guy approaches the girl, if he approaches her promising to buy her the whole world then why shouldn't she collect on that promise

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It depends on what yall mean by spending? I have no issues with spending it all depends on the girl's class but a situation whereby a girl is sending me her current and savings account number to put some money inside i will just tip the f-cuk out the door

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me no take ooo, what if i said no, then iw ill have 2 pay it back, pls he can keep his chicken change

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GOING TO BED FOR MONEY IS PROSTITUTION. DOES IT MEAN A GOOD STRUGLING GUY WOULD NOT VE A LOVER? LADIES SHD KNOW DAT MONEY IS NOT EVERY THING. 2DAY OUR GILRS CANNOT STAND BY GUYS DURING HARD OR DEVELOPMENTAL TIMES, EVERY BODY WONT ALREADY MADE. GOD HELP US.

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not all girls,white girls dont and girls from other parts of africa apart from west dont as well

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The bird started flying without perching, and the Hunters learnt to shoot without missing

I guess this could be part of the reasons, don't quote me completely, guessing it should be

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So they should just say Yes without knowing you?

Is this trick question?

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Growing up my dad took me on dates and opened the door for me. he would buy me flowers when he brought for my mom. He always treated me like his princess. I am sorry but if a dude cant deliver like my dad then he is not worthy of my time.

My dad is the only picture i have of a MAN and if you dont hold up aganist him then you fall short.

So if spending money, time and effort on me is too much then you are not the dude for me. I give as good as I get but will dismiss you in quick min if you fall short.

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Well a man that wanna show off by spending only define himself as mugu, if you like a babe, like her and be who you are and dont try to buy her with money, even a man will help the man spend his money, if he wanna show that he got it.

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i guess most guys spend on girls just to impress them, and try to win the girl's love, it is as simple as that,

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true but hey . . .God loves a cheerful giver . . ain't it?

if he wants to prove that he gats money then I'll prove that I can help spend it.

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well, if you don't like a man, do not like his money also.

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@topic,

No girls except cheap girls do that.

Then again . . . why do guys feel that they need to spend on girls, oppress them, while asking a girl out?

if she likes u, she'll say yes and if she doesn't . . .she'll only keep eating ur money.

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It is baffling and at the same time embarassing. I was at an eatery in Aba recently when I overheard some girls discussing at a table nearby. One of them was saying," how much has he spent on me that he wants to sleep with me sef"? I was like shocked!

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Because they belive that," their is love in sharing."

They belive that if a guy loves a girl that guy must spent for her.

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The fact that she wants you to spend on her first, should tell you her level of reasoning. What I don't understand is why guys still venture into the relationship if they deduce the girl's there for the goodies?

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neurone, wat exactly are we getting as boys from them? am sorry to say ,most are immature, if the guy dumps them they cry foul not knowing they started on a wrong foot due to their naira and kobo mentality, if i have some brave sisters in the house let them give us their views.

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Its the trend.

Plus you're kinda paying for what you gonna get.

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I think the spending of a thing is part of Naija girls living in Nigeria, girls abroad think different maybe it's the environment.

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Because us women know you guys only want to sample and go, always remember everythin concernin women na MONEY.

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