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Wife And Mother-in-law Bitter Relationship. Why?

Is it true that ladies don't like guys that talk about their mothers always ( talking like a mom's pet even at 30yrs and above)

Why is it that 90% of wife and mother - in-law relationship is sour and bitter?, How do you feel, as a lady when your boyfriend or husband talks very often about his mother.

Pls, these question goes to the ladies in the house,

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Joey, you are wrong there, no matter how rich your Dad or your mom is, u still have to always give them something, it is just their right to eat your money and while u do that, make sure in-laws too chop some of your money, be fair to both sides

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Pally, it will only takes a fool not to try such concept, cos when the woman and your mother are in good terms, you as the man will live long, and be happy, although will cost you though, cos when they wanna go shopping, you will have to spit the money for the shopping, but better to lose money and gain the love of the most important 2 ladies in ya life, mother and wifey

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Rhinno, i feel you!!! you will definately make a good husband, you talked maturely and brilliantly

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Joey, if u think about it, most of teh reasons why the wife dont treat you right when the mother -in-law is around is the fear of going wrong, cos mother in law always see something wrong in da wife, no woman can be good enuf for teh son, as long as the mother is concern, but the man has to learn to love the mother and the wife in a different way, tyhe wife is now your mother, sister, best friend and all to you, while your mother is just your mother, i do agree with you, mother suffered for you to be what you arem, however, she shuld be happy that you are now married with your own family, as the man, do all possible to make sure they get so much along, set both up on dates, send them to dinners, and do all possible, paint the woman to your mother as gold and let your mother know that once she interfere, you will be offended, let her know you ave made your choice, and bai bai to mummy, u wanna be with your wifey, and plssssssssssssssssssssssss dont run to momma when wife is wrong

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@$$Rhino,

I get ur point and understand u well, most at times, marriages tend 2 work better when the mother/daughter in-law go together without any problems.

However, the truth is u grow up loving momma so dearly, u think of how much she suffered raising u, u think of how she's lived all her life - just 4 her children, and sometimes if they have problem with ur wife, its because they feel ur wife isn't treating u well enough, though they mean well, they might cause a lot harm trying to help.

At best, treat ur wify with so much love in momma's presence do d same with momma in wify's presence, show them u both luv all of them and that they have to love each other and live in harmony 4 d sake of d luv u have 4 them

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Seun, there are situations where the mother-in-law and teh wife will have to stay together for a short period of time, for example, you reside abroad and your mother wanna come and visit you and you married, will u lodge the mother in a friend's house or an hotel cos u married, so better to make the foundation right

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@ NaJa go to www.menlikerhino.org

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where can I find men like u $$Rhino?

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For the ladies, a real man will treasure you like he treasure his mama, a real man will love and respect you just like he does with his mama, if he cant, there is a problem there, it is a great and a wonderful thing for the man to love his mother, cos regarldess, mother will be mother, however, the man has to be the man and know where to draw the line btw the mother and the wife, hope he wont have to do that, i so much would love a situation where my Mother will be closer to my wife than me, that they do things together, talk and have fine together, that will make me so happy, however, if that is not possible, i have to make my wife know that she is the best thing in my life and let momma know that i am no more that lil' boy that she used to breastfeed, the day i marry, the day momma need to realize that i have a woman in life that i have to cheris, hold and love reagrdless, now that doesnt mean the wife has to disrespect the momma, and neither would i take nonesense from momma towards wifey, cant we all just get along

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@aisha2

who's da question directed at?

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The bible says the man shall leave his Father and Mother and cling to his wife. Emphasis on leave and cling. If my husband does not understand that then there must be something wrong.

I have no problem with him having a relationship with his ma but he needs to understand that with time I will become the woman in all levels and respects in his life and he should not fight that. or it could look like I am just a Bleep body with no friendship watsoeva becos he gets that from his ma.

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Only a foolish or bullied wife will allow her mother-in-law to stay with the family. It's like having two wives.

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