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Wife Enjoying Free Ride To Work From Her Male Colleague In Office. Advisable?

Please i want to ask if it is advisable to allow your wife to be having free ride every morning from her male colleague working in the same office with her.The man is staying in the same side with her and every morning on his way going to work,will call her to come out and enter his car so that two of them can go to work instead of her going to park and queing for public bus.Hope its advisable and cannot lead to another thing?,or will you stop her if you re in that shoe?

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gbam! 3 gbosa for you

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Ladies and gentlemen, i will like to ask if the woman will die of using public transport? The issue here is not about trust or insecurity on the man's part, its about what could happen. look at this:

If they spend 4 hours in traffic every day going and coming for a month=they are spending 39 days days together in a year.

the fact that they work in the same office does not matter, nothing can happen cus they might be in different department or too busy to talk, But inside the car alone?

I wont allow my wife go with a man evry day, and pls ask any man if opportunity of 'digging' a married woman they give lift happen wont they do it?

you know as women they siddon inside car, u go look yellow laps etc the guy fit misbehave. Beside your wife could develop this kind of likeness you know want for the guy. Why the guy dey call am come outside? he should be careful around another man's wife now.

prevention is better than cure

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If your wife is the ugly type, you know fat orobo and short walking anyhow, with big tummy, no problem don't bother your head. I am sure by now the man giving her the free ride must be praying for a deliverance but if on the other hand she is a stunning beauty like the Omo Sexy's of this world hmm my brother fight for your dear wife 'cos you may wake up oneday and she is gone for good to the man you thot was just helping her with a free ride.

Enjoy

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@ Original Poster

I guess you can't afford for now to buy a car for her and its painful to see her accepting from another man what you cannot provide for her.

Bros, either which way you're s c r e w ed. If you stop her, she'll resent you and complain you are jealous and insecure. If care is not taken, she'll call her mother and sisters to abuse us a poor, hungry and jealous man.

If you allow her to continue accepting the ride (as you will be forced to), please accept the reality that you are absolutely helpless to stop anything. Its just a matter of time before the guy is banging your wife. There is no such thing as free lunch. No two ways about it.

So please comot your mind from that issue. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing you can do. And it will surely happen. Women like comfort and most women are very easily seduced with luxurious and expensive cars. That's why the bad niggers with the cool rides get the most babes.

Ever since time Imo river, it has the been the law that the rich man shall oppress the poor man including banging and seducing his woman.

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All dese ladies here shouting about trust and calling the OP an insecure guy - how many of you can 'trust' your hubby or BF to be giving a ride everyday to and from work to a hot, young, sexy female colleague? Talk true now now!!!

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Maaan, you need to empower your wife. To avoid all suspicion, its better she drives to work herself. Though I understand that its not all rossy. Sometimes in a relationship, there comes this grip of suspicions but as a man, you need to nip this by the bud and to do this, GET YOUR WIFE A CAR! Dont leave anything to Chance, You are over exposing your wife by allowing her follow this guy everyday to work, Dont forget that , by virtue of her working with this guy in same office and also going to work with him, SHE now spends more time with him than SHE spends with you both in the TRAFFIC and also in the office, Dont forget they will also have lunch together. These are possible,

Be a man!!!!!! dont over expose your wife cos it will only lead so chaos. It might not be her fault afterall!

Wish you all da best,

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@poster, forget about trust, plz the flesh dosen't understand that language. Plz, follow yr heart and stop the lift it can lead to anything. Again know that the flesh can't be born again

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with it except u dont trust ur wife. then she can as well not be going to work cos anything can still happen in her office.

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i dont think a transporter makes that much a month. so hw much is Ago Palace to Marina?

and she takes bus? to pay for 2-3 seats?

i see

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Deres no big deal abt it but 2b on a safer get a car 4ur wife (even if its a jallopy): prevention is beta dan cure

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This problem was existing between me and my fiancée, and I was not comfortable allowing her to join her colleague in the morning or close of job. Buying her a car is not the problem; we have not married and agreed that I will buy her one as soon as we get married by first quarter 2010.

I would have drop her off in her office everyday, but my problem is very unfortunate as we live in different directions; she lives in Ago Palace Way, Okota and works in Marina, while I live in Punch Estate, Along Lagos – Abeokuta Expressway and works in Lekki Expressway. You would see we are in different directions.

I have made a point of duty to be giving her monthly stipend of fifty thousand naira for transport, and advise her to always pay for two or three seats instead of taking a cab. If I call her she would close late, I will tell my driver to wait for her and drop her in her house, then I would go home with staff bus.

Men have really spoiled this world, and will never trust my fiancée getting so close to any man.

I have a car + a driver and made a stipulated rule not to carry any lady in my car except her condition is pitiable. I am a man and was once in the world, I see ladies as un-trusted people especially in Lagos. I have experienced them so loose that I kept wondering if we are heading to the end time.

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Like play like play that is how it starts, what you cannot not finish don't start. Stories abound how this type of help has turned out to be something else. In my opinion I will outrightly disapprove of my wife from accepting such help. It is worse of if you are the one that approve of it and when it happens you will never forgive urself but if u say no initially and she goes ahead and accept the offer when it happens you will be right justified. You never know when it comes to women they can pull any stunt at any time trust me I know them very well. They can never be trusted when it comes to that area. Enjoy

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^^^^ EDENOFLORA @

I beg to disagree with you, when it become constant is when the mind gets used to it and nothing will be attached. When you start playing tricks, like missing a day or two and the guy got to know that you were riding public bus after telling him not to worry today. He too is not silly not to put two and two together to arrive as four. If you play that on me I would outrightly stop the freebee. I would not be insulted for being nice.

Anyway, to the "Husband of Golden Lady": Before you stop your wife's helper, have you got alternative arrangement of the same level of convenience for her? I want you to consider the suffering at Lagos bus stop, you need to see the way people look at car owners at bus stops for possible free ride , then you would know that suffer dey?

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WEN IT BECOMS a constant,DAT ERUPTS SUSPICTION

MAKE A VARIABLE.STOP HER, WEN desire becoms an obsession,expetialy wen its negative,evil deeds are inevitable.save ur home.pls madam,fly okada,if ur man,cant afford a car.u are attracted to wat u c,often.being nice in close coners can erupt intimacy.

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Omo i go single handedly munch all avalaible snacks.

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a wife for a snack,i will always be hungry for more different flavours of snacks.

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Take study leave . . dem fit do am with pay sef. You be king be dat

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i go just resign for 60 months and apply again

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Wow!!!!  NYSC na the same story year after year, una stories imilar to mine in Rivers State in  1991, lol

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lmao!!

not laffed like this in 2 weeks

more pls

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ARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

I am going to no Naija to do my NYSC this year.

These tales are too juicy.

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I served in Warri - girls would offer us food, money and sex so we could do their G.C.E exams for them. Even their mothers used to come along to plea with them.

Trust the useless fathers, playing draft and drinking ogogoro as early as 6 in the morning.

Those were the dark days.

Thank God.

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@Kokoye

i agree with ya 100%

NYSC was mad fun for me

damn!!!

But the sun nearly killed me tho.

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NYSC babes are the easiest in Naija.

Even the born-again Christians go hay-wire when they get to the camp.

Tkb. . . . .How many did you shag in Yola cos i met a babe who said something about you some months back.

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my gurlie defo cant go for NYSC

she'll do it in ma house

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The poster is rightly worried.

The colleague is a man and most men are Dogs.

The wife on the other hand is a woman and women are simply  fickle.

With no dubious intentions on the offset, the girl might get into the car one day in one of those sassy office mini skirts and with thighs flashing everywhere, the man will  start bending conversations one kind abeg (all those compliments and caring words and projection of lasting bliss and happiness in his company).

Most men (excluding me before God and man) will chase a fit woman even if she was married talkless of

one that gets into his car every Morning.

The husband should change the situation LIKE A MAN pronto!!!

(this one wey be say if people see them inside car them no go suspect , na im b say them fit drive go anywhere.Abeg! abeg! abeg!)

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It will start been an issue when there is an ulterior motive.

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the above is the final answer, if u dont have one, buy her one and u dey use leg, na u dey insecure

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True Story.

A woman will shag whoever she wants to shag free ride or no free ride. Insecurity is bad for marriage.

Or you can give her your own car and you take a free ride

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Your insecurities will eat you alive.

It's her colleague. They can still shag without her getting free rides from him.

If you are not happy with the arrangement, get your wife a good car. . . .and if there's no cash, get her a horse/donkey to transport her to work.

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JUST ALLOW HER TO ENJOY THE FREE RIDE WHILE IT LASTS.

ALSO ALLOW THE BOBO TO ENJOY HIS OWN "FREE RIDE" ON YOUR WIFE WHILE IT LASTS.

MY BROTHER THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH ANYWHERE.

EVEN IF NA FREE RIDE TO CHURCH OR NIGHT VIGIL OR WAKE-KEEPING.

NOTHING GOES FOR NOTHING. SCRATCH MY BACK, I SCRATCH YOUR BACK.

SHE IS NOT PAYING IN CASH BUT SHE MAY BE PAYING IN KIND.

THERE IS NO FREE LUNCH ANYWHERE. 

MY BROTHER LEAVE AM FOR GOD,

THERE IS NOTHING U CAN DO TO STOP A WOMAN FROM PLAYING AWAY MATCH, FREE RIDE OR NO FREE RIDE.

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Abegi

Everybody's shouting "Trust, Trust". You forgotten she's human? Even if her mind's totally clean and she's absolutely devoted to her husband, she's still human. Spending time with another dude to & from work everyday is a recipe for disaster.

Wetin dem go dey yarn inside moto? When casual office talk is exhausted, the discussion will move on to more personal topics. Now, again I'm still assuming total innocence on the part of the woman, but who knows if the dude is going through some rough time and decides to unload on the woman? What if the woman starts seeing a sensitive part of the dude she's never seen before?

Whether we trust our spouses or not, the wise thing here is not to put ourselves in situations where we might get tempted. The Yoruba peeps would say "Obe ti oo ba fe je, ma fi run imu" meaning "if you don't have the intention of eating some soup, don't go sniffing in the pot".

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In other words, follow your mind.

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I travel with a male colleague and my hubby never has any issues about it because its a convenient solution for now.  And I love the fact that he trusts me and I know myself as a Christian I can never do anything to jeopardise my marriage. The guy good and also respects that I am married, mostly our on our way home we talk about work issues, ideas or i try to convince him to give his life to Christ.

@ poster - give your wife the benefit of doubt but I do encourage that you pray for her as well .

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Wifey playing away with another man

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No Big deal!

If she get home on tyme n prepare ur meals n also attend to u warmly.

you sholud kno wot ur wife can do, or are you having extra marital n u feel she is doin the same

please free your mind or buy her a car

bt for me no big deal

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@Everyone who said he should get her a car, Please answer these questions below

(1) What happens if he gets her a car, and she a male colleguea a lift! what should he do?

(2) Lets say the husband cannot afford the car?

(3) Would it be better if the lady's colleguea at work was a woman?

(4) Would car stop lady playing an away game?

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Hey, if you can get a car for your wife it will be better. But if you can not affort one let her go will commercial car "she knew you before you got married". Unneccessary nearliness may lead to anything. Becareful

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As a Science student then,i was made to understand that positive and negative forces attracts,or simply put,elctrostatic force of attraction takes place between forces of different charges(+ve and -ve charges) just as i withnessed in Ionic or Electrovalent bonding.My people,one thing is clear,closeness between objects of differents make(man and woman etc)brings out unexpected intimacy which can lead to anything.It may not be the fault of any of them,becuase it werent in their mind,but becuase of lonely regular closeness and talk,it can bring romantic intimacy between opposite sex.Believe it or not,it is real!!.For i am talking from statistical data and experience and not guess work.Women are easily lured into this trap because they believe in intimacy which makes them to feel that they are getting much love attention from such man,more than even their husband.Also,its not everything they discuss in office that they can discuss when they are coming to work.It gives them much opportunity for any secret talk than in the office.If you like believe it or not,i am still talking from experience.Have u ever invited a girl in ur house or a a private place where only you and she were there,and u were just discussing with her and all of a sudden,something happen( you know what i mean),and after the incident both you and the girl will start having guilty conscience on what u both did,because you dont know how it happened as it wasnt in your mind?.It is easier to AVOID temptation than fighting it!!!.

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Hehehe God bless the insecure man that will rather i jump molue everyday rather than get a lift from a colleague.

Poster you have only two options if you cherish the peace in your home, buy a car for her or live with it.

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Trust? Yes, trust your wife! As your wife you should be able to know the type of temptation she can really resist. I can tell you giving women lift especially when their husbands got no car can sweep them of their feet and they will begin to get attached to a collegue in the office and before you know it somethin don dey happen there. All these people wey dey talk say make the man buy car for her if he is not comfortable with someone giving her wife a lift, u guys dont get it, I am sure even some of you no even get car self, lol Make una leave matter, small small things like this dey confuse some women ooh!

To tempt and lure a woman to do what she doesnt even intend to do especially when she is in marriage is easy especially when it has to do with material things the husband doesnt happen to have like in this case. Right now in my company there is a married woman in this case now who has succeeded in turning the brain of a male collegue around with some of these fantacies like making lunch from the house for him, picking and dropping him off from work, and I tell you this closeness has made the man forget his own family wife and children and is concentrating in making and keeping this office collegue company. This man's wife do come her fight tire, for where?, the woman collegue no send,

Some closeness can realy spark off some emotions and passion in people. Such thing like what the poster talked about have really wrecked many homes. At poster I will want you to keeep trusting your wife, see no evil and hear no evil.

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a female school mate of mine is married and living close to my house and we work in the same company,one day she dropped me off to the office and since then I always stay away from her route to the office,a woman with short skirt driving very early in the morning in cold weather is enough opportunity for any silly thing to start.

@poster please talk to your wife,it is wrong,positively wrong to expose your wife's privacy,but let me use this forum to advice  our young men,if you do not know,touching another's wife is a great abomination even unto heaven

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1. Talk to your wife about hw U feel. Thats what a trusting relationship is all about: open and honest communication

2. Discuss hw U both can handle the situation: a. wife stops taking ride b. hubby buys car for wife c. wife takes ride once in while d. hubby buys okada and takes wife to work

3. Pray (that is if U pray at all to any god or anything) about the situation in 2 above and be committed together to make it work.

4. Show her more love. Give her mind-blowing, terrific love-making sessions so that she thinks less of any other man, not to mention a bozo who is trying to get into her skirt in the name of 'ride to work'.

5. Repeat step 5 as often as you can.

6. If the rides must of necessity continue, join in one of them yourself and feel the atmosphere , that'll probably lessen your worry. Dote all over yor wife while in the ride: hw wonderful and loving she is. Dont sound like an inferiority-complex-ridden bloke while doing this.

7. If all of the above dont work, come back to Nairlaland.

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Let me say I did something similar to this in 2007. I helped take a female colleague - who had no car at the time, home, almost everyday from work. My house is nearby. Let me add that the ''everyday'' thing was our undoing. My wife started complaining. - especially when I get home late. Wife was on maternity leave. Her hubby, I was later told, also complained that it was getting too much.

In the end, I got my fingers burnt - the fingers of both hands. LOL.

She has a car now. And her hubby picks and drops her off everyday, or so I think.

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I wonder what happened to discipline!!!

Uwa Mmebi!!

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