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Will You Accept A Gift From An Ex?

You guys broke up . . . . but are still friends.

He calls you up, makes an appointment and comes bearing gifts.

He dosent want you guys to get back together oh . . but he saw some nice things, thought of you and got them for you! 'No strings attached' he says!

Any implications in accepting

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hahahaha,it seems the dude hurts you wella.

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na you knowwwwwwwwwww oooooooooooooh

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^^^

No, what you are trying to say is that you are an FFF or in this case BFS (Boyfriend for shirt)

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anyway, my ex girlfriend bought me some shirts after i broke up with her but finaly she got me back with that same gift so what am trying to say is that something will definately come up after some times it may not be now but in a short time the person will ask for reconsideration :d, I'm not a type of guy you can trick with some shitty stuffs but i found my selg going out with her again.

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Well it depends on what led to the brake - up

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WHY NOT,IS IT NOT A GIFT OR IS IT POISON, SINCE IT A GIFT I WILL RECIEVE IT WITH FULL HEART

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lol don't mind them! its the same 'possesiveness' that they men also want to posses every other woman, yet you are castizied for being cool with your ex *eye roll*

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You forgot to add that you enjooooooyed wearing it too.

Hmmmmmm Smacks lips

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Then u are close being Bleep by him again

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Ashewo wetin no consign me?!

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Lmao @ "accepting gifts like their lives depend on it."

Guess when you date money hungry girls and/or know the only way to get a girl to look your way is buying her things, you start to think every female under the sun is a glutton.

Where in the rule book does it say you always have to be mortal enemies with an ex? Some people are better friends than lovers and it takes maturity to understand this.

Now I know that there are bad break ups where any hope for a simple hi-hello relationship is impossible. . .that's understandable but if that's not the case, then why make enemies when you can be friends?

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I know it appears that way, but it's not!

I'm sorry, but my reasons are kind of . . . personal!

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If your BF was reading these lines wat would he think? Cos to me this holding on to an ex u have doesn't seem healthy, too many holes for exploitation.

Wat reasons if I may venture to inquire?

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@OP; Dont let him deceive you, he is trying to secretly stage a come-back!

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No i can not, it might send d wrong signal

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i will take it, i don't think there is a problem there

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No, i would never do that . ,

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Uju, it's funny how you women open your mouth to yap that you're friends with your ex, which also makes me do nothing but wonder why you can't work on your relationship or why it was started in the first place. But I understand, not all relationships are meant to work, while some practically will or won't depending on the basics and basis of the relationship in itself.

Personally, I don't make friends with exes, so it'll be darn difficult to accept any gifts from them, but that's not to say they don't offer, of course they do but I don't accept them. Nevertheless, the kind of gift differs: if it's a birthday gift, you can accept it and you'll be fine in my books; if it's Christmas, it's all good, thanksgiving, that's acceptable; but tell me it's a regular gift because he thought of you? That's insane.

Someone said it's exposure of insecurity. . . too bad, people need to refine the use of certain English words these days and only if that person knows what insecurity means because all of a sudden when a man has got principles in a relationship, it suddenly has turned out to be insecurity. . . go back to the basics of relationships and review the rules and you can have a look at what insecurity means.

[Quote author=whitelexi]You can argue with that word "Enemy" for as long as u like, the bottomline is women just are used to collecting, men are more disciplined cos we're more into giving than taking.

You've stated your view and said your bf doesn't mind, fair enough for u. I've made my own point, stating clearly that i'd gladly leave my babe if she does the same thing - Men are different, some accept poo from women, others dont. . . Women will most def prefer those that accept poo from them, cos that affords them more freedom to act up. . . hmmm

Why do some men accept poo where others dont? Well, some men tend to take relationships as seriously as the eventual marriage - understandably so. . . Others see a relationship as an avenue to study the woman, and so it is taken a lot less seriously. Such men can break things off and feel no hurt or pain. . . That category is clearly where i belong!

I have never, and still will not accept trash, principles are simple to read but difficult to keep. . . You're either in or you're out, there's no in-between point. . . Its that simple. Cool[/quote]

You have stated my mind accurately. It's a pity how some women value gifts as if their lives depend on it, and with this principle, I tell you some women will want to see you as being bossy or overbearing. It doesn't even make sense to be close friends with your ex in this fragile world let alone accepting gifts. And the funniest thing is if you tell your girl you're not comfortable with her making close friends with her ex, she'll come off with this assumption that you don't trust her or whatnot and ask her, what ever happened to you not towing the line where you can't be trusted? Why not act in a trusted manner and see if you can't be believed? Act right and responsibly and your man will take you serious.

But like I have earlier said, there's nothing wrong if the gifts are mainly for some festive moments like Christmas, Halloween, Thanksgiving, New Year and all of that, but a regular gift? I'll just shut up and add it up to one of her shortcomings and when that day of reckoning comes, I'll pronounce it as part of her judgment.

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No, No, NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

You are looking for trouble.

Stay clear or else it will bit you later!

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I dont think its wise to collect gifts from your EX.strings or no strings attached.ere ki laja nba eku se(what kind of friendship exist between a dog & a lion.

Most especially if you are in another relationship.please protect what you have.

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oh hell no, i dont even believe in contact between exs yet alone gifts

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my ex is getting me a tear rubber car next year,off course am taking it.were good friends ,he;s getting married soon and tells me all about his new chick.

am waiting for my gift when he comes back from his journey

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A mans gift makes way for him

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Well no strings attached u say.i'll definitely accept d gifts

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Well no strings attached u say.i'll definitely accept d gifts

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Well no strings attached u say.i'll definitely accept d gifts

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There is always a STRING attached to everything we do.

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Ever heard of the GREEK gift?

Don't accept it. If u are in a new relationship, ever wonder what ur guy will think.

you know, walking up to him and telling your ex got u this?

If my partner accepts a gift from an ex, then the door to doubt is left wide open!

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Aint a problem if no strings are attached

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dont accept because, ROAD WEY PERSON DON PASS BEFORE NOR DEY HARD TO PASS AGAIN.its a words of an advice.

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Once we are still in good term with each other, we are not quarreling, still friends, i don't mind accepting his/her gifts with open mind.

God bless.

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Poison or bad luck?!!

Jeeeeedus!

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I would be scared. Hope no poison or bad luck in it. I wont use the gift.

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Some guys can be nasty. While in a r/ship, they 'll not care about u not to talk of given u a gift. But when the r/ship crashed, u see them roaming about with all sorts of gifts. I Mercy won't take that gift b'cos u are giving it for a purpose.

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I had an ex call me up a couple of weeks ago telling me how he had a gift phone for me and all that. . .I told him thank you but didn't need it. . .

Friends or No friends I'm not accepting presents from an ex. . .that's called respecting my boo cus he deserves that respect. . .and I also wouldn't be happy if he goes taking presents from exs. . .So what I don't want him doing to me. . .I wouldn't do to him!

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A gift from an ex ( ex is a man here)? Woman you have got to think again. I am a guy and I know 90% of us are always after something when buying gifts.

Watch out for his next move. If care is not taking, you will find yourself falling for him again with his gifts. Na guy vs girl, no be so?

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It depends on the gift, Ofcourse if it is kpomo i will take it by fire by force. lol

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Even if na motor, I won't accept.

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abeg no he dey craze?

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Ujujoan I think as someone said before, it depends on how both of you know yourselves, which include how the relationship was when the going was good, what led to the break and how it was manage until the day of the gift presentation. no body can tell you whether it is good to receive the gift or not. because no one can really understand the interplay between the two in the relationship and after the break up. when you assess the situation with the indices above then you can take you decision based on how you feel, that whether you have peace doing it or not

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personally. i have never accepted any gifts from my ex before even while we were dating. when they give me gifts i always give them an excuse for them to hold it with the excuse i wil collect it later which i never do.

so if an ex gives my woman gift, personally, i wont tell her not to collect it but also i wont like it.

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That you both have remained friends in spite of the break up might be an indication that there is much you share beyond romance. In that case, you accept them. My ex sent me a text recently that she was broke and needed some cash. I helped her, no strings attached.

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Y not? open heart my friend

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@poster, Yea i cn, if we are stil friends that is.

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