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Women, Why Do You Allow Men Get Away With So Much?

Some of you know your man is cheating on you but you won't dare say a word to him because you "love him." Instead, all you do is hate the girl he's cheating with. You'll hurt another woman over a damn guy who doesn't give a droppings about you and just wants the goodies.

We have got to do better.

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There are dumb Bottom women and smart women. Now, I know some women have told me that they can accept their man's cheating ways, but what I don't get is if your man RESPECTS you, he will not do anything that can jeopardize YOUR LIFE.

Condoms does NOT prevent ANYTHING 100% and if the condom breaks, slips off, and erodes then there is a chance of contracting filth. Why would you knowingly sleep with a man that sleeping with other chicks? It is a difference if you aren't aware but YOU SMELL other women on YOUR MAN as you enclose your mouth over his kondo?!!

Some women feels threatened that they will attack the other woman because it is easier to deal with the other woman. I know a chick that had all the evidence in the world that her man is a no good dog (He is White) AND she still think others are lying!

I don't understand dumb Bottom women at times.

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@OP: as a lot of people said, such women lack self respect. it is a diff situation when a man was seduced by a woman once n he falls n runs back home to tel his wife and a man that is a serial cheater. i wonder how women would allow their lovers who had been wit other women to touch them n ow a man would look into his wife's/gf's eyes n tell her he loves her after been in another woman's bed! get this: if u love someone, u wouldn't want to hurt them. even those women who have accepted their fate re 'dead' inside! they might smile, dress up, have money but i tell u, their spirit is crushed! u re killin them slowly/softly! to al d guys that say they where made that way, remember that God created 1 Adam n 1 Eve! i would who Adam would had have extra affairs with! #just wondering#

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It depends on the society where these women lives. If these women lives in a society where men are dominant and powerful the women doesn't have any say so but to "allow" the man to get away with it.

One thing I can say about America, women have rights and can express their voice without persecution unlike others.

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true, nigerian society is very judgmental.

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Very judgmental indeed! And they are quick to get upset and furious if OTHERS judge them by the actions of other Nigerians. Hypocrites much?

If you can judge thee, someone can judge thou.

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@ Poster, 'because majority of them are 'mumu, dopemu, , aboko kus',

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interesting thread.

will read through it.

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Most women in Nigeria endure cheating husbands and boyfriends because of the poor economic situation. As for the married women, they linger in the marriage, because of the stigma that comes with becoming a divorcee. Nigeria is a very judgemental society. Let us not forget that.

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dude! Biko Biko stop this rough play. Abeg take that pic down asap and fix ur English, gosh!

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because dey r stupidly in luv.though some few women r puting on their thinking caps n r being defended from being unduly cheated

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dats because many women r still foolishly in love.one tin dat beats my imagination is wen a naija babe huks up wit "prince charming",dia logical reasoning bcomes suspended,d prince charming will so play on their intelligence 2 a fault,wen d gal gets bak 2 her senses so much avoidable damage is done,d more surprising part of it is dat b4 some galz fall in luv,wen u see dem jisting with their friends about takin no bull poo from any guy u'll think dey min it ,wen it now comes 2 practical dey become sumtin else.d prince charming dat swept u off ur feet neva even loved dem he only wanted a taste of wot is between ur legs n he moves on with his playboy lifestyle.wen i see a couple of galz jistin in d hostel bout not allowing any guy take advantage of dem i just chuckle in my mind cos i know dey r trying 2 impress dia fellow gal friends,but d truth of d mata is dat galz take a lot of cheating with d vain hope dat sumday he myt love her again widout realizin dat he has piked on d next victim d gal sees as her rival,n goes 2 attack her!!! i wonder wen galz will start realizin dat atakin ur rival doesnt make any difference its like deodurising a place filled with waste products

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Why women do, d reasons are many. But wit my lil knwledge, l'll say d ones i knw. 1) they feel d only place they can exist is around that guy or men. Money., they think if they lose d guy they lose money. As am concern luv doesn't make women who have cheating men still stay wit d men or whatever. Na so i see my own point. If u want more, Just look goldpounds@gmail.com

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@post That's because,most women are insecure. I've 4gotn d person dat said that it was natural 4 every man 2 cheat. I don't mean to be insultive bt dat person is mentally deranged. Who said so? Let us b aware of d fact dat every action we take has ida a +ve or -ve effect. Luk @ david in d bible,wasn't God angry with him up 2 d pt dat God refusd him from buildin d temple he pland on buildin? If u males lyk,continue dsivin urselves. We all know dat its nt everytin dat was recorded in d bible. Its posibul dat d oda "sinners" were punished severely. If u lyk,continue tinkin dat all will b well:even if ur wives/gf 4givs u, ur sins wud surely find u out.

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Hey babe, I respect your intelligence but get a life!

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@The blessed Are you trying to blind us with your neon-sign written post? You for erect sign board.lol.

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Another reason is probably because it is relatively easier for a man to find aqnother wife than for a woman to find a husband. Starting all over again is ten times more daunting for a woman.

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Maybe it's because most men will cheat anyway. Most of the good guys just haven't been caught yet.

P.S Women aren't saints either.

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@poster u no sabi highcourt make u carrry ur matter go hissssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

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People are just people. Some men cheat and some women too. The decision to forgive a partner who does is personal to each person in the relationship. I personally believe there should be more in a relationship to deal with all bumps that comes along including cheating. It should not lead to ending the relationship. I do not know anyone who resolved the pains or anger by moving out or ending the relationship. Maybe its time to take the vows seriously and work at it "for better' (no cheating) "or worse" (with cheating).

Finally God never lets anything happen to you that he hasn't provided a solution for or give you the strenght to deal with.

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Pls learn to live with it.because very few men dont cheat.keep praying and talking to him,he will stop some day.Meanwhile advise him to always use condoms,if he must do it and not let you know about it in anyway.Live life and be happy.Dont cheat on him,our culture and God is against it.Life is too short,catch some fun baby,and forget your pains.

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am short of words but i must add dat on no offence shld a man cheat on his wife

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well it is a mans world or nature to cheat on their patner and the best thing to done is silence cos i believe it works they will rather start feeling bad try and see

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i concur my man i concur.she's probably past her time and will make any excuse not to av "it".As for her being a lesbian,i still see it as a sense of insecurity.

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Some things need to be accepted just the way they appear to be~

you can better urselves in wateva ways but~

he will always get away with so much

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Bottom line, both men and women cheat on their partners.

Does that make it right?  NO.

We need to stop making excuses and think for ourselves, not think what society tells us to think.

Society tells you, "Oh, Men have higher sex drives, so thats a good excuse." or "Oh, African men are polygamous by nature let's all turn a blind eye to it"

All of which are arrant BULLSHIT.

Women and men, are emotionally, physically, psychologically DIFFERENT.

But we have one thing in common.

It's called a BRAIN.

So next time you choose to cheat, on someone you are married to, you can rationalize it whichever way you want to you can say, "Oh, he/she isn't doing this, and and they aren't doing that" , but think about it in one way and one way only , ok. "Is what I am about to do right or wrong? " If you can honestly say that its right to cheat on your partner, then go ahead.

But like someone said, if it has absolutely reached the point where you cannot stand your partner any longer and you cant deal with their sloppy habits, then for God's sake , just tell them that you absolutely cannot take it anymore and you want a divorce because you dont want to have to cheat on them while you are still legally married. That's actually a good way of knowing how much your spouse cares about you, because if they do, they will ask for reasons,  try to convince you to stay with them and will most likely agree to your demands.  Someone who DOESNT care, however, will actually be relieved that you took the first step and probably not stand in the way of you leaving them. Whichever way, you get what you want at the end.

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it is not just the respect and tradition of nigerians because the things do happen every where in the world and it common cos when the wife knows that her husband is cheating on her and she started going about to tell people they will tell her to be calm cos she just does not have place to go even if she has.

to be brief it has been destine,

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from time women have shared their men with other women, it's not strange to find men with several wives and concubines around till date, many cultures and religions permit it. it's with Christianity and westernization that came the one man one wife concept, that probably explains why women can still allow men to get away with so much.

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All men will cheat if presented with the right opportunity. Its just in our genetics, we can't help it. If we know we wont get caught, the we assume no one will get hurt. I'm a good guy and I try to be faithfull to my family, but if a woman like Hale Berry (Who's husband cheated on her by the way) comes my way then I know its over. Men cheating reduce with age. we tend to learn love as we mature (I'm talking 50S 60's) But till then, its all about procreating. Its not that we don't care about you, as a matter of fact we do. Its just the way we are built. If you find a man that has never cheated on you, then you have found your self a good liar. (I mean world class, should be giving a medal) Those are the ones you should beware, but sadly enough those are the ones you swear by. So what you see is what u get.

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OP, Because some women lack self esteem, this women continually deceive themselves that things will get better and enjoy the thrill of trying

to change the guy. the bad news is a man is only as faithful as his option, think I can speak for 95% of men. and if a man is ever gonna change, it will

be on his own terms and not because of any woman.

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they take it cos they hpin for a change isnt it?

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4 me, i gat no biz with the babe, she is on her own, my problem is with my guy and we gonna tackle it one on one, ain't scared of him

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@Poster, I would like have ur email. There is something I would like to discuss with in private.

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Because african women are too entraulled by the idea of " BEING MARRIED"

that they are prepared to do and take any and evrything JUST to keep it

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You hit it well, bros

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Isn't this a popular pitch for those Girls who like doing it with girls(lesbians). First, they try to paint men as irresponsible, insensitive, wicked etc. then they now present themselves as viable alternatives.The truth is women now brainwash fellow women to sleep with them and this topic is one of those such scams. please my dear sisters( i mean those who are still normal) don't be carried away. Don' fall for the scam. As for the Naughty Person that initiated this topic: even lesbians cheat on each other sometimes. And to take it futher don't women cheat on men too?

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its a play on their insecurities either its emotional, physically or financial, u cheating on her, she would definitely find it hard to leave u especially when u apologise but deep down u have no intention what so ever of stopping, She damn well knows that if she leaves u u got a replacement on the substitue bench to take her place, speaking from experience here nobody wants something, nobody else wants

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well i think it is a terrible thing 4 guys to cheat on their wives,but as the saying goes diff strokes 4 diff folks.

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D fact is,both sexes play d game!

I Just pray n hope true love exists on planet earth!

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Cheating is wrong, no matter the person or situation. If you can stand a cheating partner, you got no self respect. If ur S.O. really loves you and knows you'll never condone cheating, he / she won't do it. If they do, kiss his / her Bottom to the curb, and don't look back for any reason.

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For all have sinned & come short of the glory. . . . . . .

But the general rule as I understand it works most times

WOMEN - LOVE = SEX

MEN - LOVE equals SEX

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i dont know why they are like dat, den don do dem! i believe they feel they can do whatever they want, anytime they want.

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Cheating is bad

But in an African context, the wifey is seen as the husbands property. He spent to marry by paying all the necessaries.

Remember he who pays the piper dictates the tune.

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I am an onlooker but AIDS dey o. Women are silent operators, many retaliate the deeds by their partner (husband) but will never tell, they do this to balance the equation. However, I will declare here it is of no use. two wrongs do not make a right. A cheating partner can be made to see the aftermath of his/her action, thats why u do not keep mute in a relationship that is showing signs of collapsing, talk this over it helps sometimes. Zip up, U might end up in early grave and the way I am seeing it u will drag your partner(wife/husband) along with you. Do stick to a partner.

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Not all women do let them get away with it, and some men tolerate their women

cheating on them as well. Neither policy is necessarily gender specific.

But I do understand what you mean.

I would say because of the general attitude in modern society of male dominance.

No matter how far we've come in that arena, the general attitude is still present in the social contract.

Many females are raised to accept that kind of thing from men.

That kind of upbringing and attitude is not a good thing, but its a man world.

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this has to be th emost pathetic excuse for cheating in the world. i dont give a damn if you wife sews herself shut or your husband chopps of his member. there is no legitimate reason to cheat ever. if your not satisfied then TALK to your partner and work it out! if you cant comprimisse (what marrige is all about) then either go your seperate ways or agree to an "open" marriage (not really a marriga at all- only a marrige in title) and you BOTH fu*ck whomever you want. if it is ok for the husband it is ok for th ewife and vice versa. if you guys think its ok for you to screw anything that walks and your wife has to "deal" with it but you would dump her in a sec if she dd the same. why the double standard? why is it ok for you and not her? women same question. if it is ok for you and not him? noone here would want to share thier spouce with another and there is no reason why you should expect someone to share you!

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There's everything wrong with it.

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@ Poster

Let me ask you some candid questions to get a better perception regarding your question.

First and foremost are you married ? Secondly if you are married, Are you talking from experience ? In the sense that were you forced to tolerate a cheating husband ? My last but not the least question goes as thus. Is your topic raised as a result of the "Tiger Woods Saga" ?

Now while i await your responses to these questions. Let me give you my sincere opinion regards your thread topic. I've been married for a little over 2 years and from my own point of view,women are not compelled or mandated to stand,tolerate or live with a cheating spouse. But it all boils down to weighing the consequences of the immediate actions you decide to take.

From a Nigerian's point of view,Divorce as an option due to infidelity may look like laughable reason to run to your lawyers to fight for a divorce,either way be it from the husband or the wife's point of view. Lets face it ,there are so much one weights when it comes to going or a divorce or getting seperated. Most cases the future of the children is the biggest factor as well as the vows " For Better For Worse" that you folks took infront of the congregation during your wedding. Other factors such as " Single parent / Divorcee Phobia " not sets in and etc,

My point is when it comes to infidelity in marriage,women are not compelled to tolerate it,but you have to do things sensibly and weight your actions,

So give it a thought girl friend. Marriage is full of ups and downs,  thats what makes it fun.

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