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Would This Be Okay In Your Relationship?

I want to ask how people who are in serious relationships or who are married would feel about this situation.

What if your partner went out late at night, drinking at a party, with another man or woman? Would this be okay with you? What if your partner tries to justify it by saying they are just friends, would that make it okay to you?

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I don't have a problem, can't baby sit a man 24/7 and by being in a r/s doesn't mean u can't have opposite sex friends. He needs to know how to control himself and make sure that it doesn't go beyond what he claims to be friendship and also know that I'm allowed to do the same, i mean as in going out with my male friends.

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hell no it ain't ok.

people do all sorts of things when they take alcohol,one thing might lead to another and . . .

it's better safe than sorry.

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wen its a situation where we are both courtin its okay to an extent 4 d fact that am not legally his wife, but in a case where we are already hus/wif, wit d kids or witout its not okey by me, nothin watsoever justifies dat action.

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spelling correction: schooling and commitment

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Is ok by me, all I know is my wife or girlfriend love me so much therefore whom ever cheat between us let god & Allah be the lawyer to judge.

The thing is if am worried about this then who knows when good things will come and go away, In life we"re all victim of circumstance one thing or the other lead to the next.

He or she may be a helper or sent from god, if there something going on between them like I said earlier on let god or Allah the greatest one that sees insde and out of anyone one of us be the judge, In the 21 century we in now no one has got the time to spying on what his or her partner is doing everyone is busy work, scooling commiment etc Trust is vital !

Due to bad word and abuses being use on some nairaland trend, please note this is what I think and may be different to what you think, please just make your reply count. cheers guys

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~ It's okay but I won't permit such ~

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sometimes the partner might be saying the truth "they are just friends" but the female counterparts would always look for a reason to fight the male. sometimes they go for divorce. tseeeeew!

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Hmmm. It would depend if I knew the person or not I think. If it were a girl I didn't know and it was one on one then honestly I wouldn't like it. I know he'd feel the same way if tables were turned.

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I don't drink so I don't think I can have a drinker as a girlfriend or wife. But if the situation is not ok with you, its time for a serious talk with your significant other, I'm a big fan of communication. Talk it out.

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WHATS UP WITH HAVING FEMALE FRIEND?! or is a dating/married man not "allowed" to have any?! he is with you and that is the only opposite sex friendship/company he should EVER have?!

woah?! its funny how women view this scenario as problematic. its the women INSECURITY that makes them think that this situation is NOT ok. what the hell did you think? so when a man start dating or get married, he has no right to have friends of the opposite sex? what about colleagues, cant he go for a drink with mixed or opposite sex colleagues after work? i guess the problem should be that women should therefore choose better who they want to lay with. do you really believe that a man should stop having friend the minute he dates/marries you or that he should ALWAYS bring your insecure Bottom along?! what kind of nonsense is that?!

grow up ladies and grow some balls! if you dont trust your man then you should therefore NEVER marry him!

my god where did they get these kind of women?! so if a man work , bring the cash at home, takes care and provides for his family BUT decides to have a drink with friends/colleagues after work once in a while, thats wrong?!

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personally if it was me in that situation and my husband or fiance went out to a party and drank with the oposite sex, No that wouldnt be ok. Just dont look right to me.

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Not really. If it were a scenario whereby we were both married and kids were in the picture. . .then i expect such partner to know that he's got responsibilities now and so shouldn't wait to be told so!

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