Hello nairaalanders!sometimes I wonder if it's wrong to be nice to gals.Every girl i v met left me or use it as an advantage when they notice my nice attitude to gals.The first galfriend i had in my first year in the University,1998 is getting married this weekend.We were just friends and no other thing attached. I kept on looking forward to when i shall settle down with her until i got the ugly news days back that she is wedding this weekend.
The second girl i got in my second year just told me that her friend in the states will be wedding her soon.She comes from the North to lagos for her paper processing.She sleeps in my house on the same bed with me each time she comes in,but no sex O! Recently,she told me that one of the reasons y we can't continue is because i'm nice to a fault,but she needs someone who could be hard a little bit.
But what i keep on asking myself is this; if she has really left me y should she continue sleeping in my house,because each time i see her i feel hurt.i feel like someone has taken away the person i really cared for,but i don't know how i could stop accomodating her when she comes arround to finalise processes getting her visa.I feel the help i'm rendering to her is what i could also do for a male friend and she can't be an exception since i really cared for her. But the most painful thing is that it takes me days to regain myself each time she leaves.She's the only one left in my life now and she's moving just as she told me " I can't change my mind rather God'll provide my kind"
What could you do if you find yourself in this tight shoe? Is it bad to be nice?