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Would You Forgive Her Again?

A friend caught his girlfriend in bed with his brother, and somehow he was sweet-talked into forgiving her. Then this time he caught her yet in bed with the same brother just 6 months later, and she's begging for forgiveness again.

Ordinarilly, the guy feels he should just kick the girl out of his life, but on second thought (on going down memory lane) he remembered how the girl had sacrificed so much to get him where he is today while she's a nobody and rejected by her relatives for going against them to hang on with him, and also the promises he made her that he would stick to her no matter what, and also how the girl forgave him when he was caught in bed right with her own friend back in those days when he was a nobody and how the girl forgave him inspite of his wrethedness.

Please help this guy out with your suggestions bearing in mind that he's the only family she now knows.

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its hard 2 live with the idea that your frnd has done your wife, talkless of brother.

abeg the solution, is if the guy is now a 'somebody' then he shld settle the girl for the days she was there for him

and get on with his life. it happened twice for godsakes, i wont even go on after the first one.haba. na the guy brother o.

he shld even stay clear of that his bro, the guy fit dupe or kill am 2moro.

who knows self, maybe she was sleeping around to feed him when he was down then, now sex don bcome her habit.

she will end up sleeping with the houseboy, driver, gateman, and bingo, when they get married.

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The guy is acting foolishly

He should forgive and forget her.

Theres too many faithful ones out there.

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Tough One.

It seems the guy feels indepted to the gal for sticking with him. But then, with family?!!! That kind of poo can tear the family apart, Is she trying to cos him the same pain she felt by her own family alienizing her 'cos of him.

The situation is not unresolvable but then the matter go tough.

1st trust is out.

2nd the must be some form of animousity for the brother (oe NOT!!!)

If they can find a common ground tho I bet it'll be a fantasy-like relationship; talk about overcoming the odds but u must ask urself, is it worth it?

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He can keep forgivin her till he is blue in the face.

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@poser,

I wonder the kind of family they will become, cheats! i guess

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Never I can never forgive. Twice!!!

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they both need counselling especially on their sex lives abeg someone had better get those two king sized Romance-Machines

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Well in this situation, since they both screwed up, I think they should have a serious talk with one another about where the relationship is heading and what they expect out of one another. Obviously they are playing games of cat and mouse. They need to forgive one another for their trespasses. Obviously they havent forgiven each other and trying to get back at one another. But, it needs to stop somewhere. They need to stop avoiding each other and going behind each other and have a serious talk.

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FAMILY my Bottom, TWICE my foot.

Do you know if that friend was like a sister to her?

I still remain of the opinion that he should keep her. Let them rot together!

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FAMILY. Thats the magic word.

TWICE!! Thats the iceberg that sinks the ship.

She is an unrepentant LovePeddler.

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Abeg, they fit each other jare.

She fucks his brother.

He fucks her friend.

Who is fooling who?

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Personally if I forgive her then I might as well start forgetting her because I'll find me another boo on the side to balance the equation. He only caught them twice, it may have been going on behind his back longer than he can imagine. And it may never stop.

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Of course, forgive her.

But just because you forgave her does not mean you can't dump her.

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Is that the way of women or just this one? Is there no hope that she can change?

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will forgive but will never forget .

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Hello Thoniaslim can u give me ur Ymsgr

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it all sounds too wrong to me. i think he should forget about her. is he going to stop his brother or his family from coming to his house? what thoughts will go through his mind whenever he sees his woman and his brother talking? i dont think he will ever be able to trust her and without trust there really is no relationship.

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Hi dearie!

i would recommend that your friend forgive her, but let her go.

Forgive her in the sense that he hold no grudges or bitterness against her.

But he should not continue with the relationship because of the person she was involved with - his brother!

if he continues to see her, she will continue to come in contact with his brother, not by design but because of the family connection. this will give opportunities for them to succumb to the 'temptations of the flesh', whether they planned to or not.

This will eventually lead to serious breakdown in the relationship with his brother (imagine if she becomes pregnant by the brother). the whole family can be split in two at best or someone could experience grievous bodily harm or death.

The alternative would be for him to break relationship with his brother to sustain the relationship. When the family eventually becomes aware of the reason for this, she will become persona nongrata - an outcast and an enemy trying to destroy the family.

The relationship is not worth the pain it will eventually cause.

he is not God, so his loss to her will not be the end of her life - who knows the pain of losing him might actually be what she needs to set her life straight.

Let her go- pray for her to get the right partner and also for her financial wellbeing.

let him forgive his brother - then talk to him.

he needs to forgive him first so that he can tell his brother how he feels about the issue without emotions clouding his judgment - we would not want them getting physical, anything could happen!

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i gess the guy shld forget abt her.he caught her 2wice!!! thats more than a mistake.is it because she has done alot 4 him.i beg tell ur guy 2 fashi her.

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Once bitten twice shy, now why would he do that?

she cheated once, she would do it again. duhhh,

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