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Would You Hack Into Your Gf/bf Web Profile To Know More About Them?

Would you login into your lovers email, or facebook without their knowledge just to know more about them. I'm not asking if i should cos i already did. And guess what i discovered, that she's still dating her supposed ex and even sending him money. she was also meeting a lot of random guys, sending them her number and saying she was single. I know a lot of you guys will be screaming that its wrong to invade someone's privacy but the truth is that it saves everybody a lot of trouble and time. I guess the US governmet does something similar too for terrorists. It's like a pre-serious-dating check and it worked well.

Yes, i know some others will say you should'nt be with someone if you can't trust them but again, people change and you can't trust anybody. For real. So, would you do the same?

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smetimes i do stumble on my bf's lappy, i just scroll thru his updates on fb jst to check up sme interestin stuffs, and i do that both in presence and absence but goin thru his inbox and sent mgs, i dont do that,

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Jay, just reading your posts seriously makes me feel that this earth is filled with all sorts of people and the results from that post seemed really bad. . . Guess in life, I nver thought of all these things on how would I be with my partner.

My bf and I have been best friends for 2 years and have been dating for 4 years and come to think of it. U are right about certain things. When you are open to your partner, u are able to know and find out what is both of your mistakes. I use to eat alot and alot without realizing that Im getting fatter nad fatter untill my bf told me to stop and he did not realize that having slightly longer dreadlocks ould makehim look like a gorrila because of his short neck. Things like that. . .

When we first started dating, I told him not to touch me (no sex, no touch, nothing) its because I was trying to get over my past but soon he told me that he was gettingfrustrated cause he was unable to touch me at least. I than tried to learn how to do MouthAction. For some, its bad but what else can I do? SHould I let him go through this for 4 years straight? If I were a mna, I know I wouldn't want that! So its just that I had to at least give him something to slighly clear his frustration. He than told me that although its not sex, but he was g;ad that I was willing to make some move and sacrifices.

He doesnt like sugar but unfortunately my familuy always cooks food containing sugar and he had to just eaqt it once in awhile when we visit my parents.

I guess in a relationship, both had to tolerate, be honest and try to make a change for each others sake. And above all of that, they should be trust.

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definitely not and whoever does that is a slowpoke.

on the other hand if sexual satisfaction is important to you then, after talking to your partner and understanding the problem, you should seek for a solution in a mature way.

some people might just live with it and dont bother about it while others might need/desire/want the satisfaction and therefore look for a solution.

there can be many solutions to this but ultimately one of them is to find someone with whom you can get the sexual satisfaction you require (it doesnt mean that you love your spouse any less), someone that can bring back the passion, the fire that you once had.

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I still hold the strong believe

The most important thing one needs in a relationship is comfort. Now sex is not the ultimate goal of a relationship. but comfort and companionship. and i have seen countless of guys who doesn't pressure their girl about sex. because they are comfortable with their companionship. A girl can give a guy all the sex in this world with the best position she knowns and the guy still goes outside to cheat. while some are in a relationship that they do not have sex and known is bothered on cheating on each other. most women easily get tired of their guy and lose the fire they used in starting the relationship. same thing happens to me. but the ultimate question i ask is that must you cheat because your partner cheats?

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oh yeah, dont get me wrong, i am just giving some reason why a man would cheat, as i said previously on this thread:

men (and women) dont cheat because of a particular reason, some do it because they are at a weak point of their life, others because they are upset and want to get back at someone, others because of peer pressure, others because they think they will never get caught and it is available AND MY FAVORITE because they can and want to. in most marriages, people cheating dont do it with someone who is particularly "better"qualitywise  than their spouse but just because its different.

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1) [/b]absolutely!! it all depends on who you are with and what kind of relationship you are in.

- to the man who married the girl from his village to please his parent but who is UNHAPPY in his life then cheating is the only way to go, if in the bedroom he doesnt get what he longs for.

- when 2people stay a long period together, if they dont upgrade their bedroom repertoire, they will get tired of each other without falling out of love for each other. then down the line cheating will be the only way [b]if neither of them want to address the problem openly.

- when 2 people are together and the woman is no more sexually attractive to that man (or vice versa) then down the line the man will have only one option but to cheat if neither of them want to address the problem openly

some people cheat because they need something in their lives that they dont get at home but they are not strong enough to let their partner know for fear of hurting/loosing them or just because they know what kind of psycho they are with. it could be right or wrong depending on who you talking to.

what is right for some might not be what is right for other. do what YOU believe is right and live by it do not judge others because of what they BELIEVE in.

2) i dont understand the question but i think what you have to understand is that not all people cheat because they saw someone do it.

some might but other have different reason for cheating, some good, some bad, some "right" some wrong. what you have to do is do what is right for you(at the time), no one else, not even your spouse.

3) you cannot say that. you again have to look at each individual.

- if a man asks his wife for something in the bedroom and she refuses stating that SHE doesnt like it then she is right, but she shouldnt blame her husband if he goes and look for it from someone else. who is the selfish/heartless one in this picture? the wife could be seen as the selfish one who only want to care for her needs and not those of her spouse.

- if a woman marries a man for his money and status then she has to accept that she is just a "property" and therefore that man has all the rights to do what he pleases in this relationship. she might try to upgrade to thewife status but we all know what she really is and would ever be. is he selfish or heartless, i dont think so.

weakness and stupidity are the only 2 MAJOR reason why men cheat. of course some are selfish and heartless but you cannot put them all under that "umbrella"

hey dont worry, we are only sharing ideas, which is ok. remember, i am not saying that this is the ultimate right that everyone has to abide by, i am just trying to let you see how me (a man) looks at it.

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Jay, you are my type of guy. Many guy/babes stay here and say what they do not know don't kill them, dat is the biggest lie. if ur trusted girl/guy decides to flirt a little and comes in contact with the wrong person and in the process carried std or HIV and you know you are truthful to her and she is the only one you have, abeg tell me will you not ignorantly contact such disease and die of it. Its better you know the destination you are heading to and use your map to decide for yourself than not knowing where you are going to at all.

On the hacking process and digging up info. I am a very curious person and if i decide you give you my word or being faithful to you. I will search,find,seek and beg for all the informations i can find about you. and trust me i will surely give you mine. because i know i will be commited to you. people are not to be trusted(including me) and if you do not find written evidence against them, they will still deny it in your presence.

experiment: find out info about your babe or guy, just keep the information, ask the person about that particular information and the kind lie wey the person go give you eh, you will hate the person. so i will advice you find out about your girl or guy. xcept if both of you are friends with benefits alone

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i have always known the difference between right or wrong.

you have to look at each individual before looking at it as "right or wrong" and we all know that what may be right for some, can be wrong for others, OR what may be right today, might not be right tomorrow.

its all about doing what YOU believe is right at the time and live with the consequences of that action.

if a partner decides to cheat on me then its because they were weak at that point and i will take it as just that. if i never cheated all my life, someone could still come in my life and cheat on me.

nobody is perfect and therefore if my partner cheats on me then i will have to look at her individually and find out what happened within her that made her do it.

any person that will cheat just because someone did it before is a fool. do it because you want to/you need to but dont do it unwillingly just for spite/revenge.

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Im glad you know the difference between right and wrong now Jay but let me tell u something about life. I believe that in life, whatever you do, theres always a price to pay. Do you suppose your partner cheated on you its because you cheated on others?

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MANY TIMES. i am not perfect and will never claim to be.

i am human and as much as i would like not to, i have cheated when i was younger and less "forward" in my relationship.

any man who can turn down a beautiful sexy Unclad women is stronger than the most of us men.

its been a while since i have cheated on my partners because i am totally honest with them these days(a man who doesnt learn from his mistake is a fool!!!!!), they know what kind of freak they got and i will never pretend to be someone i am not.

people have to accept me the way i am (like i accept them the way they are) if for any reasons there is no compatibility then we do not need to go any further as my sexual life is high there as anything else in my life.

it is not THE most important thing but it is needed to make my"engine" function right.

also cheating is not really the main issue but what you do after you did the act (whatever that may be) some people will try to hide it while i wouldnt and instead would come clean. it wouldnt change anything about the cheating but it would let that person decide if they want to carry on being with me, knowing full well of what i did.

ps: this happened a few time when i was in my transition from being who i am today.

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Jay, have u ever fall weak?

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I won't do that for a million dollar,

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Trust is the altimate in every relationship. I will rather trust than to be probing into her personal life. However, if suspicion has become the order of the day, and chance avail itself, then I will gladly do to know my stand.

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for sure I wuld hack and hack and hack because most girls are never to br trusted, infact that's the biggest mistake one can make

ma guyzzzzzzzzz plssssssss always shine your eyes

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Yehp sure would. Sounds like fun. Especially when the suspicions come creeping in and when all else fails.

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I would, infact I did. He used 2 show me his conv when I'm with him wit da gals he ws chtn wit on person.com & he used 2 tell them that his got a wife so i got curious abt wt he says wn im nt around so i guessed his password the other day & boom i was in. Didn't find much though but I did suspend his account & till today he never restore it. But I did find juicy stuff wn he forgot & left his yahoo acct open the other day but instead of being annoyed & angry it was jus 2 funny 4 me. Da gal had send him her pix(if u'd seen them u'd laugh 2).

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trust is the basis of any relationship, i have nothing to hide, therefore,

i should expect my girl to be open with me,

its a sacrifice she has to make, if you wanna be secretive please find your way.

I'd rather know the truth sooner than later.

and like I'd always say, I'd kick her out the moment i catch her, no excuse

i have never asked a lady to make a sacrifice I'm not willing to make myself.

if i ask for openness then thats exactly what I'd give.

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ROTFLMAO that will serve him right especially if he was sweet talking you too: I LUV U bla bla bla

i had a "girl" who was always on one of these english chat websites back in China so i did a profile with some fancy name and contacted her. i told her i was a wealthy man from NY who was in Beijing for business, looking for some girls to take out for HEAVY shopping and sex thereafter at my hotel "suite".

she fell right in the trap giving me her number etc. the silly part was that i (the NY business man) gave her an appointment for "shopping and sex" at the same time she was suppose to meet me. guess what? she called me and cancel our plans citing extra shifts at work.

some people just think they are clever and can only learn the HARD way!!!!

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Yes i wuld n i did same tin wit my x, Even used a dif username to chat wit hm. It took me 6months n d came down from australia 2meet hs new catch n found out it was me. Lol. Broke u wit hm bt not witout sendin al d girls he dates online hs info n d pasword to all hs id. I dint love hm doe.

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I will never ever do it because I would expect the same treatment given to me so no but the thing is that I love sharing all my stuff with my bf and he knows my facebook account, he knows Im on NL and he knows Im on Lefora, , I always show him my Mobile messages and my email as well. He does the same for me as well. Thats why we always share food and drinks all the time as well.

Like they say, theres love in sharing.

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@OP,

I did that once and it drove me crazy trying to monitor his email accounts and catch him cheating. I caught him cheating but after that I vowed to never do it again.

Truth is the truth always comes to light. And when it does it does I deal with it then. maybe that is because I am not afraid to walk away if the person cheats.

I think that if you have fear of walking away you drive yourself crazy looking for signs that they are faithful.

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That all depends on how long we have been dating and where our r/s is going.

a woman just cant go around handing out her password.

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there are too many tools out there to get a person's password on ANY of their profiles and know what they are up to. the deal is to be aware that what you might find could shock you.

i have and i will snoop inside a person's emails, profiles, msn etc IF i feel that this person is not being completely honest with me. if i have no reason to believe foul play then i will let it be. people generally dont delete old emails and they are a goldmine for infos.

i have taken msn passwords before and even chatted with people who thought it was them.

i remember once i had a girl who would stay at my crib while i was at work and chat on msn on my computer but always delete her chat history, not knowing that i had a software that took a picture of the screen (every30sec) and everything she typed was saved. perfect for the msn chats. my home is bosom trapped from the basement to the roof.

once i had an ex who fukced with my "prized possession" because she was a sick fukc. i changed the passwords to ALL her life (msn, yahoo, facebook, myspace) and deleted all her contacts. till this day she thinks it was a virus, dumbass!

ps: if you do that, dont forget to change the security question as well as the alternate email.

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curiosity kill quicker than rat poison

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That's how it should be

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i feel you. as for me and my gurl, we don't hide anything from each other. recently i gave my gf my password to my facebook profile when i needed something from there.after sending me what i wanted, i guess she snooped through my inbox and she was so surprised at me the way i refuse gurls that show interest in me and she was like i am too harsh in turning down girls that and that i shud be polite with them.

to me, if you are sincere with your partner it is not a big deal for them to have your password and id. it is only when you have something to hide that you will refuse your partner your password

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I've already done it.infact it was three days ago.being a jealous guy,i recieve the worst emotional breakdown of my life.SHE WAS DATING HER EX-BOYFRIEND

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Lol, if he's heartless. . then isn't that you're answer?

Wow, that's degrading. The only thing about hacking is the guilt - even when they are guilty, there is no way for you to really defend an argument because technically you're not supposed to know about the 20 other boyfriends or the sexy pictures she's been sending to her sugar daddies.

If only people were honest, we wouldn't have these problems.

I have found out so much that has given me insight into people. I don't currently hack, or have done for years now, however, I have asked friends about what they've seen (behind my back) of certain guys.

I've also found out things that have given me insight into why a certain guy is having commitment problems. I call it research. I don't like it when I'm being honest and the other person is being dishonest, and just don't want to seem psycho if I break up, but don't have any concrete reason.

I guess people who hack are skeptical, they want to be reassured, as it's that whole situation of 'fool me once, shame on me, fool me twice, '

Although I don't hack I do still check the profile of my ex's facebook account, but that has helped me A LOT!!

Hacking confirms or discards suspicions, it's like feedback.

Am I insecure. . well yes, aren't we all to some extent - be it checking a page that's been left on the computer, or asking for some kind of proof from the spouse, or answering their mobile, we've all done things along the same line. . I think

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I hack into their profiles anyhow. I even hack into profiles of women i see and get their names or those i meet through blind dates or phones. Its always good 2 get a woman's secret so as to use it against her while i make sure i sanctify, protect and firewall any thing about me so that she is kept in the dark!

Its better that way so that your always on top and one step above that LovePeddler!

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If you are spying, drill or doing whatever on your partner's online account, what do you intend to find out? Aren't you just doing that to find out what might surprise you? Well, that's what you get when you try to find out beyond what you should know. I'm flying in the face of checking my girl's accounts online or wherever. If she thinks I should know, then she will tell me --- it's just as if you're asking your girlfriend how many men she has slept with, believe me no matter what she tells you will be too hot for you to handle.

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I used hack to mean checking without their knowledge or permission. I was just able to guess the password correctly from a finite number of options. Something you're most likely to find out if you're still with the person. When you break up, it might be too difficult to get.

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@poster, I don't blame u, things are revealed in mysterious ways. snooping is not good but if ur gf/bf is supposedly clean, what is there to hide??

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how can u hack into an account, it mite b useful 4 me 2 see or have more ideas y dis heartless bf of mine could brek up wit me.

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I would and I have, but only because I don't have much self-control in that area. Once I'm committed to someone, I won't be checking anything of theirs, I'll leave it to their conscious to do the guilt and nagging for me.

On the other hand, if I'm dating someone and they break my trust I will probably just stop wasting my time with them. It takes a lot to get me mad, and if I've decided to leave, usually it's because I'm thinking with my rational brain - doing what's best for me. I would have given them enough chance to redeem and prove to me, I will only leave if the situation does not improve.

About checking personal information. I actually have lines drawn at different areas, not one giant line drawn for personal stuff, I will never look at bank accounts - because I trust he will tell me everything I need to know if we're married or together long term, I will never read letters or emails. However, something like facebook or hi5, if given the password I'd probably log in a few times just to be nosey.

If we break up for any reason, I'm the type to still try and log onto or gain access to his personal details, find out his whereabouts e.t.c.

I've been trying to deal with this, but I just can't help it, I just want to have a heads up, who I'm bumping into, whether the story corrolates, because I've had a lot of people tell me things to try and not hurt my feelings, like exs telling me that they cry because they know they've lost the best thing, but then on their profile they've got a girl kissing them on the cheek and are flirty with several girls e.t.c.

I have this habit of checking the confirmed guests of an event I'm planning on attending, just to make sure where I stand. I don't do it all the time, but if I remember, I'll do it.

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Maybe not psychologically but physically

Wait, I'm i the only abnormal person here.

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I've learnt that what you don't know won't hurt you. . .and nothing is hidden under the sun. . .the truth definitely reveals itself at the right moment!

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not at all why would I do such thing? he's my boyfriend I don't have to check his profile on the net to know more about him.

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Nope! I won't! I don't want to receive the shock of my life!!!

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@ Poster- You're living proof as to why nobody should be trusted.

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