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Would You Marry A Guy Who Hits You ?

ladies,what will you do if your boyfriend/fiance hits u? break up with him?go on with the relationship? or will you marry him if he proposes? u know,i have even seen ladies who slap their boyfriends when they get really mad,,,and vice-versa,what if ur guy does it in anger,then apologises and promise never to do it again?

and to the marrieds,,,what if ur spouse hits u? will you divorce him or will you forgive him,and stay married to him?

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Never, God forbid bad thing

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would you stick your hand in the mouth of a lion?

ah ah, ladies don try this one oooh unless you a ready to learn boxing

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@ topic, Wow. Y in the world world would a man raise his hand on a woman (and vice versa). There's no justification for such a behavior. I cant comprehend what people think b/f or when they beat others. Its surprising that these 'strong' men dont join the WWE, UFC or fight other men. If a man that beats or bullies women meets a woman that will DEAL with him, usually, he ends up being as gentle as a new born babe.

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Violence's not the answer!!!!

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@j-girl, so "No Air" by Jordin and Chris is your weak point?

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I stand for the truth. I don't need 22 carats of anything.

My sweetheart already got me those. I need wayyyyyyyyyyyyy more than that to be bribed. Something Jackal can't afford.

What kind of evil men do we have on NL? I'm scared o! At this rate - I'll drop Sly as my brother.

Yeye playa!

Sly - I'm going to disown you if you don't behave yourself oooO!

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Cadet are you going to be Stephens 3rd of 4th wife?

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. . . . . abeg the topic na woman matter jo make i waka leave them.

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Stephen thats what I'm saying.  No point marrying a strong male if you are a mad black woman who wont shut up and wants to be heard 24/7

We can all lie (females) and say its not true but we love a strong arrogant (within reason) male it drives us mad.  But can you really live with one 24/7 or were you just thinking with your c*it?

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LadyT, I agree with you to some extent. But some women deliberately make it so hard for their men to live in peace. Did you see "Tyler Perry's Why Did I Get Married?" Remember that woman that would constantly argue with her husband for no reason? Some women are actually like that. I think everyone needs to work themselves; the guys should know everything does not have to end physically and women should know when to calm down and hold their tongue for peace's sake.

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Lady T, thanks dear. God knows what I can take and what I can't.

I'm not one who worships men or even marriage. There's so much in life to be enjoyed than patching up with a raging lunatic all the time. Only a silly woman would do that.

I'm not saying there won't be tough arguments that may lead to a man wanting to slap/hit but hang on, you can simply break something around you if you can't control yourself.

Anyway, I don't know about other women but certainly I won't condone beating for whatever reason. Only horses are beaten and I ain't one.

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abi o. Some men are just plain bastards, period

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WAIT!!!!!!!!

EVERYBODY WAIT!!!

Look if you marry a typical Nigerian guy Radiant my darling you aint cutting no shrubs.

Look before screaming and shouting the odds what kind of guy are you marrying?

Most guys will see themselves as head of the household.  

If a woman marries a guy like that don't start snapping neck when he wants to flex his muscles and put his foot down and scream he is boss.

I'm not saying some men are not just plain bastards who beat women up.  

But others have such big egos a modern woman would be the wrong woman she would have too much to say.

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@ Pahtahkee,

So how would u fight a woman's aggression? DIALOGUE??

A lass once poured a full glass of wine on me face in a posh restaurant one night.

My offence: I was staring at anutha woman. . . . . .Can u bleeping believe that?

I was so embarrassed, not because of the flush of cold drink but the fact that all eyez were on me. . . . . .

As a Chacal, i stormed out of the room and got meself dried up somewhere with ma heart in me mouth and plotting on what to do.

Reaching a decision, i went back in. . . . . sat me Bottom on the chair, moved closer to the chic and delivered a well-wrapped slap.

Got off me seat, went to the counter, paid and stormed out of the building.

THAT TO ME WAS CLASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  If u are stuck with a woman who is silly enough to disgrace herself in public, u are well in your rights to disgrace her too. An eye for an eye!

@ StephenP

You cannot mix the 2 worlds. . . . . . .Leave Nigerian setting in Nigera and the western world for the western world.

We can all talk about domestic violence in Nigeria  and blame the men but have u really considered what these women do in the background. . .

They get diabolical, take pictures, pubic hair and their husband's undies to a herbalist. . . .

An extreme measure has to be deployed for extreme cases . . . . . .These things even up.

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So what if they are extreme? It doesn't change the fact that it happened and still happens. Go to any Nigerian newspaper website and read their reports. Everyday, there is always a story about domestic violence, and most of them are men beating up their wives, or bathing them in acid or even killing them. What I cited wasn't extreme at all.

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them they ask men wey dey beat women if e good or bad,some say e no good to beat woman some say e good,so them still dey debate

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It's kinda funny how we can separate the good guys from the bad guys on this thread.

Any man that hits a woman, in my opinion, is a coward.

Any woman that hits a man is just darn silly.

Hitting doesn't make the marriage or relationship better. It just makes it worse because soon the love among them becomes fear and fear will definitely make the partners both unhappy.

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She has no one. She can't run to her husband's family because they would force her back to her husband's house. She can't go home to her family because as far as they are concerned, they have married her off and have had their bride price so she is no longer their "problem". Yet, she has 4-5 kids she needs to feed and protect. It's so depressing.

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Sadly this happens most often in Nigeria, and who is the wife suppose to run to?

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I don't agree with you. Some men seize every opportunity to beat their wives. For example:

Wife: Darling, I got promoted at work. I might be working late.

Husband: What?! *Beats her*

Wife: I had a baby girl

Husband: What?! *Beats her*

Wife: I want to go to college and get a better job

Husband: No

She begs

He beats her.

It's really got to stop.

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anyway except d woman pathakee beats is a mugu,if d woman is an open eye woman,all she has to do is grab him on his thirdleg(which is his life)and slam him on d ground wt no mercy

anu mpam

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y dont u kill her instead of slaping her

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wen it comes to husband and wife matter 1+1 is always equalled to 1

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You should be ashamed *flings a dirty rag on Jack's face*

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@ Radiant,

I won't let that slide. . . .

U know what u gotta do.

@ Pahtahkee,

To be honest, some women are bleeping idiots and trust me, those ones deserve to be slapped repeatedly to tuck senses in their craniums.

Some women behave emselves with just an eye contact/body language. . . .some would stop their madness with just one warning.

However, some are just too stubborn and daring and wont budge until u slap hell outta their faces.

A man gast to do what he has to do to control every situation. . . . .If i happen to marry a goat of a woman, she wld be slapped everytime if that is the only thing that can put her in CHECK!!!!!!!

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Good point, but since 1 + 1 isnt always equal to 2, what would you do if it ever mistakenly happens to you?

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@ 4him. . . not sayin we r not humans but also dere r other ways in lettin d anger out rather than hittin d woman u call a wife abi she's ur punchin bag ni? Or beta still it shld be vice 2. if d woman gets anger she should hit her husband in other 2 let d anger out?

D bottom line is "Hitting" an individual in error or otherwise shouldnt be condoled. regardless of who does d hittin 1st.

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We're talking about husbands and wife. Not just BF/GF . A man physically abuse the mother of his children? Haba!

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in an ideal situation, one should work away but u are asking for trouble if u physically instigate someone.

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i agree wt u cadet,but as long as you're married and have kids u can't live d room for d guy,because kids this days are very smart,and u know it will be a bad example for them,for your kids to know u have issues wt their father,and as for leaving d room,ah ah what if d man at d end of d day congee dey hold am and his wife is not available to give it to him,im sure he will seek help outside from another woman,and its going to be a very bad thing to hear that a man left his wife because she refused him sex,at d end of d day,d man that slapped u,wont be blamed,but d whole blame will go to u

i believe when such a thing happens ,both parties needs to sit down and talk,because women r fragile and a slap on d cheeks with the veins connecting it ,can send a woman back to her creator without delay

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Of course I won't marry a guy who hits me when I'm not about to be killed. Anyman who tries to lay a hand on me will see my red eye because i'll fight it out till one of us dies.

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LadY Thrash,

Where the f.uck were you when your bush baby bash came attacking me, You stinking ugly LovePeddler, Older than who? What the hell you know about me?

You gullible bat, Ask your chimp pally, what I look like, Yes check my YIM el_jay74(again you dumbos, 74 is sentimental to the DIVA, NOt my birth year)

Now you miss runny womanliness get back to your cave, I am leaving for home now, but will be back for your uglyassll

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what if the woman hits him first, then he is justified to defend himself. and yeah things happen that can push a man to madness.

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that, my dear, happens in many many homes. I'm glad you at least admit that most times the woman is perhaps at fault, i'm not saying you shld slap your wife if she nags but a woman's tongue can literarily push a man over the edge.

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4Him the only way he would be justified is if she was nagging him and pushing and shoving him!

Im sorry too bad you lost your job and you are stressed.  As a unit (husband and wife) I will be just as stressed as you.  I dont go round slapping faces!

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Don't mess with me on this topic. reply the topic and dnt start your love dialogue again. You can't resist me abi? Ekiti loveware!

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Scenarios occur that we cant really explain. I see men who have probably lost a job, are frustrated, cant cope with the pressue outside and at home. They snap, before they can collect themselves they've landed a slap on the woman's face.

Would you divorce him?

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There's no way he could have slapped her in error. Not even if he was drunk as poo.

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In error? In error? Slap the mother of his children in error? That's the greatest "error".

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cadet came crawling back to me even after i hurled her into the garbage truck.

seriously though, from what i've seen/heard most women would condone it until they reach a breaking point.

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What do you mean by "in error"?

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This is sooooooooooooooooooooo bloody boring!

Every topic you are involved in gets turned into the Islander freak show.

CALM DOWN Look you are a grown woman about 7 years my senior I suggest you respect yourself.  You yapping on here but in reality outside this cyber world you would not say poo or do poo.  So just shut poo up.

@topic people do dumb stuff in a rage.  You will have to look at the situation as a whole

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Why do some posters here feel the need to flare up at any comment? Why can't they just say "Oh, that guy/girl called me this and I am just going to overlook it"? It's really not that hard.

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@ 4him . . . . based on your question y would d husband ever have d thought of raisin his hand on his wife after 3kids and that extended length of marriage? Do u think she really needs 2 wait 2 find out if he's a chronic abuser?

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just suppose it ever happened that he slapped you in error?

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Let me get one thing straight here, What exactly is bugging you? Just need to get that clear,

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How can one who've NEVER had a woman or even touched one until they were almost 25, give advice on such? LOL,

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Mr.Agricultural science graduate, I went back to read, just to make sure if aNY of my posts were directed to you, and so far I haven't foulnd any, Erhhmmm

Show me where has your "intellectually inclined brains" taken you? LOL, Don't worry I pity you a few goods for the holidays,

Now honestly, get lost goat, you are too "dark" for my liking,

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madam dont bother replying if you're so not bothered. its not rocket science. Allow people with brains to contribute pls.

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